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  Its so sad, when you see what people go through in the name of keeping up with beauty and maintaining a state of being just to get attracted.  Many put up with so much pain unbearable, many spend resources that could feed a nation and so many die even during the process of the aftermath effect of what they have done to themselves.  SMALL BREAST... We all have body types and of course appreciate your body the way it is, in the process of enlarging your breast, you come in terms with cancer and that puts a threat to your life. BIG BUTTOCKS... Ladies are so fond of going for surgery to enlarge the buttocks, the pain is hell and the cost of maintainece is very expensive,  they do this because they want to get the attension and attraction of a man and mostly for their clothes to fit.  VERY TALL/TOO SHORT... Learn to appreciate yourself, there is little or nothing you could do to change this, you were formed unique and as such you don't have another of your kind.  EDUCATED/UNSKILLED..

  Believe this : There is a beast in every man, no matter how gentle or innocent you are.  About this write up, this not to encourage any form of violence but permit me to say there is limit to human endurance.  Certainly, newton's 3rd law of motions says : To every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction, and that applies in all areas of life.  Am going to lay my emphasis on this issue with domestic violence.  Many a time we hear from one partner and we fail to hear from the other, sadly one of the issues that causes this violence are very trivial things.  So flimsy and so uncalled for, most times we fall to tame our mouth, we indulge in stupid acts and dare our partner because we feel they can't harm us.  Ladies are mostly in the habit of insulting, hitting first and daring a man, with the mindset that he wouldn't raise a finger at her, but alas the story is always different.  Not all men have self control to ignore the rubbish you portray as habit that could be v

  We are all addicted to one type of drink or the other, even water. While I was about to discard the bottles, I counted how many I had drank within a month. For me, after I attended a seminar last year about green House effects on our world, I changed my orientation and started having separate bin for my used water bottles and tin cans. I thought it through and it saddens my heart about the country we live and find ourselves , when it rains you would see a lot of these cans and bottles blocking our little drainage and as such we all suffer the effects.  What stops these indigenous companies from having bottles collectors built around our communities, it should be automated and easy to access,there by making it rewarding. Take for instance, they build a hub that collects used bottles, when you slot in the bottles , the system recognises you and gives you a code after a certain number of bottles has been collected from you, they pay you a token. This approach saves a lot from both parti

  In this place, a lot happens. Funny Crazy Naughty Intelligent Educative Dramatic Soliciting Insulting The list is so endless, but the bottom line lies on one fact, you either chose to chat with them or you ignore their chats. As a woman, you will always receive messages on a daily basis with various motives. The funniest part is when you fail to chat them, most of these people would insult the life off you, like you owe them to reply or you had a quarrel with them before now. How funny and crazy it is to see a total stranger call or place a video call to you without your consent, I just wonder where they got thier home training, most times when you disconnect these calls, you see them persisting and as such you are left with blocking the stupidity off them.  Sadly , many whom you try to give a little bit of your time , instead of them to maximise their time and be more propelling, you rather hear things like : I want to marry you Send me a copy of your recent pictures I will send you

  I came across the full meaning of MR & MRS and I got excited as to why he kissed me so passionately. MR.. MATURED & RESPONSIBLE MRS. MATUTED, RESPONSIBLE & SUBMISSIVE While he kissed me, I realised that he did so with all sence of commitment and devotion and I fell so lowly under his lordship. Maturity and responsibility are the sole aim of getting married, submission makes it looks like a topper in a cake, when you fully submit in marriage, it makes even the hardest things look so small. Permit me to emphasis that if you are not matured in all aspect that has to do with marriage, please don't get married, the list is so much but you must represent fully emotionally, physically, physiologically, mentally, financially, spirituality and otherwise. Responsibility, is totally accountability of selves, there is no way, you live for another without being accountable to them. Its takes time and sacrifice, it is commitment and hard work, it makes you response to the needs of

  So much for loyalty, they compress you and make you feel worthless.. Certainly they are waiting for your downfall and tears.  Now, you are a threat to them, there you become a pest and they want you gone. They make a deal with the devil, they want you dead, they find a way to eliminate you. They are uncomfortable about the choices you made, it makes them feel threatened. No matter how cool, calm and valuable you are, indeed you pose a threat to them They can't put up to your transparency and sincerity. They can't be subordinate to your simplicity of purpose. They watch me burn, they are happy I cried, they feel better when am pained, they laugh out louder seeing me worry. What a feeling of distaste, they are proud and cozy about my downtimes,  she is vulnerable they say. I make the people stare, I am the center of a world so close to them, I step in and make a huge difference. They fail to appreciate my efforts, they trample on my kindness, they scream at my good gesture, the

