VIVSRAVINE

  Those  who MATTERS don't mind and those who mind don't MATTER You cant change how people treat you, or what they say about you, all you can do is change how you react to it, If someday was yesterday learn, If someday was tomorrow hope, If someday was today cherish, You don't need someone to complete you, YOU only need someone to accept you completely. Then I made this bold confession to the one who determines all that happens in my life. If you are not connected to heaven , you cant withdraw from heaven. You must posses joy to attract joy from God, no one sees  the future when he is downcast-ed If you know your God , surely you will do exploits, no one follows in this revelation with depression but joy. Invest in God's will and you will see revelations of the things you cant see with your physical. If you really want to achieve anything in life you need sacrifice and courage. We don't  push because of what we think but we push because of what we feel,

  We are licensed to do so now They watch to see how we love We aren't ashamed to explore The smile before the kiss we longed for Gently the hands cliched, sweet to behold Our chests touched and the embrace came Eye to eye, we close our eyes to savour Now the lips touched and its heavenly No give us more time, we just started Now we danced with the lips Waiting to chew like there is lollipop We don't care if you watch, we are licensed The sweet romance as we enjoyed the taste Many wished but sorry, its ours we don't share It's scared, it our sanctuary, our domain We held each other before the greatest altar We kissed passionately because our lives depends on it, we are creating a new beginning Now God looked down and saw it was good, he blessed  what he originated, he smiled at us and gave us a new name, BEST INFLUENCE Don't envy us, pray with us instead, his blessings will go round just wait for your own kiss, its heavenly in the mouth of those w

Certainly, there is so many rights in the world that many people don't know about, these rights are sometimes hidden and because of ignorance many don't even care to access them. There is rigth to life Rigth to live Right to liberty and freedom Rigth to accountability Freedom of speech Rigth to figth and go for war Rights to demonstration Rights to acceptance  Rights to query  Rights to accessibility  Rights to be human  Rights to personality  Rights to believe  Rights to agreement The rights are so many to mention, many don't even explore a bit of it because they are not aware of it.  Many maltreat others on their rights and impound pains on them either because they are privileged or more exposed than them.  We are first human beings before we could be anything else, let's learn to treat people rigth, show them the rights things to do most especially when we know they are not in the know, be nice to people, it takes nothing from you.  Stop taking advantage of people be

  When you are scared of falling in love you could be very vulnerable, because you might be confused about what you truly want.  You end up building walls around yourself and there by remain in absolute pain.  When you walk away from someone you truly love,it is torture actually but make sure you find reasons to stay alof.  The opposite of love is faithfulness, if its short of this, you can't find this in any book., yet it exists.  I guess love only exist in the heavens,on earth you can't just easily love without been or being hurt.  You are either a project or an empire for someone ,a project that comes and goes or an empire that lives in the afterlife, know your place.  Do all you can to stay faithful to yourself, the world doesn't need faithfulness anymore,yet never stop being yourself in a polluted world.  Be a  Queen for a King . A king for a queen.  Just keep loving, it's hard but worth the while.  Because of you am not afraid any more Because of you, I don't

  I saw this post below and I wondered why and what is happening in our society "Dear Men, place your right hand on your chest and say after me,my wife's money is her money and my own Money is our Money" When I saw that post, I wonder why there is so much misunderstanding in marriages and relationships, often times before we get involved in any relationship, we fail to discuss everything and one of the things are finances.  This singular act has lead to a lot of mistakes, misunderstanding, choas and even divorce, because we fail to take a stand on monetary issues with our partners.  Times have changed and even as we evolve with time, it's very paramount we discuss anything that could bring any hitch in our relationship.  Many fail to let their partner know how much they are earning, there by when she becomes too demanding, they feel they are insensitive.  Sincerely, its been advised that we open up to our partners in all things including finances, it helps you both p

