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To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, you sure know which laws states that statement of fact. Our times has brought about so many behaviors from these brothers of ours we relate with, it's good to know what happens around you and guard your heart from all manners of heart breaks. The list is endless but I will try and limit it to the most vulnerable and well practiced acts they are inclined with, so you can aviod stories that touches the '' mpuruobim'' and fiam that will make you say all men are the same. Its better you know and avoid such than to be deformed with knowledge and cry out your sanity, all men are not the same, some are bad and some are good, so too the women fold, just be in the know.  THE BOREDOM GUYS... These set of guys will never contribute a penny to your data life,they call you at will and can be on call with you for hours, saying nothing, infact they are known to use you to kill boredom and they never have anything meaningful

She is BOLD She is BRILLIANT She is BEAUTIFUL If she possesses those traits and attributes forget it she won't make a good wife, more so when she is very beautiful and outspoken its a NO NO, she will be chased by many and you can never have her to yourself, they are highly promiscuous, and because she is very brilliant, the tendency that she will make more money than you, make its so bad for you, it won't be nice to be in competition with your wife. Most ladies who has all the listed attributes are not good wife materials, they are not submissive and they are very heady, they chose to do what they love alone and they are so bossy. My dear brother run far away from them, infact the list is so endless compared to the things I have seen and heard about them, just settle for any woman that has least attributes, after all "woman na woman". As I sat down to listen to these men chat in a public bus, while we were all heading to our destination, I just shaked my head i

My love My bea My heartbeat My sweetness My world My everything My muse My darling. My queen  My forever Kai the list is so endless, the names are so unlimited to count and more so, there are still more added, men are so scared of commitments yet the want everything but don't want to do nothing,. They are so ready to ask you questions like, how are you, did you sleep well, how was your nigth,what did you have for dinner, did you miss me, blah blah, they can easily come up with heavy excuses and still feel cool about it, they easily have something to say. Baby send me your pictures Baby what are you wearing Baby show me somethings Baby am honey, am straved Jesss, what in the world have we not heard, yet they won't lift a finger to type do you need anything, how have you being coping, what can I do to help, is there anything I can support you with no matter how little, I just want to be part of your life and make a difference no matter what tomorrow holds for us. Alright, let'

A guy once asked me. Vivian what do you want in life? And I told him, am talented enough to get what I want and smart enough to make it happen. The sucker stopped talking to me. 😂😂 😂 Hahaha the way I laughed, heads up, the moment is here, getting little attension. It's all about the passion and the drive  the drill gets you balanced It will move you and you will feel it, hmm, when you feel broken, you barely hold on, you could be down but you get up again. Been brought to my knees.pushed to the piont of breaking, she says, you haven't seen the last of me, its far form over. Don't count her out so fast, it's hard to say who she is, because she was built tough and wears a skin to hard to crack.  She is an ocean.......Too wild to behold  She is the deep....... Too far to catch a glimpse  She is the sky...........Too high to climb  She is the earth........Too bold to hold forth She is the air............ Too ligth to break in She is the force.........Too tough to push  S

We got talking the other day, he succeeded in making me look like a rabel, when he claims to tell me am his label. How do you mean I asked her, my dear sister there is more to what a man wants form you and there is also more to what a woman truly wants from you she says. I asked again please can you help me differentiate between being a LABEL and a REBEL I asked her. Its very simple my dear sister, to be Rebel, they posses these traits.  When you are rebel to him or her: *they complain about the least trival things.  *they have noting to offer you at all.  *they are only sex prone.  *they are always quick for a fight and query.  *they will never offer you help even if they have it all.  *they are highly antagonist and will never want to see you process more than them.  *they are just absolute time wasters and good for nothing *they are living hell on earth as partners in relationship. *They are very draining, never do well kind of attitude they portray .  My dear, with those few piont

