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A funny encounter but very real that I can't forget in a life's time. I joined this keke (tricycle) heading my destination. Two beautiful ladies sat at the back, when I was about to board the tricycle, one of the came down, so I joined them and sat at their middle. We continued the journey, some few minutes into the journey, I received a call, during my conversation with the caller, I tried perceiving the caller to render assistance to the person he called me about and I ended my call. Just immediately I did, the lady seated at my left hand side approached me saying she doesn't have enough money for her fare that I should assist her in completing it,, meanwhile we had two more stopovers before we all get to our final destination but they were close to each other, the lady on my rigth decided to get down, while she was outside by the keke, she was looking for her purse while the driver waited patiently, it took over 5 minutes with no sign of her purse anywhere. This in

  Going by the so many things happening in  our world , you tend to ask questions unending and hoping to get immediate answers that you cant find anywhere soonest and this calls to mind to help us recall the mereness of life.. What is more to life , when we keep malice , hold a grudge and find it even hardest to forgive a fellow, yea it could be the hardest of things to do, but hey recall the great pain of life ''DEATH'' when you wont see the fellow any more and wont even be able to communicate and tell the fellow the painfullest things you harbored in mind to say, why not make amends now.. What is more to life, when all we work for, live for and brag for will one day be left alone and assumed they were never there when we finally leave, in fact it looks as if we never came this way, really wont it be nice we make amends and allow every thing to go its way while we are still here What is more to life when we hustle, crave, indulge in acts that's really ungodly,

After doing my routine that morning, I decided to go make my hair that morning. While I was about to enter into the salon, I met the owner outside and we exchanged pleasantries. I walked into the salon to take my seat, when I met a generator repairer working on her generator inside the salon and I greeted him and sat down. He returned my greeting and continued his work, shortly afterwards, a young lady entered the salon and didn't greet him but only greeted the owner dropped her bag and left. This generator man, picked offence and started hauling all sorts of insults on this lady and went further to say that's how Igbos do.(he spoke in yoruba language)  Instantly, i lashed back at him & told him not to say so, that I greeted him doesn't make me a yoruba lady, as a matter of fact am igbo and you can't equate greetings to a tribe alone. I continued with him, that one greets you or not doesn't make the person bad, it's only out of courtesy we do so, many don

*When a man has a good car it attracts more ladies to him. When a lady has a good car it repels guys away from her. This is the world we live in*. *A teenage boy impregnates his teenage girlfriend. The girl drops out of school, the boy continues his education. This is the world we live in*. *A guy catches his girlfriend with another guy, he fights his girlfriend. A lady catches her guy with another lady, she fights the other lady. This is the world we live in*. *The older a man becomes, the higher the number of ladies available for him. The older a lady becomes the fewer the number of guys available for her. This is the world we live in*. *A 76 year old man can still marry a 26 year old lady. A 36 year old lady is tagged too old to get married. This is the world we live in*. *A man divorces his wife today and the next day he is dating other ladies. Six months later he is married. While the divorced woman is labeled a divorcee and remains single six years later. This is the world

  The world is full of  haze, everyone to himself and we have so become selfishly inclined that we go about our business without stopping by to check our neighbours. Its expected we make the world a better place for us all to live in, affect lives positively and make it habitable for us all and most importantly, leave the earth a better place for generations yet to come. It's said that Liberal minded individuals have high expections from people because they easily dish out what they have in mind and also swing into actions to achieve them. Hence the need to consider our neighbours who are so insignificant yet they form part of our world, the goal is to make it clearer for the blind, make it audible to the deaf , swift for the lame, sweet to the dumb. Serving humanity is the impact that leaves a trail even when we are gone and even known to those who couldn't meet us but felt our presence by the legacy we left and the goals we achieved for all to enjoy. Developing oneself

Which is better, to be a big fish in a small pond than a big fish in a big river?  Often times we all prefer to be a big fish in small river because we value relevance, fame and power over integrity in our own space.  Most times this relevance or popularity connotes us doing lots of dubious things which brings about shame, Therefore a man without shame has no conscience, its natural to be ambitious,but don't allow selfishness over take your desire for position and fame  An ambition that is not well channeled can lead to destruction, and when such happens, it affects a lot of things and even a generation unborn.  Many a time we sell off character, then imploy selfishness that assassinates values and morals in us, because we are greed beyond our simple desires.  To serve humanity should be our upmost goals, its better to chose service over status, it brings about true greatness, its important to know that what ever we become is all about service and for the benefit of others , we can

