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 Honestly, marriage isn't for the feeble hearted, it takes lots of grace to live with someone you never grew up with, someone you met along the way in life and you decide to spend the rest of your life with them. Love they say is blind most especially when you are courting and dating but it's highy different when you eventually get married, love turns to become an open reality, you either chose to ignore for peace sake or you talk about it and face the war therein. Often times, love isn't enough to sustain a home, there are so many things that supports and rekindles the home, yes love is one of them but never enough to keep that home going. Most times we are carried away and blinded by love when we fall in love but the hardest reality faces us when we get married and we are between leaving or staying, you checks all the pros and cons and decide what is best for you. There are some actions your spouse takes and do and you start to wonder why they did that, you never saw it c

 Why do men cheat she asked me?  Thinking of the best reply, I told her many are flirts and they love it that way.  Yet they are highy jealous with their own women and they don't share, i told her again.  It takes massive grace to be in a relationship, most especially when your partner hides a lot of things from you, still clings to apron strings and finds it hard to let go of past relationships she said.  Pray for your partner if you are with one, if he doesn't go after them, they come after him, I said. Many of them who are cheats, pretend alot and they are always quick to accuse the other of cheating and not being faithful.  Recently, they can show all forms of commitment to you but their minds are far form you.  They are so ready to defend and justice all their actions when they know you know about their shady affairs and they come out clean but certainly they pretend alot.  It's always easier for a woman in a relationship to adhere to her man and keep her affairs to ju

  If you have a decent mind, and earn decent money, and make decent financial decisions, and associate with decent friends, while marrying a decent person, no spiritual or physical force can prevent you from having a decent life-Genesis 8:22 Reno nuggets 

You and I would agree to the fact that in recent times, it's so hard to give coupled to the fact that we are in the end times where so much atrocities are committed, it's so hard to give freely without taking a second thought at the act.  We are in a community where one gives freely and you start hearing sad stories as how they diabolically use the destiny of the giver to incorporate evil,hence the act of giving is reduced because everyone is trying to play safe.  Recently, I was at a function, upon entering and leaving two people approached me to help them with transport fare back home, though I didn't have so much yet I shared with i had without taking a second look at my purse.  When I got to the bus stop to take a cab home, I realised I was 50 naira short of the fare, now I was stranded too. It was either I walked home or I approached the driver to help with what I had left.  So, I quickly approached the driver and told him I have 50 naira short of the exact fare, he ju

Recently, I had this urgent event I had to attend. As the day approached I went in search of a shoe because I had a dress code to adhere to. I searched online on various handles and marketplaces and high prices were much attached.  Again, I decided to explore the physical market to see if I will get what I wanted at a reasonable price but alas it was all the same, so expensive.  Finally, I decided to buy the ones I saw online just a few days before the event and wished I got it cheaper.  The event came by and I was chilling online with my thoughts on something different, when I stumbled at the same shoe I got a few days ago at a very high price with a different color at a very lower price, I stopped and made more research about this shoe, I called the vendor and asked about the price again and she even gave me a discount since I will be coming from far to pick the shoe and I went ahead to buy them the next day.  This singular episode taught me a great lesson in life, often times when w

Recently, I was listening to a couple online and they were very raw about themselves in marriage, they went as far as sharing wrong expectations they had for each other when they got married and they consequences they faced as a result of that singular thought. Don't marry anyone you don't agree with on anything or something at all, they said, you must be ready to compromise on your personal understanding and bend more often to accommodate your partner, else you aren't ready to stay married. You must learn to shift grounds, make ammends and sacrifice and compromise to accommodate the other, its in this regard that love grows speedily and remains faithful to you, also complementing your partner brings about fond and sweet memories that ignites them to you always. You should learn to  identify each other by knowing your strengths and weakness  and leverage on it, it helps you know when to react and get the best from your partner, often times we are so keen at dwelling on thei

 If  we take a census and ask young people especially why we marry, I am certain that we would get different types of reasons for why we marry, but ordinarily it should be fit for a common goal.  Without any debate there are 3 major reasons why we get married and in this summary you can choose to add your reasons where they fall to, below are the highlights. MANY PURPOSE  PRO-CREATION  PLEASURE /PAIN  Again let's align the above with percentage and explain why its so.  PURPOSE is 60 percent, PRO-CREATION IS 30 percent, WHILE PLEASURE is 10 percent. PURPOSE  It's so sad to know that many who get married don't know why they are getting married, so many feels that it's all about the fun and pleasure, more so society expects us to marry when we are of age and finally to have a partner at our old age and children who will take care of us then.  We marry to fulfil purpose, which is for compatibility, to help each other fulfil their destinies and more so to increase and multip

To all the correct, sensible, independent, strong, courageous, gorgeous generous, loving, caring, decent women, you are cherished Dear woman,  Live for the now, hope for a better future, remain beautiful and admit all challenges of life.   Know that you are a diamond in the sun ,we can't thank you enough for the times and times you stood selfless to make sacrifices for us.  She never sacrifices the love of her husband , the sanity of her home for selfish interest,  because these are what makes her a full woman whom the world admires. She is the woman whom the girl she was wished for, indeed she signifies love and sacrifice  Honour a woman Love a woman Respect a woman Bless a woman Educate a woman Polish a woman Secure a woman Give a woman Believe a good woman Celebrate a woman To bring out to the best in a woman, doing the listed above makes her a goddess, she can cross the oceans for you and make life worth living for you, she can echo a silent voice and you hear it a thousand ti

