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  This piece actually goes to both men and women but about this subject "the billion dollar question"  goes to the ladies. When a man you long for pray for and give your all to pops the question , you won't hesitate to say yes to his proposal. Saying yes isn't the big deal but the responsibilities, commitments, accountability, sacrifice, and challenges that comes with it. Now to both the giver and receiver lies a future of uncertainties and realities so hard to ignore. Here comes the dramatic part of saying yes without thinking of the hard consequences and all they see is the beautiful moments. There you go, all you want to do is please your partner, wait on them, make sure they are happy and go all the way to be their guidance and even become more than an angel to them. We worry about them, we want the best for them, we give them the best and ready to bless them wherever and however you can. Just a question can change you, either it makes you or mares you but

We make due with the cards we have dealt, yet it seems like nothing happened When you find one, you make it worth the while, certainly you would regret less. Falling in love isn't for torture, don't play with the emotions of anyone, the end piont isn't rosy. Its more torture when the rejection is facing you in the face of reality but brace up, its better that way. Saying good bye to love is setting yourself free form the eternal bonds that holds you, its better than staying and living in perpetual pain. But when love decides to stay no matter the fear and pains therein then you know love is within. The heart bears the pain and letting go, the head plays the memories and the eyes bleeds the burns. Love clears all haze, it stares up the pains hidden in a the past yet love soothes the worry Sharing the pain within and living in shambles, love like a pinnacle, so hard to attain, so golden to treasure. Love isn't silent, it brings so much scars, a mystery of a dest

Picked a rose from heaven and I gave it to one best influence The rose wasn't shinning but, the touch of this best influence , made it glow.. This best influence makes even the most hardest things, soft and easy, what love is poured. I smiled at best influence and blessed the creator for his creation, what an idol, what a soul. Yes, this best influence is an idol I cant worship but, I can adore because its my heart robber. Robbers me of my pains and replaces it with endless joy  what best influence indeed Indeed, if you find best influence , you are almost  close to  worship your idol, that radiates positivity The bliss this best influence gives, is more than a blessing, eruditely and intellect and a joygiver. Joygivers only comes from best influence because they are higher than the angels. Together, me plus best influence , we are unstoppable and we create a force, a bliss. Bliss of knowing a best influence makes you soar above the heavens even on earth Earth hear me,

One thing they don't tell you about getting opportunity of a life time is that you would be so afraid of making a mistake, because these opportunities don't come twice Be uniquely unique in your own ways  just be your self and express your simplicity. . You would be amazed what people say in front of you especially when they feel you don't understand they are saying. Your values would make way for you, the vision you see makes your goals easier to achieve because this the purpose that drive you to your misson.  Recall always that you aren't in any competition with anyone in life, rather seek to improve yourself and becomea better version of yourself.  Don't allow anyone or conditions to put you in surpressed pressure, keep your mind awake to the realities of time and work out your future now Admist all the trials and challenges of life seek for peace, promote justice, share love and project equity, learn to serve and give in your very best, that seems ro be the best

Most recently, events of our times has indeed opened my eyes to a hidden inevitable truth and which is this, everything in life has a process, its hard to believe but true. You are in a relationship and all you want is that your plans work well , my dear , there is  process, working for or against you, as the situation calls in, you cant stop it, its a process. We have kids and here we are, we want them to do the rigth thing always and you see them doing other wise, you are weary, even at this there is a process going on. She is expecting a baby,, she is always undergoing a process, and as such, we all wait for it, watch out for her or we either rejoice with her or cry out our pains with her, a process still You embark on a journey, which ever means you take, entails a process, which will either be fruitful or not an experience you will never want to share with any one, yet it is a process Hmm, do I need to talk about our country, let me give them a space here, there is always a

Happiness is free, go to where you are being accepted, don't push or force it, you owe yourself the right to be happy and more so you owe nobody any explanations about yourself. Chose your friends , I repeat chose your friends, never ever allow them chose you.. NEVER, the consequences are very great. Share what you have , even if you are taken for granted, karma meets up with bad people, you don't need to be there to see it, certainly in life, it comes. Dare to be different, no matter what and who you represent, some day they will remember you for good. While you drill , don't allow haters, distractors, ill lucks  and negative minded people near you, learn to detect them and do what's best for you. Be yourself in a world full of uncertainties, Be yourself, knowing that you are unique, Be yourself not to change for others to accept you Rather being yourself paves way for you and kills hurts your haters. You either learn to tolerate & manage people or you ig

Life has various ways of appealing to us, dealing with us and also teaching us its paths and way. Many a time we want fun, romance and all forms of pleasures,  but life will either give us the opposite of them all, then it seems like we aren't making progress as to what we want and even still the become bad omen for us, then you start to wonder why you ventured in the first place. More so many of us love to go on adventures to explore the world and all its beauties but alas we get the very unusual when we eventually do. Spirituality, has brought lots of uncertainties and as such, its main essence isn't lived fully rather iit brought lot of division and discrimination amongst us and we wonder if we can ever be united again. Many region long to have education, many are outrightly deprived of it yet other have full access to it, truly life isn't balanced, no matter how good education is  it also has it defects on us all. The sole of our lives is the business we we do and