  I looked for you and you were not there then I remembered why.. My heart bleed My mind skipped Sloped in fury  Tears poured like rain  Can I ever love again, its truly hard to love  Sometimes, we could have been enchanted but we thought we were in love, alas its so wrong  Loving makes you wonder why, for now we are  so happy and the next while, you asking questionable demands, so painful indeed.  Shattered like the clay pot that holds the old religion of why's and how's.  You are left to wonder if any one could understand why your pains are here for real.  Many rather be left alone and chose a path of loneliness than to make efforts to be with someone who will eventually toil with their hearts.  The mind games continues, love is underrated, loving isn't real, the pains becomes our companions, the tears our soul mate, then hostility and rigidity becomes your folks.  Then you hear all sorts of rage and worries being expressed, the soul becomes volatile and the mind locks up

Its now a societal norm that lingers everywhere, what comes to mind when you meet one is that she was stupid enough to give in to unwanted pregnancy. Oh, stop and pause, there are so many reasons why we see them around with so many justified answers. Domestic violence Divorce or seperation Rape Independence Choice Death of spouse Family rejection Unsettled marital issues When next you meet a single mum, the least you can do is to support them in the best way you can, don't judge her because little do you know about her plight. So many women would have aborted such beautiful children, others would rather give birth to them and abandon them, but to many who chose to take care of these angels alone, they need our support because it isn't easy to train a child single handedly. Shout out to all the good mothers , single mums especially, we love you and appreciate all you do, no wonder the saying goes thus "train a woman and train a nation" It isn't any ea

  Growing up was such a memory I can't easily forget about, it always lived with me. Funny enough, I was that kid who had over protecting parents, I was dependent on my parents for everything. I was that kid who was told to study hard and make good grades and work hard to become someone great in life. I was that kid who never had childhood friends even when I did, they were from a distance, why because my parents would tell us to stay indoors so that they won't feel we want their food when we go visiting. I was that kid who never played with my neighbours because my folks would say I i will get injured and when I do, it would hurt and leave a scar on my body, so because of this I never indulged in any kind of play that would expose me to hurting. I was that kid who never visited family and friends on long holidays because my parents feels some dirty adults would take advantage of me, so I lost out in experiencing what the world looked like apart from my home. I was that

  When all a heard about the story of Ms. Chidimma and Mr. Usifo, the story later brought in different dimensions to it but it still didn't chnage the fact that Mr.Usifo is late now and Chidimma has the law to face,below are my personal deductions as to what transpired To Chidinma. There is more to life than the material things of life, certainly we all have challenges to manage yet its not enough reason to go the path you chose. Lesson learnt is that, in life wait for your turn, never forget where you are coming from. Its obvious you are from a good family with morals and integrity but alas you decided to do just how you so wished. Certainly, you will face the law, you either serve a life time in prison or you are killed too, better still you will keep running for the rest of your life, so sad,  To Mr. Usifo, its so clear how many rich men treat ladies and expose them to life time of pain Galvanising in lagos and becomes public property, leaving your wife and kids in Abuja, who kn

Allow me take a case s tudy from what I have experienced in most African families, indeed we have different culture and orientations but trust me they are someworthly similar. I put this to you how most family survives, either united or disunited is subjected to how they lived when their folks was either alive or dead. Take for instance, there are some families that there is one person holding the unity of such families and when that person dies, the rest of the family can never be united again. While there some families that even when their folks are no more they are stronger than when they were present Yet, we have some families that even in the presence of their folks, they can never get along. How do you want your future to look like, especially when you are no more? What have you put in place to Foster unity among your family? Are you the peace maker or the home destroyer of your family? What impacted have you contributed to the wellbeing or development of your family? L

I left the seminar and was getting close to the main road, I decided to get uber to my destination but the uber driver was 10 minutes away so I cancelled the trip. While I was trying to make another order, I flagged down a taxi and the driver stopped. We had a small chat about my destination, he wanted more fees but I insisted on the price the uber would have offered me and be finally agreed to take me there. I boarded the car and we left, along the way, we chatted about my seminar and the current state of the nation as regards unemployment and the wars it has subjected our youths to. The trip was a short one but indeed worth the whole while, as the driver was a good vibe, who expressed his thoughts and what the deranged economy has turned our youths to taking a case study of what Abuja girls do. He narrated what he has seen in his field of business and some experiences his colleagues also shared. These girls he says, aren't just desperate they are all out to get whatsoever

If we are not on the same page, then we can't continue with our story.  No matter how actively busy he is, a man who needs you as his queen will also be busy pursuing you at the same time because a king knows what you are worth. If he doesn't protects and provides for you,  Girl, you are not his choice, if she doesn't care and watches over the littlest details about you, man, you are not her choice Dear sisters, be attracted to his actions not his words, ignore 99% of what he says but pay attension to what he does, to be sure about him, men are sweet talkers, but real men are action doers. Dear brothers, women are attracted by what they see, if she isn't inclined to you, forget it you are wasting your time with her, yes, women are moved by what they hear but these days they go to where they are comfortable. Still on, if a man doesn't go through anything with you, he wont appreciate you, if he doesn't build with you, hmm, you are sure a liability, make sure you a