If I ask you the number of people in the whole world, you would say there are over a billion people in the world today.  The good news is that you have many close to you and the sad news is that you can't reach out to all in a life's time.  Oftentimes we keep malice and grudge with the living while we cry over people who are no more, so sad a reality.  We are so quick to slander and fight the living while we send flowers to the dead and even wish we could write them letters Now we distance ourselves from the living just because of a misunderstanding while we go to the cemetery to have a moment with the dead on regrets of the past.  It hurts so much that we hardly regard others because we feel we are better than them. Recently I watched a young lad who has a disability with cerebral palsy and he shared how he was treated at various occasions.  There you will find us wailing over a sick fellow who eventually died, truth be told, how did you impact on the living when you have the

  SOCIAL MEDIA USERS Dear social media users,  I hope this piece meets you well, take this as an updated reminder and be very conscious about it, honestly it should be kept in your entire being.  It has really come to my notice that a lot of these users take an opinion of others as an avenue to insult people, what i don't understand is the fact that when someone makes an opinion either contrary to a post or in support to a post, it is not and enough reason to either bully them or insults them for airing their thoughts.  Oftentimes the kind and type of insults and abuses you get is so annoying, you wonder if they know themselves before now and possibly if they have had a fight in their previous lives.  Again, let's learn to mind our business, if you aren't tagged, mentioned and no link to your personal identity, don't attack anyone's post or comments, it's so absurd how most adults lose their respect because they meddle words on subjects that isn't their conc

She started by narrating how her sister inlaw insulted the hell at her just because she isn't married, she went further to say how she welcomed this young lady when her brother was making his choice in choosing a life partner. Amina is the elder sister to Luke who married Lucy, Amina welcomed Lucy like a sister and mother and advices Luke so keenly on why she felt Lucy was the rigth woman for him, even after three years of dating, Luke considered her and left the other ladies. Four years after, Amina got a job in Kogi where her brother and his family resides, she thought it fit that she can stay with his brothers family prior to when she gets a place of her own amd since the brother also has extra room to accommodate her. She called the brother and told him about the offer, he said he would discuss with his wife and get back to her, few days later, Luke discussed with his wife and she vehemently objected, Luke was shocked at her reaction and wondered why, somehow they agreed she ca

Valentines day comes with so much expectations ranging from various activities and moods, validations and accommodations yet its a fact that it isn't limited to showing love to your loved ones alone. Most lovers exhibited their A-romance game to the fullest, while some remain dormant and so unborthered, the moods varies. Most singles were eventually hooked, while some didn't have an iota of what was going on, while some entered depression. I saw a lot happened yesterday, some where fully dressed in the colors of love and they went all the way to express love, again we saw some who were just doing their normal norm and going about their business. Just yesterday, there was lots of dramas that happened online, some ladies fought over a married man, another guy caught his girlfriend with another man while she told him she was home, the man displayed lots of fury, some were proposed to while some people received a massive heart break and the aftermath effect lies in their hearts. Oh

Let me start by defining violence as an action which causes destruction, pain, or suffering. Ideally, we try to avoid violence in resolving conflicts but oh not with a particular video I saw where a man brutally reduces his wife to an inanimate tool, the battering was so gruesome to watch, I wept.  He practically, naked her and went ahead to drag her on the coarse grounds with rocky stones and all kinds of harmful objects, of course he didn't consider the fact that she would sustain lots of injuries.  Another painful video was also seen in a living room where the man was hitting his wife so hard with their baby lying so close, he used his hand to fling the baby aside, the mother screamed like her life depends on the child.  Why do we choose to resolve our differences with violence?  What has stopped the place of communal dialogue?  Why don't we take out time to know why the other person behaves differently?  Why are we so quick to slander and render insults that are so distaste

I saw a video recently that was showing various life's stages and the joys and wars it brings. Friendzone, single, in a relationship, engaged, married, separated, divorced, widowed and not interested, these and even many others not listed therein. Life comes with these inevitable stages and we either choose to live by them or they blow us out with its challenges or wars, yet these life stages also have its benefits and joy, as they come, take them and live by them. Many times we are told to accept the things we can't control and manage the things we can't change, if we must live by the rules of life before us. Life is a battle, the world is your arena, to face the darkness the world brings, you must be pure in your heart to overcome the fears and its challenges as they come. In all these stages, learn not to do anything hastily, else you will have yourself to blame, an ideal is the most precious yearning and zeal in life. Someone once said "do not for one setback, give

I have come to realise that we have this attitude of castigating or sending the wrong signals on people when they fail to do our bidding, irrespective of the fact that they have their own problems to deal with. We are quick to know who has changed but we don't care to know why they changed, we are hesitant to judge them while we keep our own short comings to the back, we slander and even go ahead to inflict pain because they chose to be themselves. He was always there for them, he has no life of his own, he became a shadow of himself to satisfy the other's desires and needs yet he was taken for granted and used like a tool without maintenance. He then changed and became more conscious, he allowed himself to be free and made himself a priority, he took care of himself and cared less, he had a life of his own, set goals and lived out his dreams, he became happier than ever. When they saw he was happier they felt bad, they waged war against him and fought him to the knees, they wa

The realities are within us and its so clear that we are at the mercy of what we believe in to help us all get away form this wickedness in our times. A Certain man, lured two young boys between 11 and 13 to help him carry some load in a near by provision store and promised to give them each one thousand naira each. Now one of these boys was sent on an errand by the sick mum before he met this dubious man on his way, for whatsoever reasons he didn't decline the offer of cause because of the monetary value, he forgot about the errand and followed the stranger, when the two boys got to the shop, the man bought goods worth 70, 000 and told the shop owner to let his children stay in his shop while he withdraws money to bring to him and then carted away with the goods. Now, the shop owner waited for this man's return and he was no where to be found, he then asked the two boys if they know the man, both of them said yes, funny enough they remained there untill evening, untill wh