  We are actually limited by time, its a known fact, because we are humans and not immortal beings, God alone is unlimited with time. Hence many complain about time and there after rush over many things in life. That some one got married at the age  of 25 and another got married at the age of 60 doesn't change anything, rather they only difference is that they had various experiences at a time of their lives. Another had a baby at 30 and some other had her's at 60, the experiences is new to both and that is the only thing that matters. She graduated at 20 and another graduated at 70, still it is only experience that distinguishes them, there is no lateness in life's journey. That one became famous and rich at 35 and the other became rich at 70 still doesn't change anything, the experiences only differs. Another died at 25 and his friend died at 100, I tell you, the experience differentiates them, in life the only thing that differentiates us is the experiences we shared

  TO THE MARRIED Don't make your partner's life miserable just because you are unhappy. Learn to express your doubts, worries, pains and fears to your partner alone and if you must tell some other person, let God know.  Its sadden how private matters becomes public matter, it diminishes the pride of your partner, their integrity is tarnished and they find it most difficult to adjust.  Work hand in hand with your partner, communicate, share, spend time and do things together to help foster your union.  In all you do, don't ever compare your marriage with any one, don't  even dare, know this, there are differences on marriages but it is left for you to work out those differences. To stay married, you must keep forgiving and learn to tolerate, its one of the pains of being married. Learn to endure, sacrifice and give in your all to make your marriage work, its a war you must keep winning, because many are watching to see you fail. Always, I mean always appreciate your part

  Someone is going through excruciating pains now. Someone isn't sure of the next meal Someone just died now Someone is in big debts Someone has no roof over his head Someone is a victim of circumstances Someone has no one to help him Someone is living in fears now Someone has been sentenced to death Someone is been accused falsely Someone has been kidnapped and begging for his life. Someone has been forgotten somewhere.  Someone is hungry without hope for food Someone is undergoing a trauma now Someone is locked up somewhere in pains Someone is in prison for a crime known or unknown. Someone is bearing and naturing a pain somewhere Everyone has one thing or the other they are passing through, yet life goes on.  We easily complain about the merest of things and we are never grateful for what we have.  Many hope and pray to be in your shoes, yet we ourselves are a bunch of complains and ingrate in on life issues.  Remember pains makes you stronger, fear makes you braver, heartbreak

  Life is just too short, even if you live to a hundred. The realities keeps repeating it self. We hold on to vague things alot,we are so quick to cut corners and neglect why we are human. We forget so soon that we are like vapor no matter how long we last here, we vanish so soon. What is the purpose of life after all? Why are we truly here? The reasons are just far fetched. Hmm I wonder why the fuss, the hate, the war, the anger and the pain we give to each other Many don't care any more, they live like the world is their final domain, what an irony indeed They careless about the worries of others, they don't give a danm about the pains of others. How then can we be human when we act like robots? We become too insensitive and uncaring Its all about us, we are too selfish, our greed is so much and our pride so high, we are too gullible Inasmuch as I will always say, enjoy life as much as you can but while you do so, remember others. God isn't far, he lives amongst us, in th

  A part on my forehead A peck on my cheeks A kiss on my lips A soft hug yet tighter than a fist  I stood by watching as she leaves  The pain held me like glue  Tears filled my eyes like rain  My warmth embrace, stays afar  Who will fill my butter  My meal isn't cooked  The rest I sought  That i watched leaves I got back home to an empty house  The voice isn't there  The sweet vexation ceased  Oh, i love to hear the laughter  I waited for the jokes  Now, it's all silence  The sweet figths isn't here  I just want another moment  There are angels in human form  The very special breed, the joy givers  The full package, the intrest and commitment  The journalism of love  There is this one we admire  The best influence, the one  Real and cool, yet very unpredictable  The reason and purpose  Allow me crush on loving, the bliss of the moments, the memories of a life time, the definable purpose, pray he says.. We owe our maker the reasons why.  The tears flowed as she leaves, l