  I saw your pictures in a group and decided to peruse your Facebook wall and pictures, I find you most attractive and of course you should model for my company if you so desire. I am rigth on your inbox to see how that can be achieved, permit me to call you and let's discuss further. GUY... Hello, you are a beautiful woman and certainly you have a spot already ME.. Oh, many thanks, I appreciate GUY... I can easily connect you to top notch personalities in all sectors and before you know it your face is everywhere. ME.. what does it take to achieve this, I asked GUY... This Nigeria and nothing goes for nothing, I am giving you are rare privilege many ladies would jump to. ME... Really, tell me GUY... It is a symbiotic kind of partnership and we both would enjoy all the packages there in ME... I still don't understand, how is that possible, I queried GUY... I am going to date you to secure your spot from the people I am going to introduce you to and whatever proceeds you make fr

  I was waiting for my corn to be roasted while I sat down and watched people waking along the road with different goals to achieve.  I noticed women mostly and the passion behind their goals.  She backs her baby : There she comes backing her baby and walking as fast as she could, certainly to catch up with the evening meal and wait on her family, believe me nothing can stop such a woman.  She carries load on her head:  Here comes another, probably in her late forties with a load as heavy as a rock, walking briskly and sliding all huddles stopping her from getting to her finish line.  She catwalks for show: She is in her early twenties and all dressed up gorgeously for the nigth, ready to catch a bait with what she owns , the nigth is her labor time and as such, she wins here.  She is walking side by side by her partner: I am certain, she and her partner are working class individuals, who probably met at a place and they are walking home together, glued by his side, she needs all the r

  Most times people just blame you for the choices you made not knowing the options before you.. Learn from your mistakes and danm their opinions, they would have done worse if they were in your shoes In all you do, try and be better than the worst you have been through. We all could be better if we are willing to make sacrifices yes it won't erase the past but can correct a future. People would always say... Good or bad, we are programed to act out one virtue or vice, so dwelling on people's opinion can cause a significant redundance in your life. Brace up to the present, ignore the past and buy into a future of planned uncertainties and inevitable occurrences. We all have our fair share of secrets and no one is without a past because the present is made up of the past but we live for the now and hope for a future better than our now. You can't hide the truth from yourself, declare your past to that whom you deem fit to tell, else take your past to your grave if you

 Happpy birthday 🎂 to me Your presence made me Your grace I enjoyed Your faithfulness to the end Indeed am bkessed I am super grateful for life I have all the reasons to give thanks Indeed you have done what no man can do For this and many more, I say thank you Lord What a mighty God I serve Despite all the storms of life  here i am here again. Here I stand unshaken, for you are with me and I can't stop counting my blessings. Thank you for me Thank you for best influence Thank you for everything Thank you thank you thank you Ahudiya, Best influence an asset indeed Nmasinachi  ada dinma Remain evergreen 🎊 Indeed I count and am fulfilled  So much to thank God for What a day to be merry  God's blessing i have seen  Surely, I have come to appreciate all yhe seasons and time.  The pains ans the plans the process is worth the time  So happy a day like this came by.  Happy 😊 birthday 🎂 to me

  Perfection is not attainable but if you chase perfection you can attain excellence. What you don't respect you can't appreciate.. What you don't appreciate you cant transact. . Talents and skills are not enough without hard work, dedication, doggedness and consistency.. Do something now and have your tomorrow secured. If you do the crime you will do the time either in jail or in death or in pain, its best you stay away from crime, it has no gains Learn to accept defeat or failure wholeheartedly , it helps you move on very quickly What you attack you can't attract.. What you hate you can't have..  What you don't like you must not buy.. Don't waste your life following a vehicle going no where.  How can you be recognised when you can't be found? You are what you attract, the law is simple. You spend time with what you love doing . Make sure its something very productive. Don't live another man's life, yours is too big to let go wi

  Promise me you stay with me, we figth for what we have and win this war together.. Life isn't governed by miracles but by principles, chose to forgive your partner in advance, its the highest form of love.. There would always be trials and mistakes in marriage but you must be ready to figth & face it and overcome it with love.. Marriage last long not because they are destined to but because both involved make a conscious effort to make it work.  Marriage is a union between two great forgivers, if you don't forgive, please don't marry, to aviod murder and suicide. Appreciate your spouse, come softly,speak well of him or her, uncover his/her feet., make them comfortable and lay him/her down, be a peace exhibitor. As you both age, the generator goes down, then what keeps /spices /holds the marriage at this piont? Love isn't enough,, make sure you find that thing that spices your marriage beyond love. Dear you , Don't marry a man or woman who has no mentor, someon