When you are hungry for something, you will do all you can to get it and you won't take it for granted. What is that somethings? To many of us, our somethings could be anything but for example, a man who longs to get married to a peaceful, loving and caring woman will do anything it takes to get her, most especially if he has been in a wrong relationship all his life, when he meets someone that posses these values, he won't take her for granted. Again, a woman who is of age and has probably been battered over the years with abusive relationship and even possibly given up on any form of relationship so to say, probably meets someone who values her and will go any length to give her the best in life, such woman will forever worship that man. So, it is to other needs and wants of life, we drool with, when we eventually get them, we treasure them like our lives depends on them. So sadly, many take so many valuable things for granted, maybe because they got them on the platter of go

This piece got me cracky each time I recall the events that surrounds it. Okies, some times ago when I worked on the island, I had a friend we drove home together but he stays in a different location enroute my house, so he drops me in a near by bustop, so I can take the next available bus home. So on this day, he dropped me off as usual and I waited to get the next bus, but on this fateful day, no bus was forth coming, so I decided to walk down some few meters to see if more people were alighting at the next bustop. Boom, I was at the popular Allen junction, as at that then I never knew that the spot where I stood waiting for a bus at 7pm Nigerian time was where the so called prostitutes in Allen stood for their usual pick ups. Though I saw some girls behind me but my mind never went to them as prostitute, because they were far off from me, so while I stood there, different private cars were stopping rigth in front of me, and I just wave them off and told that am not going their way a

Many won't ever learn from situations that befalls them, they are so carried away chasing what is not in there lane. To some, many wants to have a little chance to prove to you why they should be in your life and they will never ever get that moment, while some are busy chasing those who don't want them at all. More so, we have some other people who are in your life but they don't value you at all, rather they ignore you and make your effort fruitless, just look closely you will find an open hand, waiting for an embrace, someone who values your person and is ready to give you the world. Often times, we want it all prefect, we want it all rosy, we don't ever want to compromise our standards, but be reminded that we can't have it all, no one ever has it all... Find reasons to fall.. See reasons to interest your person, lower your guard and search for a diamond in a cloudy heart, none is that bad that he can't be loved and none is that perfect that seeks to be love

I had it all worked out I need a push Heavens bear me witness.  Just a little push, like a mentor will say, do it and take the chance you never can tell what happens.  I reached for the strength but my guts failed me, i stretched and eventually wasted my time, what a Shame on me.  Then a little smile was so close by watching my fruitless effort and each I pushed, it smiled better.  Then I reached out again and saw it was encouraging me to win and not just win but to make it saor in bliss.  While I kept trying, the smile became better, oh, I have a last push, because I wanted the creature to fly away in bliss And then... My time came, the jinx got broken and I screamed in excitement, oh almost then, the creature sang also and flew away.  I was glad I had an unknown companion, a friend I wanted to win too, the smile it sent to me made me strengthened. I won I over came I become conscious I lived to recount the phase If you must win.. Win big 

I have a similar post like this one before but there is a need to buttress the fact that as we go forth in life we need change with time and get our guards on. Be intensional with your life, most especially in the now, a lot of things are going on and one can't shy away from the part of ignorance and i don't care attitude, take charge of your life and be responsible, dont be influenced by the haze and show offs on all sides most especially on social media, be accountable for your life. Be intensional about your spirituality, you were not thrown into the world, you came into the world from a process and certainly you will return by another process your maker will decide, but meanwhile, no matter how you frown or argue this part, you will give account to him someday, make sure you make your part aligned with his will. Be intensional about family values, many easily forget that the family sets pace fornwhat we see happening in the society today , we all makes up the society fr

How our minds wonder from the realities Its soar beyond the tune of songs  We are our own songs  Funny how it plays, without a drum  We go about singing to the rhymes  Who knows about our songs.  The push, the hush and the pains  It sets in and we are belittled by our own fears and hope for a dawn The challenges are so much to count The fears steering at our faces and yet we uphold the dignity of standing strong  Dont be overshadowed and  lose guard of yourself, the pains are only but temporal and soon it will fade off, don't worry  Help is on the way, soonest it will get to you, all you need do is to stay above your pains and see them as nothing at all.  Your life might be the only reason someone is living and excelling in hope, your Atitude might be someone's sustainable defence.  Hold onto the good virtues, its very rare to find these days and the projections are far to understand, but still hold on.  I speak to a soul, don't allown the phase to eat you up, glow in the f