  The best days are here.. The doors didn't just open.its opened Looking forward and now When you realise you needed no one to be complete, but now you want them in your corner forever. The moment lighted. The sunshine in the darkness The bliss and haze makes you wonder. The fears of the unknown, the worrisome moments and the uncertainties of the now, You become speechless and remain glued to life and you find it hard to let go Sometimes, love isn't enough, the realities are always clearer, the confusion lasts for a while yet you are kept wondering for a life time, shrinking because of life, having a part of it than losing it all along. Love has no denials, the vague realities make it obvious that loving is the thing of the mind if he or she isn't deserving then allow them go but love isn't selfish. . Getting married, planning a future and having a family is one of the greatest thing life gives us, choosing a life partner amd staying married is one of the h

  It hurts me to see how some people grow to be nonchalant in taking care of children. So many recall how traumatising the ordeal they go through in having children of their own. Adesuwa and hubby, recently narrated how they went through the process of ivf(intro viral fusion) to make babies and the pains of waiting and being criticised and even bullied. Its so sad when we see children and babies uncared for and left to wonder like sheep without shepherd's. Some wicked mothers would have this innocent children and decide to throw them away in the trash to die, while some fathers will either not contribute to their welfare or they even go tothe extent of selling them off. Recently, I saw a picture online about a missing child, looking at the picture you would see how unkempt the child was, lying on the ground with very dirty clothes and looking so malnutritioned and dejected. Someone would say "you don't know what you have untill you lose it, many also don't value

Love causes a lot of things most especially in marriage relationships Love makes us tolerate even the most unbelievable things. Love makes accept mistakes wholeheartedly. Love makes you endure abject pain with so much joy Love harbours fears and worry of the unknown, yet we remain committed in all. Love is the reason why we accept all faults and stay resilience. Love is the only reason why we remain so humble and accept the future we know nothing about. Love comes with lots of uncertainties, the welcomed troubles and the bliss of the moment. Love indeed is sacrifice, love is truly forgiving and its the total acceptance of a person irrespective of who the person is. Love remembers no faults, no past, no mistakes, its the sunlight in a darken space. Love readily endures the internal wars. Love softens the harden and strengthens the weak. Love is the prove that you can always see in reality, its deficiencies leaves you perplexed Love isn't just words, rather is an action

There are lots of assumptions associated with marriage, most recently I took a survey on some of the trouble in marriages in our generation and below are some of the listed. READING MINDS: Most partners have chosen to be mind readers in their relationship, rather than discuss with their partners they chose to read their minds and eventually fall into big trouble with their spouse as a result of  negative assumption. NOT HELPING OUT: Some relationships are in shambles as a result of the fact that one of the partner carries all the load while the other finds it difficult to lend a helping hand and as such, their relationships becomes a shadow of its self. CARRIED AWAY: There are lots of things that makes either one of the partner or both to be carried away in their relationship, what ever the reasons are which of cause is unlimited to count its always better to align your thoughts and action and not allow them bring trouble in your marriage. REVENGE GAMES : Certainly, there must

  The grass seems greener away on someone's else spouse,stick to your own and make it work, proverbs 5:3-4 The lips of another mans wife looks attractive but leave you in pains, its very hard to stay disciplined but it's worth the while n Hebrews 13:4 marriage is honourable amongst all, bed undefiled,its one of the hardest challenge in marriage yet you save yourself lots of worries. God condemns the sin of the fleash so much Matt 15;19-20, yet keep making ammends, be careful about your sences, everything happens in our sences to the mind, then you conceive it, before you act it out, watch what you see..what you hear and what you do. Appreciate your spouse, call him/her sweet names, buy him/her gifts, spice up your marriage, make people jealous on your marriage on your show of respect and submission for each other. Why marry when you don't intend to make your spouse your friend, dont marry who is available, . Marry who you love and loves you back and stay married Adu

  Stand up for your wife, that the best you can do, every woman wants to be sure about her man to defend her any time any day, its our pride. Bending in marriage is very key and it sorts a lot of marital saga. Yea,they say women are complicated but most men are highly complicated too yet it's a rule for each one to learn to compromise at ever cost. Let no one see you as a specimen when marriage comes to play.every marriage has its own guidelines and none is same The blessing of marriage is when both families come in agreement wholeheartedly,  prays and supports you both to make things more easier for the couple. Marriage brings about lots of humility and respect of everyone involved, someone says women are meant to be seen not heard, while the men are to take charge of matters and take control of situations Men are expected to be a man and lord while women are expected to be attentive, when marriages comes to play, you will find difficult individuals who are out to spoil and