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  Okay let's all pretend we are married and we were all asked to share the success and failures of our marriage, oh I can imagine we won't go home that day. So many remember their anniversary and say sweet and beautiful things about their union while some wished that date never existed. Take a poll online use a vibrant group and make a  post about marital joy and pains, am very certain that the poll will end with alot of anonymous coming inbox to share their pains so that no one links them with what they are suffering in marriage. Yet some who are truly enjoying their marriage too will also want to go inbox to share their stories because they are scared of some people using their success stories to wage war against their union. A woman narrated how her husband invited his concubine's friends to beat her up in her matrimonial home because she complained about his incessant cheating she further expressed her pains as she was backing a 6months baby on the said date while

  Just this morning, I logon to my Facebook handle to behold a lot of atrocities happening all around us and I keep wondering why all these incessant events that are so disheartening. A young lady in her teens was caught at a market scamming people of their hard earned money, she comes in as a customer and opts to pay you via transfer only to scam you with a fake alert and goes scot free untill she was caught this morning. Again, another two matured women we caught on their way to lagos from owerri with stolen babies kept in a sack and when asked they said they were on their way to lagos to sell the babies before they were apprehended. This one is so funny but true, a church pastor and a lady were caught making out on the pulpit with the doors wide open, they were beaten by church members and disgraced. If i ask you too, am very certain you also have your own story to add the manace happening around us.  The world is going bananas, every nook and crannies lies one manace being committe

  A man in his purpose knows and understands his responsibility. It's embedded in his character and certainly he assumes responsibility and becomes accountable. He knows how to prioritize you because he's building towards his destiny. Most of the guys women take on as partners and have to beg them to ' do right! , often times doesn't end well, Being a man is taking charge. So true, a man should know his position  how to treat a woman how to make her happy and doing the needful as at when due. Every queen loves consistency from her man, it shows highy level of acceptance and responsibility. Hear this gospel truth . If we're not getting what you want in a man or relationship, you have to love yourself enough to walk away . More so learn the hard way to wait on God. He will direct your path. Again, you should never have to beg a man to stay out of another woman's inbox and spreading his name across her post and showing his face everywhere with her. I'm

  We speak wisely but act foolishly Like a signpost that shows a pointer to where we are going but will never follow us to where we are going That is how most of us are, showcasing our generosity doesn't reduce or increase God rather it helps the poor and make them pray for us then God alone rewards us There are so many whose life are like a trophy, they showcase everything and deeds around then to gain fame and accolades from people for an act that should have been secretly executed. We live in a society where fame speaks louder than kindness and selflessness, a society where everyone at the herms of affairs wants to be relevant because of a position they occupy. Sacrifice isn't the order of the day but selfishness and self centeredness, the podium is there to sing praises of her gullible achievement and not the pains of our people. Now you watch them speak so wisely but act so foolishly because all they say is just opposite of what they intend to implement, like the se

  I heard a story about a man who was extremely hungry, he went into a restaurant and sat , called the waiter and told him he has no money to buy food but he was very hungry,the waiter brought the menu and asked him to chose from the list, he again made it clear to the waiter that he has no money, again the waiter insisted that he chose from the list and he did and the waiter brought the food Some people at the restaurant saw what he did and decided to pay for the man, the waiter declined the offer and said he will pay instead from his pocket and the customers were amazed. Beautiful gesture indeed,  at every moment we have a choice on how we can respond to humanity each time it beckons. I love stories like this.  I get it, it doesn’t hit the national news often and when it does, it sounds like ‘the exception’.  I contend that this happens much more often and people either miss it, overlook it, or worse- dismiss it (cynically) as a gimmick or effort of self-promotion. Grace is aro

Many wonders of the mind comes with great shock and it leaves you to imagine the things you can't fathom, most especially when it comes from a close ally. Trust me, there are people who just get angry with your presence even when you have done them no wrong. These kind of people are closer to you and if you can ever read their minds or have confrontations with them you would fear humans, as to the things they have done against you and even said to tarnish your person. Recall this, Jesus didn't please everyone, even though he did them no wrong, for the fact that your life pleases you, they get irritated by your progress that it isn't deterring theirs, they find ways to indict you and cause you untold pains, but don't be dismayed, your speed will shock them. I have seen household enemies who possess to stand in the way of your lifting, they appear so angelic but they have sold you out and waiting for you to make a mistake just to laugh at you. Keep surprising them w

  HALF A WOMAN, NO SUCH THING Growing up as a girl, we were taught about basic life principles and we were guided jealousy so as to aviod certain mistakes that would be fatal and colossal. When I had my first menstruation my mum told me something very shocking, she said "now you are a woman" she went ahead to give me wrappers and so many admonishing words that I held so keenly till date. When I was in my teens and also when I became an early adult, I heard something different from what my mum told me, some girls got married and had babies, while some became pregnant without a father, yet for all the reasons in the world I heard people say "now they are complete woman '' Stll shocked at what I heard, I became even more confused when the situation as to how they put to birth came to be. These same people categorised women who put to birth using normal virginal delivery as complete women and those who gave birth through cesarean operation as half women. In my

  Recently, I came across a real story of a young lady who was bathed with acid simply because she refused or declined to go out with a guy who asked her out in school. The barbaric and inhuman guy poured acid on her and till date he absconded without no justice gotten for this lady. When has it becomes a sin or a crime to say NO to something you don't want? When has self worth and personal decision become an issue of national concern and someone's headache? Its so sad to know that someone can go this far to hurt a fellow like himself just because of selfish gains. Certainly, these are the kimd of partners who beat up their girlfriend or even wives at the slightest provocations. Again, its so clear that we live in a strange world where we don't have an iota of what is the mind of a fellow about us, most especially when we relate with them. Some one said, maybe the manner at which the lady told him hurts his ego and so he resulted to damaging her for life. I just wo