Time alloted to you could be a 100, 70, 40 years and for some much less and as each day and seconds draws closer, we keep getting closer to our grave, make sure you are traveling down there productively.  Time they say waits for nobody, no matter who you are, rich or poor, young or old, handsome or ugly, set your priorities rigth, manage your time well and don't use another person's time to set yours, we could be in the same location but operate in different time frames, envy no one. Budget your time and also set goals in your budget, it will help you differentiate the important things from the urgent things and also help you concentrate on doing the important things rather than the urgent things. Never allow the important things become urgent things, else you will be in trouble, properly manage what you have, it will help you have more, your time is highly valuable even when you don't have something doing, find something within your confinement to keep you busy and train y

We usually feel life happens only within our lives, we forget so soon that life happens else where too. The same or similar challenges you are facing now is the same some other people are facing too, the fears, the odds, the doubts, the worries, someother persons has probably passed through it or are currently undergoing the same fuss with you, but in a different location. Someone is living in the heat, another in the cold, some in the waters, even some in space, we all have our stories to tell, similar or different as it seems, yet life happens to us all. Our stories can either define us or make us better than what life has given to us, the struggle is real and the figths dirty, yet some comes out Victorious against all odds of life, while some are swallowed in the pains of life. Every one with his or her own unique stories, very different indeed, we go about with a smile, so sheepishly while our battles are reckoning before us, who do we complain to, who has no fears or challenges of

Like a small boat in a big ocean, that's my figth, tussle it out the wind says.. I still got a lot of fire left in me, am never afraid of being myself. You can take everything I have, but you only leave me Standing stronger. Do it because I believe in you like a skyscraper stands, its okay not to be okay, stand strong but don't lose it.. Oh when I cry I become much stronger.  Admist the struggles I faced The fears I see and over came.  The hope of another day and the future I fought for.I see my own death, I wiped for my generation and my unborn. But when my death comes, I know I secured a future of bliss and a hope for tomorrow.. As I mourn my death, the flames of fire grows weak and can't consume my soul knowing am prepared for my death, I make ammends with my maker and heaven awaits me. Many are scared of the afterlife, none wants to talk about it, yet inevitable as it is, don't allow the glories of the now be cloud your actions, make quick the reconciliation with yo

Indeed I was so perplexed thinking and getting worried about life necessities. I told my self I was a failure and I was wondering why I should keep living. I counted my pangs and pains before me and alas I hated the fears so much and I was wondering if I could come out of this mess life has brought me.  Just by the corner, I decided to distract myself and stumbled at a post online, a video so touching, basically about some people who were involved in a gas explosion, in an excurtiating pains and begging to live, he made me see reasons to be thankful for my fears and worry less about life's predicament. I surfaced out of my shell and became thankful for my life and the worries I found myself. Life is indeed is nothing without the pains and fears, life is nothing without the challenges we go through to become better people. Human life is indeed like a truck full of issues, we find in various places and situations inevitable, yet life goes on. I wemt on my knees and thanked God for pr

Love is powerful, love is magical 🧝‍♂️, its a force, its magnetic, its mysterious and its divine.  It does not make sence to break up but don't start it at all. Love is not said, it comes up in the face, in the acts, in the excitements, oh, the words fail me again. I don't know how to love you, except by showing you, how I care.  At the piont when I have decided to write the words, my ink finished, then I added water to make it write. I just want to say I love you.  When you say the opposite of what you wanted to say love pulls back does words.  My heart pounds, my lips wiggles, I lost the words, how can I do this to myself, do I need to say this, its hard to love. Many a time we love does that does not want us to see their weakness, the pain hurts more.  The fears of losing our hearts to love makes us conscious us of whom to love, the heart bleeds when in love and hurts like hell when burnt in love Never get lost in love, no matter what happens, the consequences is more pain

