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  The year is full of hopes and massive expectations, that was how we all started 2020 , yet we all knew how it turned out. In this year 2021 , let's all be awaken to the fact that life is more important than any other thing, let's all be conscious of the fact that we need to value lives of other around us. While you hustle, rest too, the troubles of life has no end and as such, just do your best and touch lives in the best possible and given way. Remember, you can't please every one, no matter how much you sacrifice for them, people would always be baised, unsatisfied, wicked, selfish and insensitive. Do all you can to be at peace with people, detach from anything or anyone who threatens your peace of mind and finally don't give in to negative minded people. Learn to save for rainy days, no matter how little, at least you have something for yourself, hustle hard, remain focused and keep pushing consistently, its just a matter of time, your own season would come.

Don't waste your feelings on people who don't value you. There is a difference between, The woman, A woman And The man, A man The realities are always real, factual and clear when making your choice as to who to spend a life time with. The conviction is a of leap of faith, a hard tackle which is called love, let me ask you are you ready to take that step with someone? In love there is no holding back, if you love him/her, please keep it for real and make it work. Below are some mild tips on relationship and some guidelines to follow when making or taking a decision to be with someone. When you solely want something , you go for it, there might be obstacles,in fact lots and loads of them, but a determined mind sees his obstacles as a drive to push him to the next levels, he dames all to make it a reality but ( never force or push yourself on any one(it reduces yourself esteem) If you see a break light, you need not be told about the next event,rather be prepared about

  FAMILY SPIRITUALITY Families take directions from the word of God, any other thing contrary to this, is a household enemy and it should be avoided. Dear husbands, you are generous outside but stingy at home, remember you asked for her hand in marriage, you have to answer before God. Dear wives, that God made you the bread winner  of the family does not make you the head of the family, rather its a test of your humility. How often do you pray in your family, build a lifeline of prayers to God with your family Connect your family to God, that's the traits of a holy family. When you kill the seed of love you nurture the seed of hatred, there by destroying an innocent generation. Do we truly forgive  in our families,transmit love, let go, make ammends, allow the word to dwell in our homes? The only commandment with a promise, honour thy father and thy mother, that thy days be long. Does love for your neighbours/family /strangers / friends / foes, propels you to sacrifice? T

What God can't keep can't be kept Love took a wrong and painful turn,then n you came. They didn't just find love, they also found matrimony. One of the things to admire about their union is the intensity of their love and the way they are proud of each other. Like I always say, if the first one doesn't work, try again. Don't ever settle.  Know what you want and go for it, trust me its no crime to wait for what you desire, it might tarry but it will come to pass, wait for it. May their home be filled with love, light and happiness. Someone said all these to a couple who indeed found love and move beyond expressing it to sealing it forever. In our world today , its very hard to find genuine, sincerely and transparent love, our world is so polluted that all we find is guilt, glits, heartbreaks, figths and fuss and every other person is out to scam in love. It seems like love has finally returned to its place of abode, which is in heaven, what stops love form

  Our deepest fears is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our ligth not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world, there is nothing freighted about stringing other people rather they  feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do, its not just in some of us its in every one and as we let our own ligths shine, we constantly giving other people the permission to do the same as we are liberated from our own fears. Our presence automatically liberates others, without you nothing good feels as good, because you are important, we cherish every opportunities. I miss a part of me. I had a choice to make, I want all for you and it should be all you can,no matter what comes by, we stand for each other. We still in this game of love, we deserve to be here, but most times it seems they are playing our games yet all along we played our game but rigth now we are playing their ga

  ......Loving someone is like a disco, no matter how the music changes, you just keep dancing(acceptance) ........My heart got a virus and that virus is you(persistence) ........A kite will stay in the sky as long as the thread leads it to(determination) ......When you spend the rest of your life proving that you love someone(consistence) ...... No matter how bad a situation is, you still want to get it right with her(trust) ......The sound of your voice, when you say his/her name (familiarity) ....... Every relationship has its own wars and battles, fight yours without a sword (win your home) ........ No matter how you admire other people's relationships, don't ever compare them with your (uniqueness) ......... Loving is hard yet very easy when you are in a reciprocated relationship (realities)   ........ You hate anything or anyone coming in between, yet its always inevitable (hard truth) .......When you meet the right person you get inspired(inspiration) .......