  Many people love to come in between couples most especially when they feel they have a stack in their lives. Allow them to make their own mistakes, if they seek your attension and advice you can come through to them, but if they don't, all you can do is to pray for them. Stop influencing them with your words and actions, you are not perfect either. You don't know the secrets they share, they pains they bear, the commitments they indulged and the hopes they harboured. Couples are either known for something in your own view but most times, its far from what you see, each couple are unique for somethings. I will say this again, each one of them have their flaws and strengths yet none is perfect rather, many don't know how to manage their imperfections while others know-how well to mange their affairs. The society we have today started from the coming together of couples with an intension known to them alone, apart from what society says and expects from them. Let'

  When I miss you, I cry When I miss you, I love you When I miss you, i pray for you When I miss you, I dance When I miss you, I share When I miss you, I care  When I miss you, I need you  Pray with you  Play with you  Show you real love  Celebrate with you  Cuddled in the rain  Loving makes it so real  Its quite alright to love  Its simple to love and find you  Here I come, you can't hide.  Singing my world with his songs  His words my enactment  My pains leaves without a trace  The joy is unspeakable, the breath refreshing  Searching like a touch, brightened like sun  My happiness lingers like time  With you is an unending streams of bliss  Tickled my fancy, nobody does it better  My keys in his hands, my smile filled to the brim  Litters of joy, i took a little ride, crashing my belly  Here is my take on love, its miracle on the inside.  Breaking the rules because of you, my days with you, running back to you like my only breath.  My hearts keeps taking all the shocks, can't

  A part of a place without ligth.. Half of the truth.. Pretence that lives within, yet you pray  The wishes are always here, but the realities are always there. Loving is hard and letting go is hardest Once again  it makes you feel like you are empty without breath, who knows how we love and keep tab with pain of losing out Take a closer check hold on closer pray and wait for it, the lines are falling in pleasant places, sooner than you expect. Pray your loving remains stronger Pray you build without falling Pray to own and posses an asset Pray to over take and create an empire Now, I count the days, every second seems longer, I stretched to see you, I longed to break rules and here I am smiling. Who can see what lies in ny heart Who understands how I feel Tears like rain, but bliss overshadowed me Indeed memories created. There is a big come back, the ligth shines forth The glory is massive, the waiting is over The joy is full and the home assured If you must long for something, desi

  We left for Gbagbalada from Lugbe to check out something but I was told to go to area one to affect transaction. I was right in a cab to area one, I met two people at the back, a woman (haijia and a doctor)  I joined them, yet the driver insisted that another person joins us at the back. Hmmm, I hated that fact of being squeezed because I am slim and everyone one pratically will push me off the seat and I will be so uncomfortable. I frowned at that approach but I got no choice, the aboki man joined us and the journey began. I couldn't feel my left leg again its like the journey of 30 minutes was looking like  3 hours, I tapped my legs on the floor of the car to allow blood flow, then the doctor noticed my situation and tried to percify me. Typical of strangers in a cab, we all got chatting and then I seized the opportunity to ask about where I was going, the doctor adviced  I get to area three, when we alighted he paid for  our fares and also helped me to get to Wuse  because he

  To love To respect To submit To sacrifice To protect To pray for To care To bless To endure To extend To give To take To ensure To pursue To acquire To stay To forgive To mend To adore To complete To complement Marriage is full of soo much lists The dramas so much to count The pieces of a heart break The pains we endure The love, we pray to be mutual, The respect reciprocal. The submission is highy placed The respect is what we hoped for. Protection can't be over ruled, Pray for your family, its the key to success Care for your family because its like caring for yourself, and bless them always too. Endure all life challenges that comes your way but extend the hand of love always. Give and take is what makes marriage longed for and this approach holds it firmer. Ensure you pursue your goals in life even in marriage, pursue it with happiness. Aquire and stay in bliss, the best is always closer, stay away from all forms of vices. Forgive and keep

