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  SOCIAL MEDIA USERS Dear social media users,  I hope this piece meets you well, take this as an updated reminder and be very conscious about it, honestly it should be kept in your entire being.  It has really come to my notice that a lot of these users take an opinion of others as an avenue to insult people, what i don't understand is the fact that when someone makes an opinion either contrary to a post or in support to a post, it is not and enough reason to either bully them or insults them for airing their thoughts.  Oftentimes the kind and type of insults and abuses you get is so annoying, you wonder if they know themselves before now and possibly if they have had a fight in their previous lives.  Again, let's learn to mind our business, if you aren't tagged, mentioned and no link to your personal identity, don't attack anyone's post or comments, it's so absurd how most adults lose their respect because they meddle words on subjects that isn't their conc

She started by narrating how her sister inlaw insulted the hell at her just because she isn't married, she went further to say how she welcomed this young lady when her brother was making his choice in choosing a life partner. Amina is the elder sister to Luke who married Lucy, Amina welcomed Lucy like a sister and mother and advices Luke so keenly on why she felt Lucy was the rigth woman for him, even after three years of dating, Luke considered her and left the other ladies. Four years after, Amina got a job in Kogi where her brother and his family resides, she thought it fit that she can stay with his brothers family prior to when she gets a place of her own amd since the brother also has extra room to accommodate her. She called the brother and told him about the offer, he said he would discuss with his wife and get back to her, few days later, Luke discussed with his wife and she vehemently objected, Luke was shocked at her reaction and wondered why, somehow they agreed she ca

Valentines day comes with so much expectations ranging from various activities and moods, validations and accommodations yet its a fact that it isn't limited to showing love to your loved ones alone. Most lovers exhibited their A-romance game to the fullest, while some remain dormant and so unborthered, the moods varies. Most singles were eventually hooked, while some didn't have an iota of what was going on, while some entered depression. I saw a lot happened yesterday, some where fully dressed in the colors of love and they went all the way to express love, again we saw some who were just doing their normal norm and going about their business. Just yesterday, there was lots of dramas that happened online, some ladies fought over a married man, another guy caught his girlfriend with another man while she told him she was home, the man displayed lots of fury, some were proposed to while some people received a massive heart break and the aftermath effect lies in their hearts. Oh

Let me start by defining violence as an action which causes destruction, pain, or suffering. Ideally, we try to avoid violence in resolving conflicts but oh not with a particular video I saw where a man brutally reduces his wife to an inanimate tool, the battering was so gruesome to watch, I wept.  He practically, naked her and went ahead to drag her on the coarse grounds with rocky stones and all kinds of harmful objects, of course he didn't consider the fact that she would sustain lots of injuries.  Another painful video was also seen in a living room where the man was hitting his wife so hard with their baby lying so close, he used his hand to fling the baby aside, the mother screamed like her life depends on the child.  Why do we choose to resolve our differences with violence?  What has stopped the place of communal dialogue?  Why don't we take out time to know why the other person behaves differently?  Why are we so quick to slander and render insults that are so distaste

I saw a video recently that was showing various life's stages and the joys and wars it brings. Friendzone, single, in a relationship, engaged, married, separated, divorced, widowed and not interested, these and even many others not listed therein. Life comes with these inevitable stages and we either choose to live by them or they blow us out with its challenges or wars, yet these life stages also have its benefits and joy, as they come, take them and live by them. Many times we are told to accept the things we can't control and manage the things we can't change, if we must live by the rules of life before us. Life is a battle, the world is your arena, to face the darkness the world brings, you must be pure in your heart to overcome the fears and its challenges as they come. In all these stages, learn not to do anything hastily, else you will have yourself to blame, an ideal is the most precious yearning and zeal in life. Someone once said "do not for one setback, give

I have come to realise that we have this attitude of castigating or sending the wrong signals on people when they fail to do our bidding, irrespective of the fact that they have their own problems to deal with. We are quick to know who has changed but we don't care to know why they changed, we are hesitant to judge them while we keep our own short comings to the back, we slander and even go ahead to inflict pain because they chose to be themselves. He was always there for them, he has no life of his own, he became a shadow of himself to satisfy the other's desires and needs yet he was taken for granted and used like a tool without maintenance. He then changed and became more conscious, he allowed himself to be free and made himself a priority, he took care of himself and cared less, he had a life of his own, set goals and lived out his dreams, he became happier than ever. When they saw he was happier they felt bad, they waged war against him and fought him to the knees, they wa