Nothing stands against bravery, critical life situations are always real, every one wants to live, but the challenges of life can be mostly i unfair.  Looks like the poor and helpless are always in the game of losing, but even at that, you never can imagine the strength that lies within when you confronts your fears. A buffalo was chased in the wild by a tiger, he ran untill he saw a river and jumped into it, while it was getting its grip, little did it know that a crocodile was in the river waiting for its prey, he struggled again to survive, Oh, the poor thing, it was so big in its size but that was not essential, he needed to survive, it fought through its pains, lost a leg and still survived. In life we are faced with a lot that comes our way, yet when we are seen through the pain. We look better like we never saw pain. Survival is key, like a jungle figth, we figth daily, every minute is like war. It is hard to survive, oh survival is for the fittest, the gory, the pain,the fears,

I have tried not to write about this but each time I come online I read pathetic stories on this special package and its lots. They come with so many names and, we cant shy away from this evil in broad day ligth. Many will tell you, it has existed before now, its just the avenues, that makes it looks different. Why on earth will a woman be comfortable to use charms to hold down a man for selfish gains, it comes in different names Kayamanta Special packages Sweet wet pussy Blue eyes Stingy holder The list is so endless, but I will say this and I know many of those involved will hate me, but the hard truth be told, it is wrong, it is demonic and satanic. Woman of all sorts, married women to their husbands, single ladies to their man friends (married or unmarried) even students to aristos, then you start to ask questions, what excatly is going on. When they eventually say, you will hear things like I cant lose him to another woman.  He is too stingy.  I can't share him with others.  I

Cut my hands away from me, cut my legs away from me….I stand for TRUE LOVE Thrown me to the deepest sea, throw me into a furnace, I stand for TRUE LOVE Make me stay in the wilderness, tie me to the forest tress…I stand for TRUE LOVE Burn me into ashes; fry me in great oil….. I stand for TRUE LOVE Who can imagine what I imagine, who can see what I have seen, who can say what I have said… When everything about me passes away with the flood of life, it is only and only my TRUE LOVE that can stay.   But nobody believes, not even the one I gave all my TRUE LOVE to but surely take away all things from me, my TRUE LOVE can’t go away Was told to be alone without any reason, was kept in a hidden place for peace to take its place. But him I loved with reason was rejected by him, loved by the great lover, Was silenced by him, but was talked to by the greater talker, Was despised by him, but was comforted by the great comforter, But all the great one taught me was still l

Add caption Beauty, beauty I was once Told about it but the one Surprising thing about it Is that it fades away so soon   Peace exist but not forever In the mind of men, harmony can Only be shared by two or more Time but surely not forever   Joy is something that brings About something good, but only But only, but few people Find it with much strength and courage   Happiness is given to those Who deserve it and all other Virtues, expect that of love For it is unique in its ways   But surely nobody talks about Love, oh have you forgotten that It is kind, patience, not jealous It bears not wrong and it is faithful   It does not remember the past Still no one remember it, TRUE LOVE Can only be gotten by few Very few that has access to it   Nobody is aspiring to get it, for They care not but the very few That have it are denied of it But assuring you no matter   What’s TRUE LOVE is perfecta Of all things in nature……

Sometimes I hate the world I feel more confused than ever, When I recap the instances when we were together it brings backs all the anguish moments, when I think of coming to your place,   it is like breaking a great covenant, when I question God, but simultaneously remember that I am a mere creature…..I just have to say sorry All I want is to see and ask you a question, where is my place in your life? Most of the times I find it difficult to believe God’s power because of you, WHY? You might ask, I find it difficult to believing that you shall come back to me, but whatever I   so do, I do it with courage. You make me do things, I don’t want to do, you make me not value other men, the way I do to you, for there is none like you in trillions and  billions I often ask myself when shall this jinx be broken, when shall I have you all by myself and when shall I call out your name from the bedroom, sometimes I hate the world but when I remember you, I do so with optimism.