  Stop wasting your time, emotions, money and body on a man who is not serious about a future with you. Even if you move in with him, serve him hot sex, clothe him, cook, clean and wash his clothes, if he wants to dump you, he will do so without blinking an eye. It won't matter if you have spent 10 years with him,you can't remain his plaything forever,don't allow a man take you on a long meaningless ride. Nothing in this life is new and worth dying for, nothing is worth struggling for, nothing is worth killing for,nothing is worth envying for. Really check all around you now,many  have gone with their lands and gold, with their fame and power, with their possessions and assets, even with the so called partner you desire. Value everyone who comes along, appreciate all,even the worst of persons, life is totally strange and awesome, you can't predict the next moves. Make your relationship with your creator count , build a personal relationship with him,sow and lead

  In the name of the father and of the son and of the Holy spirit,I marry you. Dear brother or sister you just entered for life qnd only grace will see you through.. As a woman you have lost your rigth from your father's house, the very  day you marry because your rigth is only in your husband's  house. When marriage vows are exchanged,do you you know that it hold for a lifetime, even if you divorce along the way, certainly you will have apron strings, be sure before you take and accept the decision to marry. Marriage is a lasting responsibility, if you know that you won't be committed to it DONT VENTURE, I REPEAT DONT MARRY. Recall this, of all the institutions in the world, the home is the oldest, from it comes marriage and as  sacred at it, two hearts beats as one. Marriage is work Marriage obidence Marriage is not conditional Marriage is sacrifice Marriage is tolerance. Marriage is planning.. Marriage is not comparison Marriage is not contract God is the

  We can be very funny and unreasonable sometimes and we can act like he didn't get me this and he got me that now.  When its all rosy, we easily forget so soon, we be like, in fact he is a flirt, that means you are also dirty too, he is so stupid we say, it ,means you are the dumbest too , oh dear he is arrogant. come of it and be so real.  Understanding what you want to go into will help you know what to do and what not to do, especially in this season.  Not understanding a race or the type of race you want go into, means you will end up losing.  Not understanding the food you want eat, means you will end up purging.  Not understanding the lecturer or the course, means you will have issues either as carry over or you fail wholly.  Not understanding your self means you will hate yourself and keep hating others that comes around you.  Not understanding your hubby means you will remain delusioned and that alone causes lot of probelms.  Not understanding your wife means you are just

Really nothing ever should make your WORRY nor be DEPRESSED because  everything is indeed passing. I have come to realize continually that nothing is worth the struggle , nothing is worth the pain nor the fear we see ahead.. Life has many shades and we ought to keep learning about  the shade it brings and make the best-est use of what it offers and become better,.. We all hear people die , we see people disappear like they were never here and of cause we know what is really obtainable, they are gone.. If we recall there are so many reasons why we should never bother about life , yet we still need to live like we are in the last day here on earth, strange and unexplainable things happen every second. You wonder why all these happen and if you have the opportunity to ask I know for sure that you would have unlimited questions to ask. Why do we really wake in the morning, work late , suffer pain and traumatic situations in our various lives and go through tons and abject fear yet w

  While you think you are enjoying your youth, you are destroying your future. While you feel you are having the best time with your body, you are suffering your old age.  While you think you can get away with it now, the consequences are closer.  While you can galavant, navigate and push away those who matter in your life now, check well you won't see them there tomorrow. Many have allowed habits to eat into their future without giving a hoot as to what tomorrow will bring for them. They feel fly, they party hard, smoke anything and become inclined to it,they drink away their future, sleep and share bed with all sorts of human elements in the name of exploring and catching their cruise, piercing is now a norm to them, tattoo is like a cloth they wear now, oh, the consequences is really personal. No matter how we justify the things we do, and allow many of them to control us, when the time comes we regert like we wished we never indulged. When they advice us, we fall deaf ears. Whe

  I have an usual feelings in my being and until I  act according , removing my emotions from what I feel and apply wisdom, I wont rest, lets be realistic as at now,come to think of it,whats life all about really?  We all zap out in the morning and come in late at night and also with all the bustling and the so called "wahala in quote" we go thru, we stick to and we work for, what's the need therein? I picked up a strong courage to write this piece,because I am worried in my spirit and so many things are happening rigth now that I just can't imagine, where we are going to,whats the fuss for, whats the drag for, was the issues for,whats the force for, was the pain for, was the struggle for, was the push for?  Life it self is lots of struggle and circumstances unseen,foreseen and in fact what we live with, don't crucify me when I come to tell you to find rest even when you are still living on this part of the word called earth.  Don’t allow your emotions to becloud