  In this most clinching times when our country is at the verge of political disarray about the common rights of her citizens, it is better we open your eyes to what leadership is all about.  One of the biggest probelm of Nigeria is bad leadership, this probelm has lingered for a very long time.  At 60, we are still clueless, uncertain, unknowing and baseless, our leaders has failed woefully and we are mopping around like sheep without a shepherd.  The after math effects of bad leadership and governance is really telling on us and as such we are all seeing the repercussional effect, which is a negative vice.  You ask me, who is a leader?  I am not going to give you the defination of a leader from the dictionary, but I would rather say that a leader is an enabling personality.  So,permit me to say that leadership is an enabling act. A leader who has influence and inspiration can be said to have strong leadership qualities.  Invariably, allow me to put this equation like this  Influence

  I wonder why.. But I am an adult.. I know my self and I take responsibility Am accountable to myself before any other. Allow me make my own mistakes Allow me take my own decisions Certainly, I can decide my own life Don't police me around, am an entity The times have changed, so am I too I know what is best and good for me You can't decide what it is on my inside I chose to be who and what I want to be. Having watched the process and progress Am scared for myself but I have to make my own decisions and decide my fate in this life Pray for me if you truly care, thats all you owe me The impact you can make was when I was much younger, now am a moving force, nothing stops me but me, don't pressurise, I chose to me what I want to be, no matter how much you influence. I am an adult I make my mistakes and take my blames I make ammends and prepare for a chance tp make a difference, applaud me when am good, pray for me when I fail, but don't scare me, you are not better than

  Life isn't about you, do I remind you that you were created for a purpose and you definatly would give account of it some day. When last did you visit an orphanage? When last did you visit the prison? When last did you visit the hospital? When last did you go to the cemetery to pray for the dead and also think about your own death? When last did you sow a seed to impact souls? When last did you give alms to a begger? When last did you cloth the naked? When last did you feed the hungry? When last did you share a cup of water? I know you are not accountable to these people, they are not your concerns, I also understand they are not your priority, no probelm, but no matter how you ignore them now, you will be asked about them one-day. The life you live is your own but the reality is that someone greater gave you this life on rent and surly you will return it to the rightful owner.  Enjoy all you can Buy all you desire  Visit the best places in the world Acquire the very best of life

  You wonder why the rich are still in business You baffled why we keep struggling from inception till we are weak. You can relate why we keep wanting more and more... The answers are close to us, the whole world isn't enough for us. Human wants are unlimited, economics revealed that to us. We are just insatiable, our quench for more ends only when we fade away. Now you see reasons why many wants to acquire all to themselves, they want to have everything and still want more, yet we are still unlimited. No matter how exposed you are in education or attached in religious beliefs, we are wired to be attracted to the good things of life and that is why we are unlimited to the things we long for. Set yourself free from the unlimited wants of life, they are truly draining, the more you want the more you find yourself wanting more.  The realities are set before us, be true to yourself don't allow little nothings make you lose focus of the goals, be contented with what you have no matt

  I know you are so knee to knowing, many are so impatience to wait for who this man is and finally many wants to finally meet him Well his name is BEST INFLUENCE.(make una dey find the person) he is so close yet very far from the thoughts of many. But the good news is that if you have a best influence in your life there are some characteristics you must posses. Your BEST INFLUENCE must : Make you love for no reasons.  Make you accountable at all times.  Make you be able to share your pains and fears, joy and happiness with each other.  Make you hope for a future you have long awaited.  Make you share a sence of commitment and sacrifice without fears.  Make you pray, care, show concern, exhibit confidence and maturity in all given situations. See, when you are in love with someone who loves you back, it shows in all you do. Even when the situation is unpalatable, you have someone to share your world with. Truly, there is a man or woman for you, it might take time but surely they are cl

  Many a time we have so many expectations about our partner and most of the time we fall apart from them because we assume alot about them. It is very good and better to know more about your partner and don't assume about them. We are different individuals coming from various backgrounds and have different idealogies and perceptions to life. It is also keen to know that we will reason differently and have different reactions to life. Don't expect your partner to think like you always, act like you and do things the way you do them, just find some one who shares in your beliefs and is also ready to appreciate your differences. Don't align thoughts with the fact that your partner is educated, He or she is an entity on her own before they met you, appreciate your difference and celebrate your beliefs. Do all you can to educate and share your thoughts with your partner, if you have waving beliefs or disagreement, certainly it will come, just find a common ground to fall on. It