At times my human nature makes me despise all men because of you. And more also when am solely weighed down by the consideration… That you cant come back to me, my one assurance is that God never fails.. Even when my human limitation makes me wonder “If God ever hears” Prayers especially mine, but no matter what I might ever think in my wonders…. I still come to a conclusion that he who is he GOD NEVER FAILS….. My consolation is that whatever belongs to me shall surely come back Expect it’s not mine, even when you turned my world around and gave me life… A meaning but persistently kept me wondering,   I never for once…. Removed my heart away from you, you still the one that takes my place forever

Memories so dark in my mind buried inside every man, there is a legion, a thousand versions of himsef, just one of them is blocking your self from moving forward. The one who takes control is the dark self. You need to know your enemy before you have hope of defeating them When you know your enemy, you can easily face them, no doors leads to freedom unless you answer your past. You will always remain a slave. You either make them love you or fear you, don't be a weakling, stop fighting yourself and conquer your fears. If you care about her don't look back, he who figths, figths to be alive. Am not willing to give up my life for a better life but am working differently when am standing tall to when am sitting down.. Power pressure, I rather face the music and make the dance my tunes No one that accepts all when there are no prisons of life. Some wounds cuts so deeply with vengeance as the only solution. How do you write a wrong when you aren't alive, the answers you seek are

Marriage is sweet, so I heard , but my dear, there is much to it than our eyes can see, while dating make sure you check for the following signs... BEA *** Does he listens to you?  *** Is he an aggressive person?  ***Has he ever raised his hands to hit you before?  ***Is he transparent in all his dealings with you?  ***Can you truly trust him?  ***Are you comfortable with him?  ***Can you freely give him your kidney in the worst case scenario?  BOO ***You brag about her but can you leave her with your friend?  ***Is she respectful and hospitable?  ***Can you tolerate her excesses? ***Does she encourage you at all?  ***Does she support in the most littlest things?  ***Can you truly give her your kidney in the worse case situation?  The list is endless, when its all rosy. When the money is there. When the going is sweet, what atitude does she bring to the table.?  Sometimes, cause a fight and see her reactions, make some assumptions about her and see the outcome, stage the play and see h

When you solely want something you go for it, there might be loads and loads of obstacles but a determined mind sees no hurdles, rather he sees them as a catalysts to push to the next level, he damns all to make wave to his goals  When you see a break ligth, you need not to be told about the next event, instead be prepared about the worst cases scenario, cause when it eventually happens you are not fully broken because you can still pick yourself up and be you again. Appreciate every moment that comes your way, it can be sweet or soar but be guided and never be carried away by any situation, good or bad, make maximum use of the situation to learn and to be impactful, because time waits for no man. In your good times, rejoice very well like its your last and please touch lives, don't be selfish and in your bad times learn so much here, so as to help someone who might be in your shoes some day  Finally, I write because we are all in one of those moments of life, how well do we use it

I passed through a street to get to where I  was going and I spotted her sitting in a corner exhausted. She was sleepy and yet she needed to take care of her madams wares, or else get beaten mercilessly I tried saying HI, but she nodded her head by the wall as she finds a better spot to place her head I came by again on my way home and found her picking beans with a sleepy eyes.. Oh, that is going to land her in bigger trouble, because by the time she has picked the beans and her madam finds stones in it, she will be in mess. Before now, I have seen her in the street either crying for something that happened or she is sitting out waiting for a place to sleep possibly because her madam sent her out. The ordeals are so much to count, no sane woman wants to have a child and sends out to be a maid for another woman, hmmm, but life happens. I have have confronted her in many occasions and asked her what the problem was, one of the most compelling scene was one day I was on my way out, I saw