  Really nothing ever should make your WORRY nor be DEPRESSED because  everything is indeed passing. I have come to realize continually that  nothing is worth the struggle , nothing is worth the pain nor the fear we see ahead.. Life has many shades and we ought to keep learning about  the shade it brings and make the best-est use of what it offers and become better,.. We all hear people die , we see people disappear like they were never here and of cause we know what is really obtainable, they are gone.. If we recall there are so many reasons why we should never bother about life , yet we still need to live like we are in the last day here on earth, stranger and explainable things happen every second and. You  wonder why all these happen and if you have the opportunity to ask I know for sure that you would have unlimited questions to ask. Why do we really wake in the morning, work late , suffer pain and traumatic situations in our various lives and go through corns and abject fe

  The other day, I was busy enumerating the sad news and so many records of death undeserved that happened in our domain and that was enough to weigh me down. Today , I woke up with a bit of good news that made me smile and enlightened my mind, the story of a young lad below 20, it was told that he picks trash in the popular Ariaria market in Aba, a shop owner gave him some trash to discard yesterday without knowing that there was some new products in the bag. This, morning, the young boy, saw the products and returned the goods back to the owner despite the fact that alot of people asked him not to return it and sell it off. The young boy returned the goods and the shop owner welcomed his kind gesture, we hardly celebrate good wins in our world today , we are always quick to share bad news and easily forget to equally share the good stuffs too, to encourage someone other there. There are some stories of good samaritans who stand their grounds to diffuse goodness and great behavio

  How do I start this write up without offending those involved? Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started. It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming. The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning. A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country. He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil. Many will have the nerve to call the cops on their husband's in the slightest provacations some of these men go to jail because of martial issues while some of these women

  Everything that happens in life is intensional, don't even try to argue it because it keeps getting complicated.  Nothing happens by a mistake, even when it seems like a clear mistake, trust me it was  supposed to be so even from the spiritual, I know a lot of people would still argue this.  God is fully and dully aware, certainly everything that happens in time, he knows to it and nothing surprises him and there is nothing he does not know of.  We meet people in life for, then three things listed below : A reason A purpose A lifetime But remember give people time to prove who they are to you, what they are to you and the purpose they came along. In fact let them show and proof near love to you, time sorts alot of things, even though we are mortal beings, let nothing ever surprise you anymore, human beings would always be very unpredictable.  Give and expect all of your reward from God alone, keep an open spirit, be at peace with all men but when you are treated badly, forgive an

  Tips on marriage and some guidelines to always remember, this tips was shared to me from my mum and I certainly, it would help someone out there. MAN OR WOMAN * a stubborn wife is like bread cast into water,the end piont is not always nice. * a husband that does not harken to the wife's good advice is like an unkempt pap. * a disobedient wife is like cramps of bread, which does not last a second. *a husband that cant not crumb the tongues and lashes of the wife is on a high scale soon to be broken. COUPLES NOW *** a couple who fails to understand each other personally knows where the CONTRACT will end. *** a man or woman who feels his/her spouse is cheating on him or her, has just two things to do, either , he or she prays for her spouse or he or she goes about having a feel that's the man or woman in question is better than him or her. *** couples make your home habitable, women they say are home makers, also women are home destroyers too, couple should decide to d

How I managed to be a Nigerian I really don't understand.  How I grew up in such an environment with crazy mindsets, I can't explain.  How I survived is still a shocker to me because I still find it very difficult to adjust.  How on earth, is Nigeria a country still baffles me and I just wished it never existed.  How did we come this far with repressed leaders who are too selfish and insensitive, is a big headache.  Goosh, will I still have my kids in this kind of environment and oh goodness my survival was a miracle.  I am not a Nigerian, I chose not to behave like them, think like them and be them.  It's so sad when you see one million and one things go wrong and when try to fix it you become a target.  How long do we keep pace with an unworkable system, bad leaders like bad breath, chocking and sniffing you. They are always out to showoff with the resources of all yet they leave us to burn. How do you mention it, how proud can you become and how happy are you to be a Nig

  I stole a show in heaven And the earth appraised me I looked down and saw glories. But the wonders of heaven kept me there Then I borrowed my friends write up And wrote, Always be thankful for the bad things in life,they open your eyes to see the good things you weren't paying attention to before. Indeed the lessons I learnt this year made me most stronger and tougher.  I didn't build a wall around me But I even planted a defence Don't look at me that way Amongst many am a star I have a great story to tell A soul to touch, an impact to create Many will come to tell, make reference and  even wonder what soil I was fashioned from Behind me are so many to count unlimited to project,but I stand taller and better.  I chose what I want, I love what I can die for I am a force,I am peace,don't dare if you can't try. I am not ordinary, am too busy to notice worries, am an impact beyond your imaginations. Winning in my weakness, that shows you am not your regular kind, even