You don't take a knife to a gunfire, there is a reason why you must be prepared and stay alof. You are beautiful and you shine like the diamonds in the sky but you can be very cheap without priorities. There is a huge difference between availability and capability, both go hand in hand in self development and adding value. Make your self available to learning new things and updating yourself in a world full of innovations. You are capable if you can function in your domain of choice and even more, of a fact you become an asset if you can do what others do very well. Don't limit yourself with what you hear and see around, make a difference by subjecting yourself to knowing, indulging and upgrading yourself. Don't stop at nothing, open your mind to the realities of the now and enlighten your thoughts to the unseen of the future, thereby you are not caught off guard. Remember, we all have various goals and different attainments in life, while you run your race be clear about y

  Find someone who emits peace , who exhibits peace, who carries peace , who gives peace, who lives peace. When you find the right person you really want to be with EVEN THE BIGGEST OBSTACLES BECOMES NOTHING.. Don't let anyone take advantage of you, what will be will be effortlessly an there are no conditions in true love.  Dont be pressurised or conditioned to prove love or something  let your yes be your yes and your no be your no.  Those who know your worth will do whatsoever it take to stand by you, remember honesty is very expensive not everyone can afford it.  Also recall that, if you are not a priority then you are an option,no matter what happens don't force your way into the life of anyone.  If its reciprocated, give in your all to it, make your relationship work and stop comparing your relationship with others.  Be the best in your relationship, it's hard, yes it is, your partner might not be perfect neither are you, all that matter is that you are true to yoursel

  I went straigth to my mum and asked her , how she was able to live with my dad for over 3 decades and still counting.  My mum told me she never dated nor courted my dad then, it was marriage based on recommendation and approval of her parents, though she has a say too in the choice of choosing her life partner , because she was aaked if she wanted to marry him. There is this traits my dad puts on and personally I don't think I can ever cope with such a man, don't get me wrong my dad is a very sweet and loving man, but of cause no man is perfect.  Hence I asked my mum, how did you cope with my dad in marriage? Then my mummy sat me down and explained to me,. My daugther she said: There is so many unsaid things our parents never told us before we got married. You are to figure out the pattern at which your own marriage is playing out Marriage is deeper than the physical its more emotional and spiritual combined but what we all see is the physical today.  What you see in marriage

 SUCCEED ADMITS ALL Our greatest glory is not in falling, but in the rising every time, we fall. We fall to rise again. Success belongs to those who wake up every morning and pursue their dreams and not jobs. Regardless of the hardships, disappointments, struggles, insult, and rejections, and so on, they refuse to give up. Success is for those who have made up their mind not to give up, not to give in, and not to throw in the towel. Success is for those who have said, “it is not over until I win”,  Success is for those who don't suffer from what will people say syndrome. Success is for you; never underestimate the ability and the potential that has been invested in you.  You've got greatness within you and you deserve to be successful.  Success begins in the mind of an individual.  If you think success, you see success.  Make honest efforts not to dwell on your failures because the future is bright Never listen to doubters  Never listen to naysayers Never listen to haters Never

  Life has so many faces you know,  Whatever comes your way, face it Many a time, it isn't rosy yet it will pass Don't give up on whatever shows up.  Take a leap of faith,  Forget how it will be done Trust that God is aware Then do your part and leave the rest to him I am a woman full  his grace I live so consciously knowing who I have I am not carried away by what happens around I chose to remain steadfast and focused.  Trusting the all supreme God, who is aware.  Who knows the very end from the onset.  Who never forgets his chosen.  Who is always on time and never late.  No matter how good or bad you are, you will still have some people who will  never rest but to find a vice or vices about you. You never can please people, even Jesus couldn't please all, so free your selves from these set of people who got negative energies,they never find anything good in you. They are called fault finders, petenders.fake lifers dubious scammers and even friends who don't trust your

  Any man who truly wants you for you will never be desperate about you.. He will be very patient with you no matter what happens.  A man who is solely concerned about your body will put sex first on the list and of cause they have nothing more to offer you.  No matter how smart, beautiful and intelligent you are, they are blind to see your real asset rather they are only wired to take a part of your flesh and you see them chasing the next.  Such men who are particular about sleeping with you, will find no other value you carry other than bedding you.  These men are so much in a hurry to take you to their hotel beds and even if they take you home, believe me, that is how they change ladies like sanitary pads.  Am for real, they never have a stable relationship, because all they are concerned about is for the now.  They are really crunny and quite, they feel you are will easily fall for them because of their nature which you fail to realise on time.  Check their profile, they hardly com