You wonder why marriage?  There is a lot that happens in marriage that most couple bottle up and you can only see after a long period of time these issues are enlisted below.  VIOLENCE Domestic violence, emotional  violence and even physiological violence happens in most homes and so many couple with hold it from the public, it only becomes known when it's out of hand to manage.  CHARACTER ISSUES Again, in most relationships, character is of great concern, managing another's character is a big deal, for a spouse who doesn't like keeping out late meets a partner who is a pro in late nigth these two would defiantly have issues in marriage and most times they bottle up such issues.  Others are so good at keeping malice and most times they are mad at each other but chose not to argue or talk about their issues.  CHILD MISBEHAVIOR So many couple allow their children to come in between them, most times children could be very funny in acts and reasoning you see one of the parents

Sometime ago, I had this mentor who always blesses me with so much that his act of giving made me conclude he is an angel sent by God to me. There years ago something happened, he was working on a project and he got stucked with money because it was a holiday where he was so he couldn't mansfer money to the person working on his project that required urgent attention. So, one of those days, I just called to check on him and somehow he managed to relate his current ordeal to me and how he can't wait for another two days before bringing out funds and how all he reached out to concerning the challenge couldn't help. Immediately, I stepped out to help him, I asked him to send me the account number of the person working on his project, he smiled and asked me how I was going to get such money, I told him that I don't have the complete amount he was looking for but I have 70% of that money, who I saved over a period of time, which he actually blessed me with. He was highy

  You want her, you went for her. You saw a future with her yet you still eye another. You married her, still you profess love for another. The same words you use for her to brighten her day is the same words you use for your mistress. Love isn't two faced, you can't eat your cake and have it, love entails giving your all to who so ever you profess your love to. Someone would say to me, you might love your wife and still love another but not the same measure of love for your wife. How would you feel if your wife shares her love with some other person? Indeed true love is jealously inclined, you can't truly love a fellow and give them a part of you, it entails giving your all to them without reserve. This singular act has caused alot of havoc in homes and many relationships, its a form of emotional cheating and as such many handle it in various ways best known to them. Don't go professing love to one when you are married to another, don't call pet names to one when y

Often times we forget the fact that when we say "'i do' ' we are simply saying to out partner that we are taking care and responsibility of them. Marriage goes beyond what we envisage it to mean. Two good people can date, court and even marry but have a bad relationship, and that why we hear of a lot of unassuming issues in marital affairs. The fact that you courted for years doesn't mean you can't divorce, most especially when you have endured beyond your limit. In this marriage relationships, its better not to expect any thing from your partner, keep an open heart and work on whatever makes you happy. As the year goes by, you and your partner must change in one aspect or the other and this also brings about lots of different attitudes and approach towards your expectation. It takes massive and excess grace to stay married and remain faithful admits all trials. Ignoring the ills of your partner, loving hard and committing him or her to God is the best

In our generation most especially, we hear alot of sad news about couples and how they handled their martial issues. It's so sad, we are all quick to judge them and backlash them because one person decided to voice out, even without knowing the full facts as to what transpired. We have more relationships counsellors, advisers and coaches who can't even manage their life, pin pointing to the wrongs of others. When a couple is in disarray, most times we hear from one side and chose to make our deductions from what so ever we heard. The Okoye's, the Idibia'a and even most recently Alex and Fancy were are all anticipating to see the wedding of the year between them before we heard the most beautiful story of the year. There is alot that happens in any given relationship, we all can't see and can never know of no matter how much we keep our ears to the grounds. No one is filled with perfection of character hence we accept the imperfections of each other to stay in the un

Hello bea, I stole a show from heaven Then i picked a rose from Eden Dropped the petal on your door. I sent you a banquet full of rubies, Am certain you giggled when you saw it Your smiled reached my heart and i wonder if you are truly human You share happiness, you exhumed bliss   aww how do you smile when you are excited? How do laugh when you see s blessing ahead? We have got angels around they are human beings too, they are exceptional they are highly unique, they are always a blessing, they are sent on mission to be a bliss. Make sure you are one Be that person who makes others smile Share happiness and impact souls Extend a hand, it makes you better Figth to save souls Be the change we hope for Give without expecting Sow for others to reap thats the highest reward I gave an angel a lift, haha i never knew I was flying on angel's wings as my reward.. I saw the rainbow ans touched the skies You can't imagine the glory Spread openness reap transparency Share your belongings