  There so many reasons why we need to check our selves and those around us.  Many a time we fall to see the faults in us and we keep doing the same things that are really unheard of and unacceptable.  Below are the various types of checks and why we must pratical to them more often.  SELF EXAMINATION... No man is an island of self, we are imperfect beings and as such, there are ao many reasons we are expected to go for self examination, a personal retreat of self, a renewal of mind and its highly advised we purge ourselves from all vices and choose to become better.  CHECK ON FAMILY.... We live in a world where our phones has replaced bonding and socialising, we are carried away with work and lots of distractions that we fail to check on those we are even so close to us.  Take out time to visit, show care, extend a hand of fellowship, enquire and share your thoughts and love with them.  SHOW CONCERN FOR NEIGHBOURS... We always have neighbours, no matter how busy we are, let's take

  We left for Jabi to NUJ.. There a guy boarded the bus with us and he strucked a conversation with the driver. During the course of the chat the driver poured out his thoughts to the young man he assumed was a bachelor. Driver.. Just enter he said your fare is 100 naira The guy... Oga na 50 naira Driver... Enter, do you have change? The guy... No but na 50 naira o Driver... Hmm my dear brother, na family probelm make me still dey road by now o Driver... To be a man is not a day job o The guy.. Na wa.. Driver... He continued lamenting. Driver.. For a married he will hustle for everything  food, pay school fees, hospital bills, house rent and even extended family needs. The guy.. The signed in Driver.. As a bachelor, you are enjoying o, all you do is hustle for yourself and enjoy your money, no deadline, no trouble from wife , children and inlaws. The guy.. You think so oga driver? Driver...am I lying? Driver... You and I know the truth that you have less worries co

  Life begins with a cry of Love. Just keep learning based on what happens around you, peoples experiences and you can add yours as you progress, you will be better of knowing more. There is no king in a chess without a queen next to it,  know this its not about the ring but the covenant it seals. When God ordains a relationship ,it's filled with love and purpose the more you give the closer it reciprocates. To the man in a relationship, the Bible refers to the woman as a weak one not just because she isn't strong but because she needs you to be there for her always because she is delicate and fragile. When a woman is comfortable with you, she makes the world bigger and helps you change the way you view it. She upholds you when you doubt your abilities.. She makes you accountable for your actions.. She make you feel like  you one in a life time type of man not one in a million type of man. When you both have defined your goals about each other, then have a plan as a m

  The little things I easily do when I was single seems to be the hardest things I never do now that am married. I wake up with lots of chores, the home front seems like war unending, I run daily like someone is pursuing me just because time is always against me. Cooking, washing, marketing, cleaning, arranging, keeping, sorting, babysitting, caring and the list is endless, oh I barely have time to make my hair, clean up, look good in the extremes but love made me choose this part. The funny things I see as easy can't be achieved again, marriage is real work, it entails lots of sacrifice, I stopped my job to meet up with home chores, now that the kids are here, I barely can sleep, the work load is unlimited to count and what more can I hope for. Now I respect our mothers, those beings are from heaven.   My choice , my life, my marriage, my future, my responsibility,  now the path are clearer than ever , it's a commitment of a life time and I live to accept it without any fear. 

  Life makes you wonder if you can ever give in again, the realities of life are here.  There is truly a part of you wanting to let go and give in to love, but the past holds you down.  No more to say, love has shown you its negative sides and you leave with a vice. There is no one out there you could trust with your life, your love and fears, none.  Hmm, there is one who believes in your heart, who is ready to go the mile and give you hope You decide to hold on and discard them, because you feel you can't love again and you scared.  Let loose those pains, allow the pains pass, set your mind free and live knowing love exists.  There is one person for that someone, that one person is highy real and ready to go the mile.  That one person is your heaven sent, they are here and they are never far from your tears. We are together, don't lose a part of you by letting them go, the torture is hellish, liberate your mind.  When it's dark in your life, wait for the ligth, its just a