  Experience they say differ in many, yet one has to be very careful in life ,avoid in fact, expel yourself from people who are too desperate and anxious in life, they never go far,.  Experience  they say has taught me to just stare at people who when they are in great need of something or wants a project done , they can go ANY length to get you involved but alas when it is been executed with your trials and scorns, not  minding your pains too, they grow into an unbelievable domain and so forget “the humble beginning’’  I share a hard thought and as such I am weaken to say that such folks should be encouraged to build their empire alone because building with people will eventually ,make them create so much foes around.  Remember no man is an island, you can’t build an empire alone in life no matter your skills and talents in life, or better still set a forest alone,  you can only but pray, work and set yourself on track and ask God to build your territories, so that you can be an impac

  Keep your marriage away from social media and from any sort of third party Allow God alone lead you through, marriages are under attack by the ruler of this world and because his target are on good families, he wants them to make mistakes that would break the family so that you would divorce your spouse and the children becomes vulnerable and your partner can have multiple sex relationships. Sort snd resolve all differences immediately, don't allow them sleep over a second. Correct in love and learn not to keep malice and grudge, its so unhealthy.  The world isn't happy that you are happy in your marriage, they want you to be like them with failed marriage because the devil is done with you so he needs a next victim. Cover your ears and eyes to nay sayers, home destroyers, bad influencers who are just out to soil your union. The likes of power tussle competition amongst spouse, equality and jealousy amongst couples must stop, it yields nothing but hates, divorce and separati

  The list keeps growing endlessly and it make you wonder why is happening when you hear the word marriage. Those who are married wants to leave their marriage, while those who are single wants to get married. Apart from celebrities getting married and divorcing, we have many other people who aren't celebrities leaving their marriage on a daily base. Take a critical statistics on the list of Nigeria celebrities who at one time left their marriage because of domestic violence and cheating. Funke Akindele Iyabo Ojo Stephanie Okereke Victoria  Iyama Ini Edo Toyin Abraham Mercy Aigbe Stella Damascus Faithia Balogun Lilian Esoro Doris Simeon  Regina Askia Dolly Unachukwu Eucharia Anobi Tonto Dikeh  Kate Henshaw  Ini Edo  Caroline ekanem Mercy Aigbe  Damilola Adegbite Monalisa Chinda  Chika Ike Tiwa Salvage  Toke Makinwa Ayo Adesanya Uche Ogbodo Shan George  Clarion Chukwurah Chiege Alisigwe Foluke Daramola Juliet Ibrahim  Billy Wright  Anne Njemanze Jackie Appia You will agree with me t

  Never assume you  know a person until they proven themselves to you positively or negatively. Give any relationship time to prove its worth,friendship,partnerships, familyship and marriageship.  People aren't what they seems to project , they hide under so many covers in so much pretences,but don't be dismayed at all, time will expose what they are doing in life.  To aviod so much pain and hate learn not to be too emotionally attached to people no matter the type of relationship you have or keep with them.  The hurts can be very unbearable and that is why you see too many violence and murder cases, some even go to the extremes by committing suicide when they can't stand a heart break.  Know your worth and place in the life of people around you, don't give in too much as to forget your self and stop building your happiness around them, they can leave you at any time. Intensionaly or not.  Chose to be different because you are a special breed, don't live in glass ho

  Guess in the end we start thinking about the beginning. Locked up in a box, restricted, can't be where you want to be, you feel you are at liberty but you are limited.  Life can be very hard, when you always watching out for others but you are locked up in your own mess.  Release yourselves from the things you can't let go of, most times we substitute virtual situations for meanful situations, stay within yourself, you don't have to answer to anyone. Every body is afraid of something and that is how we know we care about things, because we are afraid we will lose them. Most times we are afraid of not being there, really, we didn't get to where we are now by doing smart things all the time, rather even our fears pushed us this far. Yes, it's very hard to let go ,it's painful to start all over, it takes time to forget and forgive, but if we can truly do these things sincerely we will be better of and saving ourselves from lasting pain. Many have been consumed by

  Tell me one good reason why we should celebrate today? List all the sweet reasons why you won't give up on Nigeria.  State the benefits of been a Nigerian.  Enumerate why you believe Nigeria will work again A man of 60 years old without a home, a family retirement plan and good legacy to leave behind, how much longer does he have to make things rigth before he dies. Believe all you want, they will say "Nigeria will be great again" Maybe not in this generation but in the world to come. Again, they say its left for you and I, hmmm I wonder what difference we will make, when we are not even given a chance.. Lastly, the emancipation of a freedom is the best solution, free us, let's quietly live and leave for ourselves and watch how great you would be. What is in for a nation where the lives of its citizens doesn't matter.  What is in for a country that has so much to share but all the wealth goes round and round within a circle of people known as gullible leaders?