Most recently, I saw a video online where a white man was having sex with an infant of less than six months. While this baby wiled in pains and tears he has the guts to turn her over and had her from behind. While I stumbled at this video, I was raining all the causes I could think of but alas the fool did this and still posted it somehow. Admist all the fears and wickedness going on in the world now, I asked a very simple question and wished someone could give me a better answer. The rape stories are endless, what about maids in various homes molested, what about cases we don't know of, unpublished, more so too some stupid women defile naive boys and useless their lives to satisfy sexual urge.  Why on earth would a full grown man not be able to control himself? What happens to getting married and having a woman all to yourself? Oh, you hate marriage but you love sex, why not patronise sex workers if that's your only option left. Inasmuch as I don't support sex toys and mas

He says, I Love you he says... And she replies thank you She says...You hardly call me.. .. And he replies.... Oh sorry am very busy She says... When can we see... even though we are close He replies .... For real I have several appointments, i don't even have time for myself He says... Can we do a video call.. She replies... My data is out, my phone is bad and its late. He says... I sent you some money, you didn't even call to acknowledge it She replies ... Oh really i didn't see it Hmmmm., the excuses are endless when your heart isn't with someone.  The excuses are so clear and you don't need an oracle to interpret what it means to you. His or her heart isn't where you are, recall this  '' your heart is where your treasure lies'' Dear lady, if he isn't calling you, he is speaking to someone else. Dear man, if she is giving you atitude you are not what she wants. Many a time we dwell so long with a person, take all the bullshit with them jus

At every piont in time in our lives, we are faced with one ordeal or the other, many of which we never anticipated might come calling, yet we are faced with the panes of pain, the figths behind the struggles, the hidden battles, the faceless pains, yet you were renacted from one form to another. What you call pains becomes someone else's biscuits, no assumed pain, because the effects are real, some were intensionally caused, some were never intended, but when the pains of life hits you, you pray its only a mirage or a virtual thought. We have being through it, we hate that road, we never pray any one passes through it, yet its an inevitable road we all must trade on, if you still have a life. The various panes of pain comes in shades, only the carrier can describe it better, yet we all feel the impact when it happens closer. Emotionally, mentally and physically the trauma of pain is wished it never came by. The shades are very excruciating,like when you see a human being burnt and

Pastor Becky Eneche. admonished women 🚺 to keeo wooing their husbands most especially after marriage. Her exact words in Jer. 31:22..women 🚺 shall compass, shall win, shall woo, shall protect the man.. Hmm, inukwa, odi kwa scriptural, hmmm so.. World people will say i am not married 👰, so why will i woo my hubby.. You better learn before pointing 👉 fingers at me.. My hubby... My wish, my desire, my prayer answered, my boo My hubby... Saw a billion ladies on earth but chose me instead and decided to love me My hubby.... Went as far as wooing me, to make me know that am the best in the world 🗺 My hubby.... Declared his consent before my parents and his kins 🚹 men to pay my bride price. My hubby.... He went through all the process there to make me bona-fide My hubby.... My backbone, so imperfect, yet he is beyond a super human, angels envy him.  My hubby.... He took my flaws and polished me to be an asset, you can't afford.  My hubby... My suitable, not everyone can marry my hub

Nnem, I now worship with GRACE GRACE ASSEMBLY, am no longer a Catholic, often times we hear things like this and marvel. Oh!!! Sandra, you were so committed in the choir, awww NFCS of those days, but you were going to be a reverend sister and all that, your were really stunch a Catholic,, you were the house fellowship leader then, what changed? You have seen the light ? Right!!! Salvation is a personal race, stop 🛑 and don't condemn people because they change the place of worship and mode of worship, its a choice. Allow them to seek for peace where they deem fit, after all in the end denominations won't count but your personal relationship with your maker, the impact you project and the life of the beatitudes you uphold, no matter the religion and denominations as such.  Personally , I can't marry a non Catholic, Oh, I hate deeper lifers, you see those C & S, its a no no no for me, all these mushroom churches, I can never attend any of them. My dear, its a choice, its