  Many a time we say, respect is reciprocal and we kept saying it without going out to make an impact. There are various way to respect and make a huge impact for oneself and others.  Self respect : trust me when I say many people don't know what it is to respect themselves, they forget themselves so easily and hurt themselves at their own detriment and more so affect their loved ones too Respect for others: one of the major ills we have in our times is the fact that we fail to respect other people's opinions, their wills and fears, we are always in logger heads with them and this results in a figth thereafter.  Respect in relationship: no matrer the type of relationship we keep, we are dully expected to show mutual respect for our partners, parents, siblings and friends and even our enemies alike. Respect in business: we have seen good business partnerships broken and gone separate ways because we fail to keep our bargains and  become greedy to what it isn't, there are lot

  There so many things we brag about  t knowingly or unknowingly, we forget so soon that the life we live isn't our own but a borrowed life.  Many brag about the following and even more, below are some of the things we brag about  BEAUTY FAME/POWER  WEALTH CHILDREN EDUCATION INHERITANCE GOOD HEALTH Its the past of someone else future  The beauty you claim you have, some other people have more than you Every thing we ever do in life, it is temporal, noting last forever It all in your domain, all belongs to God Man thinketh and brags within his own space, in his own capacities, yet he feels more supreme than others, he lasts only aa long as a vapor, hs forgets so soon.  God disposes, decrees ans commands, he says and it happens, he decides just how he wants it to be.  Little are the things you can do.. God decides, performs and undertakes all.. God has invisible recorders taking account of what we do in works,word, thoughts , secrets, etc, so HELP US GOD.  Vivsravine speaks © 

  Human wants are so unlimited and no matter how much we posses in life we still long for more.. I want to get married I want to have a set of twin I want to go the best school in the world I want own an empire I want to be the most costliest car in the world I want to travel all over the world I want to be in power I want to be very famous I want to rule, control and dominate the world I want to acquire all I want to own so many houses. I want to have so many trillions. Let me ask you, what's next after possessing all these asset? Please be reminded that all these assets are good, its no crime to desire the very good things of life but after owning or attaining these things, what is next?  Many have been led into perpetual pain and regrets because they go out of their ways to acquire these things, they forget easily that these things are passing no matter how long you acquire them.  Be real to yourself, aviod whatsoever things that would dent your integrity because you wish or wan

  GOD took stones and formed mountains so high above man.. There they stand like  tree strong and beautiful From a distance they are inviting, closer to them they are alluring. As I passed by, I admiredans longed for a geel ans a walk on the mountains... I stopped to appreciate the handiwork of God, the awesome artist, who sets his materials in place to form something beautiful. Behold a beauty and the nature of what God had created.. His hands are perfect for creating only good things.. How do i explain the beauty i saw and aa such, i saw petals of flowers scatter and i imagined how he took hia time to fix them all in place at once. The joy glued to my heart i searched the words, I am left to admire the works of his hands ans appreciate how much he has done. Does God sleep, no the answer came and the words came by and recalled he is the omini worker and best designer and creator. What a God who fixes who designers and who beautify, the mountain smiled at me, I took a snap and blessed

  I was out with my friend and we decided to take a tour and explore around just to see the way things happen.  First we sat out, we saw a group of friends chilling ans enjoying their drink and pratically speaking English and their native language.  While they conversed, a certain Aboki man started playing his local music and decided to increase the volume of the radio, almost when he did, one of the men in the group of friends shunned him to tune off the radio and was asking the Aboki if he could find any of his brothers around where they sat down to enjoy their drinks.  Again, we left that place and proceeded to a coded domain and while tried to explore, we saw ladies of the underworld, who were dressed to kill and eat, they we work and party ready, all they cared about was to showcase what they have got, the skills they have to show and talents they are out to display.  I couldn't hold the breath for a minute, I ran like I was being chased, lots of thoughts engaged my mind and I