  Chukwuma Nzeh, news and journalism Pamela Udoka, sex therapist counselor Ceejay Martins clothes and fabrics marchant Alex Iheanacho, money sence analyst Jerry Iwu, marriage counsellor Prince Legacy Omogie, online business promoter Franklin Peters - Odoemenam , bitcoin seller  Fadafranklin Mmor, a truth disciplinary Innocent Tino, information dispenser  Udoh Uwem, Harmless sexual posts  Pst Uche Okochi, Gospel addict  Mary Ann Chimuanya Nnorum, cake and pastries  Chibyk JB Onwuka, Facebook stupid distruber Mike Mario, the song man Novelist Vesoh, an African believer and revolutionist Okafor Chinyere Victoria, snap chat video addict Falope Dapo, poultry and farming  Essien Aniekan, teaching and consultancy  Let me limit the list to a few of my facebook friends who I follow and have seen lots of consistency with these people over the years  and still counting.  Many people love to just breeze in and want all the fame and attension without indulging to impact and thereafter you see them

  We have different types of people here, infact social media platform is a country of its own with or without a president. People come in here for various reasons, from show off to eductional post, form self pity post to motivational post, from business post to scamming posts, from religious post to political posts, from readers associations to commenters association to writers league. It's better you learn to understand why people do what they do, so you don't have confronting scenarios with them. Many are on social media will never ever make one post in a year, they won't even reply their own birthday posts on there walls, but they read every post and watch every type of videos on there time lines, such people are totally introverts to the core. Some others, would write and read and engage and even create groups where they participate actively, yet some people will frown at their write ups and feel they are jobless. People react differently to things in life and just bec

  I wrote this piece five years ago, facebook memories reminded me today, hmm, who is that person?  Surely, I have promised myself to end up with someone that makes me happy. I will live to be with someone who I can talk to, talk with and get down with.  Someone I will always miss and long for, no matter how close he seems. Hmm, that someone who appreciates my mere-self and is always proud of the mere me.  Oh, someone who has an inner conscience to discern who I am  and hold on to me. My someone who cant buy a pin without hearing from me if its really a pin. Possession, my very possession, my life possession, my world in all bits. You found me , I chose you and we are happy with us, even against the world. That one day may be now and the one day maybe tomorrow, that someone is you.  Now, its not all about me,its about you, you, you, you, I mean you.  You bring a smile in my world, you enlighten my darken parts, you bring peace and make me glow.  You surely do make me laugh like a tickl

  Have you taken a closer note to this, whenever you come online, 75% of the things you read and see online are bad news, either a murder, killings, kidnap and circumstance unimaginable. When you buy a newspaper, all you will be able to read and see is news of war, figths, killings and every other vice related to death,  you hardly see good news. It seems evil is promised us, it looks like all we are programmed to see and hear is related to bad news. Its so sad that even when you come across at least 5 people in a day, 3 of them most tell you about one bad tale that happened somewhere, even to someone you know. The same bit happens when you receive at least a minimum of 5 calls per day, most of the news is something related to a bad omen, a sad news and something gruesome. I wake up to go online and wondered what is actually happening, sometimes am scared to explore the Internet because I don't want to see anything bad.  Three days ago, I saw a picture of a mother and 2 of her litt

  The phrase "life no balance" is often heard from many, but we fail to understand the real life issues behind it.  How can our dear friend go from being perfectly alright to dying? You wonder why someone who is hale and hearty, full of life today and they next second you hear unbelievable and unimaginable stories about them.  Whatever your hands find to do, please do it with your might and quickly too,truly life is indeed short, it's like passing in the wind, like a vapor, like a smoke, like shadow, like a mirage, real but yet uncertain, do your best with the time you have now, its never assured.  Just like a movie, a song, scared to face fears, we watch those we love disappear, its all gone with time, you are left to wonder why this happened.  You don't have all the time, I don't have all the time, we all don't have the time, rather make your life worth living and meanful, so that a traceable legacy can be left of you.  When our lives becomes meaningful, it

  I was in church the other day and during the thanksgiving service, mothers in their numbers trooped out to dance and thank God for many benefits received.  While I watched them file out and dance, I saw different shades of personalities in them, many danced, others just smiled, some were totally sober and moody, while others were just indifferent.  A thought ran through my mind and all I could think of is the fact that everyone one of them has a probelm or battle they are facing or had face at one point in time.  Funny as it seem, the wars they face isn't compared to the joy they live with knowing and believing that all would be well someday.  Mothers are the real warriors and fighters who admits all fears, take all the blows, endure the pains and still smile in our presence to aviod the fear of seeing them weary.  Many are in perpetual debts  Many are living with internal illness  Many are faustrated with life  Many are having family issues  Many are not happy in marriage  Many