The realities are within us and its so clear that we are at the mercy of what we believe in to help us all get away form this wickedness in our times. A Certain man, lured two young boys between 11 and 13 to help him carry some load in a near by provision store and promised to give them each one thousand naira each. Now one of these boys was sent on an errand by the sick mum before he met this dubious man on his way, for whatsoever reasons he didn't decline the offer of cause because of the monetary value, he forgot about the errand and followed the stranger, when the two boys got to the shop, the man bought goods worth 70, 000 and told the shop owner to let his children stay in his shop while he withdraws money to bring to him and then carted away with the goods. Now, the shop owner waited for this man's return and he was no where to be found, he then asked the two boys if they know the man, both of them said yes, funny enough they remained there untill evening, untill wh

I was on a chat recently with this big brother of mine and we got talking extensively, we talked about why Christians should stop making it look like God is only for them and other people who aren't Christian can't have access to God. There are so many people in the world, who seeks God in various ways and methods and as such they can't limit God only to themselves. Muslims to the Arabs, Hindu to the Indians, Judaism to the Jews, Buddhist to the Chinese, Olisa chineke to the Igbos, Oluwa to the yorubas, Ubagiji to the hausas, etc. We have so many traditional worshippers, atheist, marine worshippers, various religion of the world so unlimited to count, yet everyone of them claims to seek God, know God and serving God in their own way. It's so sad, religion has caused alot in our present day life, Let's respect other people's belief system, stop assuming that the way you serve God is the best way, rather just believe that there is God and everyone has a way t

Often times we say we are in love but fail to truly realise what love is all about, anyways its February and its known as the month of love, again love should be practiced always and dully, it's not subjected to a month alone Sometimes in our lives we either fall in love or fall out of love, but it's best to truly know how to and how not to, no matter the type of relationship you indulge with a person, love has a common goal. Even if there is a mistake involved, love endures for the higher good and it is boundless in nature True love, does not suspect rivals, or does not Fear or distrust, it is not jealous to kill, its totally selfless Love is sensitive to human feelings, it respect the dignity of human hood, or simple and approachable, truly its blessing all the way. Most times what we call correction is humiliation truly, what we call a mistake is shamefully castigating a fello, and whet we call a secret is rumour, but love sees all as an avenue to make all things rigth

Currently, we are all facing and experiencing unimaginable things, our world is now filled with haze and so much uncertainties, seems the devil has relocated into the very hearts of the human race and as such we hear of acidic things happening in split seconds. A young man in his twenties macheted and burnt his elder brother to death over a land dispute in Ekwulobia Anambra state, yesterday,he was badly beaten,a man rescued him from the angry villagers by locking him up at the village hall and called the police to come and take him. The same yesterday, just at 3rd mainland bridge, a young lady in her late twenties wanted to jump into the ocean, just because she was owning someone but luckily she was rescued by some men who stopped to appeal to her. I wonder what is about January 30 th, we heard about the painful demise of Cheslie Kryst (Miss Universe USA 2019 ) who alone knows why she committed suicide by jumping down from her apartment. Let me limit these sad realities to a few,

Hmm, I still find it so shocking to write about this, based on the most recent news about 4 boys who killed a young lady of about 20 years for money ritual. It's so sad that we failed ourselves, parents, guidance, religious bodies, government, celebrities, entertainment bodies,security agents, politicians and all the general public involved. Its still baffles me on how can teenagers between age 17 to 19 could have such thoughts and also implement their hellious mindset in the name of making quick money. These days all we hear from religious bodies is on prosperity and enlargement and increase , when you enter such edifice, 70 percent of what happens on such occasions is more of money and how to increase the account of the church and most prayers are centered on wealth and prosperity. Why won't such lads be drawn to the fact that money rules the world even in the church, money makes noise, collections are so endless, one project or the other and yet, we hardly hear of good

  Its February, its indeed the month of love, let's take out time to spread love always not only subjected to this month, but the goal is to extend these love to every nook and cranny life brings us to. I heard a story about a man who lost his wife in the cold hands of death some few years ago, he found it so difficult to adjust to the realities that she is no more and she found rest beyond the skies. It happened that each valentines day, he goes to a five star restaurant, order for two, places the other meal opposite him, pours the wine on two glasses and dines alone. Each time he does that he often sobs in pains, on how he took her for granted when she was very much around and how he longed to be with her every other day and wished he can change the hands of time. You know, You ask, why undergo this torment for someone who is no longer with us, but we most times fail to acknowledge them when they are with us, we are always ready to figth and quarrel with them and sometimes w