  Many would feel so unusual about this post, many would call me raw and spoilt, others would appreciate this write up, whatever your reactions, i plead your indulgence, rather than feel bad learn. Before loving making can take place between two lovers, there is a process that must take place and they are listed as follows : Caressing Romance Kissing Worship Resting Follow me as I enumerate this process without offending you, don't worry, you will enjoy this process and learn some new skills. CARESSING comes first, it entails a lot of appreciation, learn to appreciate your spouse, buy them gifts no matter how little, send them beautiful text messages to remind of how much you love them, appraise them and allow them enjoy your person. ROMANCE  it's hard work, you would need to learn how to be patient and loving without conditions, here the act is enduring and definatly, Its hard but necessary to accept the flaws of your partner, in the midst of fear, seek courage to m

  There is something about the choices we make, its one strong force that can either make us or mare us.  The power of a choice is indeed great to behold and if not given a great thought and discernment, leads to massive destruction or great acceleration in your life  THE CHOICE you make can affect the following : Change your life.. Often times many forget that the downtime in their lives is aa a result of the choices they made at one time or the other and as such they are either entangled or liberated..  Your family.... There is always an effect, either directly or indirectly that will affect your family in the choices you make, the repercussions are always there, likewise the gains too.  Your career path... No matter how you run or hide or stick to what you do, the choices are always clear with your vocational state of being, your career is affected with the choices you make.  The people around you.. Many have fall victims of your choice and many have also gained from the good choice

  Some once said, we all have something we are addicted to, which is most times our weakness and we find it so difficult to pull out from.  Truly, we all have one, but it becomes mostly acidic when we indulge in them at our own detriment and even paces threats to the lives of those around us, some habits include : SMOKING... Many smoke for various reasons.,which could be justified but it also poses a threat to their lives, many now go out of place to smoke unimaginable things, just to get high and become so addicted to it that their lives becomes worthless.  DRUNKNESS... Alcohol is one of the leading cause in road accidents today, so many drink and drive, many go to parties to drink to stupor and forget themselves, I am not here to discredit alcohol totally, we all have something we love yet we shouldn't do it to affect our lives and the lives of innocent people around us.  PROMISCUITY... Both men and women are caught up with this act, greed and unsatisfaction has led so many to ea

  Recently, I was out with my mum and all the time we had a chat she was always making reference to my being away. When she realised I would be away for some time she becomes home sick and a bit weary. Below is a conversation between my mum & I Mum...when are you coming back?  Me... Haba mummy, I haven't even gone.  Mum.. I just want to know when you would be coming back that's all.  Me... I will call to inform you.  Mum... Please just be this and that, she buttressed.  Me... Mummy, what is that? Don't you want me to go or what.? Mum.. No, I  have never said so, just that.. Me.. Am waiting spell it out. Mum.. I know you will be fine and all that but just can't wait for you to return.  Me.. Wait oooo mummy, is it that if I marry now, you would still behave like am a baby ehen.  Mum.. No matter how big you have become, you are still my baby.  Me.. Mummy, am not a baby o Mum... You are not, but am going to miss you.  Me.. Me too, I will but please stop being too emotio

  One of the biggest probelms in marriage is promiscuity,this singular act has eaten deep into the lives of many who indulge in it.  Both men and women are guilty of this habitual act of cheating on their partners for whatsoever gains they indulge with.  Certainly, cheating has many vices that is not palatable to the ears and not good to behold with the eyes.  There various things cheating does and it reduces and brings pains to those involved. Chocking... This vice is Chocking, you are obliged to always want to do things that is absurd ans as such, you are being chocked of something either monetary or bodily.  Demanding.. Did I say its demanding too,  there is no way you cheat and who so ever you cheat with won't be demanding and as such you are in between meeting the needs of these individuals even at your own detriments  Time consuming... Oh, because you are indulging in what you are not supposed to do, you find yourself stealing from your time and those of your partner to keep