  Some people are afraid of looking afraid. When you hold unto your stupid ego more than your true friendship. Yet you betray your belief with ignorance and distrust of others.  The freedom to make our own mistakes is the liberty to chose.  Stand for your beliefs even if it means dying and losing it all.  It is like accepting Jesus and be saved or not and be condemned. Life has got nothing to offer us instead make life what you want it to be. Don't be limited by any human being like you, if you die you die and if you live you live, at least take that step. So many have gone,so don't allow any one steal or determine your joy, life is just too short to hold a fuss, let it go.  Because of some people's social status they feel they have out grown some things in life, most especially the truth, service to humanity and respect for God.   They rather exhibit shallowness in faith, you can't be too big for God in service to humanity, such people lack humility.. Allow others to i

Often times we neglect people who are physically challenged in the society, the same way we treat the less privileged that's the same way we should learn to assist them when the need arises.  I had a friend way back in school who was physically challenged, he couldn't meet up with lectures and he found it so difficult to attend classes, he was truly depressed.  He felt he wasn't meeting up and therefore he made up his mind to quit school, we got talking one day and he narrated his ordeal before then I used to help him to class but when I wasn't there anymore, he felt my absence.  Recently, a sister in a group I belonged wrote intensely about her ordeal as a deaf person, she feels the society don't recognise them in functions and many treat them as a neglect even when they are physically present.  How we presume and assume about everything without giving it a second thought as to why people react differently most especially when we are at a gathering.  We are so carr

  Two days ago, I was busy with my business and trying to sort out a download issue on my laptop, when I saw my phone rang. At first, I ignored the call since there was no name attached to the caller's. My phone rang the second time, I still chose to ignore it, because I just wanted to sort my Internet issues and get busy with work. I wasn't tense but I wasn't ready to attend to a strange call that would get me distracted at all, so again, I ignored the call. The caller stopped at the second time, so I continued with my work, just when I was engrossed with finding solutions to probelm online, the caller used a different nunber to call me again for the third time. Out of curiosity, I paused what I was doing and picked the call, below was the conversation that happened between us. CALLER... na wa o, Vivian CALLER....you no dey pick calls abi ME. sorry was busy, gooday CALLER... you don forget me na ME... sorry, who are you please?  CALLER.. you just dey fine these days CALLER

  It seems you don't notice me, yet I have always been here waiting for your call. You have always been busy with many other things, yet you never knew I existed Sorry, its not going to be my fault, I followed your pattern but trust me, it's worth it We spoke like friends, we hoped like lovers, we lived like brothers yet you found me not.  I played dumb so you could  speak to me yet you were too busy to notice I was even there.  It hurts how much of a stranger I had become with you because you were just too busy.  Now I refuse to wait a day for you any longer, my heart longs for another, a soul I desire Worry not you will be find, someone else values me and as such I am very comfortable with it.  I said yes to best influence, a human beyond words ordinary yet very exceptional a being. Rejoicing therefore, I found whom my soul longs for, my kind and very rare to behold.  You came late, I can't discard him whom his seeds lives in me,the soul I wear as a crown The glory that c

  Our world is highy different from those of our parents and ancestors, alot of things has changed and is so alarming the rate of domestic violence. Both men and women are involved, if and only if you are no longer comfortable in marriage and you can't tolerate the excesses and inadequacies of your partner, please stay alive for yourself, your children and your family.  We hear of stories so hard to believe and imagine, the scenarios so pathetic and when these things happens, you just wished it was never true.  It is better to stay alive and single than to be married in a bad marriage and die, it is better to come back home with your sence and complete body than to return home in a casket filled with pains.  Dear men, if you are in a toxic relationship with your wife or girlfriend, the mind of a heartless fellow is deep like the ocean, don't pamper the relationship hoping she would change, she could easily poison you, stab you or send assassins against you, then your life would

  No one will claim ignorant about the recent breaks, separation and divorce in relationship and marriages, despite the number of years they have shared in love.  Below are some of the enlisted issues, we easily neglect yet they are they major causes of heartbreaks and pain.  NAGGING :This singular issue has led lots of woman out of their matrimonial homes, many of them feel they best way they can communicate with their partners is by shouting continuously and making a show of shame.  UNFORGIVENESS :No one is without sins, yet we are wired to always offend each other, intentionally or unintentionally, yet many find it so difficult to forgive their partners and the best way they can resolve issues is to separate there of.  UNRESOLVED ISSUES : There is no where in the world without a probelm and as such we are all out to find solutions to our problems, but in most cases many relationships would rather remain quite and figth cold wars than to sit down and resolve their issues.  LACK OF CO