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  Life happens to all and no matter how unpleasant it seems, it will come and go , sadly many allow the pain of the moment linger into their future and hence they become like their problem. So because some died of a car accident, will that stop you from entering a car? So, because, someone died during child bearing, will that stop you from getting pregnant or having s child of your own? So because someone got into a bad marriage, will that stop you from getting married? So, because someone got dumped in business, will that stop you from venturing into one? So, because someone got fired in a job, will that stop you from taking same job? So, because died in a plane crash  will that stop you from boarding an airplane? So, because someone became sick and died, will that stop you from taking your drugs? So, because someone didn't succeed in school, will that stop you from completing your studies? So, because someone attempted and failed in something, so is that enough reason for you not

  There are three things that are very key to me when it comes to my engagement with life, whatsoever I do or you want me to indulge with that comes against these three things, I won't be a partaker to it and they are as follows: MY FAITH MY PERSONALITY HUMANITY .. MY FAITH.. I respect my existence alot and I surly attribute my life to the author and finisher of my faith, the all knowing God in whom without him I am nothing and I don't exist, whatsoever I do must be aligned with his standards and will for me because I live for him, any thing contrary to his mandate in my life won't stand in my life.  I don't joke with my faith and my relationship with my maker, I won't ever trade my rapport with him for anything he abhors and for this reason my faith is my most valued domain, my most favorite place and my most priceless possession of my existence.  ... MY PERSONALITY... I love life and I won't do anything ro soil my image with people and my very self, I will res

  I was observing my siesta yesterday when l heard someone crying and that got me up from my bed immediately, I approached the living room where  I saw my kid sister and my mum sitting while she held my mum so tight because she was crying. I asked my kid sister to stop the music by flavor(, IYA MI) that was playing on her phone and I asked what happened, both of them kept quite while my mum continued crying. I was confused and wondered what has happened, I asked again what happened my mum answered me that it was on this day her mother died some two years ago and she misses her so much, oh, I looked at her very well and realised she was wearing a t-shirt of her late mum. Hmm, she continued lamenting and saying some nice things about her mum, really I didn't know what to do or say to her, since my kid sister held her so keenly. I walked away from them and stay at a distance and watched them, then I summoned the guts to talk to her... Why are you still wailing for someone who died at

  No one person can have everything, altitude s everything..you can be everything when you apply the rigth attitude at the rigth time  She says "because of you"  I laugh a little harder, cry a little less and smile much more, loving is indeed a mystery  Never be afraid to break a rule, if it means your happiness, the sound of your laughter gladden your heart, happiness is a key meant to unlock your fears and pains and set it loose.  The ligth of knowledge destroys the darkness of ignorance, rules, rituals, restrictions are as such part of our lives but in all, keep growing.  Dont kill yourself over any adult who deliberately chose to be irresponsible. You do not pray irresponsibility out of adults, its a choice they alone can decide to be better or not.  Worry about nothing, life is full of so many unrevealed mysteries,be thankful for all moments, there is nothing you can do to satisfy a heart that has left you, wake up to reality, you deserve better.  Be mindful of people wh

I have seen a lot of things fall out of place and most of the time we listen to what people will say about our situations and this singular act makes us forget ourselves and then we harbor what they said about us and then live in their world.  That you are married and have kids is not enough reason for you to dress haggard and look like the world is against you, many looked so attractive before they got married, but because they now have a family they easily forget themselves and act and look very unkept.  I have seen many couple who don't have kids of their own yet, they treat other people's children like trash, that you don't have children of your own is more than enough reason to treat them well, rather what we see these days is that they act out of faustration and pour their depression on these innocent children  Life facts, we all can't and won't go to higher institutions of learning, our destinies are different, some dropped out, some never attempted, some did

So much for beauty... The effort is fruitless.. The glory vain. Both men and women go out of there way to do whatsoever it takes to stay alof and glow in beauty, its way to extreme for women, who feel less attractive without makeups. Some few years ago the madness attached to make up isn't as much as we have in our times now, recently, I watched a video of a lady who was trying to enhance and beautify her face with a particular product. When I counted the number of things she applied on her face, it was all together 21 in total, ranging from cleansers to oils to foundations to concealers, to powders to blushers and what have you?  I watched with much headache, from one pattern to another, all on one face and then I start to wonder what happens to natural beauty even with the so called efforts, time, resources and creativity, she looked like "WILIWILI" Hmm,then I asked why so much for a face and looking like a wasted vegetable, the thought ran through my mind while I ponde

There are basically three things that is so attached to life and it is also a pointer to anything we do in life.  These three things determines how well we live our lives and sadly we equate them to how well we dominate this world.  If by chance you didn't achieve these three things in life, you are labelled as a failure and more so  you came into this world without a purpose..   These three things include.  Marriage Success Children MARRIAGE :its is expected that at a certain age of your adult life, you will have to marry and raise a family,  when you do so, you are responsible and accountable and the world can respect you. We so value marriage that it becomes a pressure to those who haven't found love or who for one reason or the other haven't considered marriage for reasons best known to them. But permit me to say, in as much as we value and respect marriage, this union isn't for everybody and we should stop attributing marriage as a criteria to aligning responsible

  Bride Price is a sum of money or quantity of goods given to a bride’s family by that of the groom. In many parts of Nigeria, bride price must be paid first in order for the couple to get permission to marry in church or in other civil ceremonies, or the marriage is not considered valid by the bride’s family. Depending on the wealth of the groom he and his family can enter a non-written contract with the bride’s family, in which he pays upfront or promises to pay what he owes within a specified period. While Western white weddings are gaining traction in Nigerian society, traditional weddings, which involve the paying of bride price are still widespread and are drawing criticism. Popular feminist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has been an outspoken critic of bride price “I think we should get rid of the whole idea of money in marriage, we are not selling anybody.” The concept behind bride price, that women are commodities to be bought and sold, is rooted in patriarchal beliefs. In practices

  I saw my doctor friend off, on my way back home yesterday , these two young lads approached me with phamflets and while they gave me the leaflets the asked me if i coild spare them some few minutes.  I smiled and obliged. Are you born again, he asked? Oh, that, what is born again I asked?  To be born again is  to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. Wow., but am not a christain I replied For you to make heaven, you must know Jesus and accept Jesus as your savior Really, I shouted, so you mean I won't make heaven because am not a Christian, I asked Yes, because they only way to the father is through Jesus. So, you mean to say that those before Christ will go hell because they don't know Jesus , I asked Well, let's leave that for God, he says Because I was in a hurry back home, I decided to make it snappy for them. Am born of God and Jesus is my lord and savior, as he is, so am I in this world, I am born again of water and of the holy spirit, and to as many who did receiv

  I wanted a companion, he wanted a trophy You can control anything in the world but you can't control where the heart belongs and what the heart choses. When you find a muse,  When you find the keeper of your dreams,  When you become restless for a being,  You certainly know you found love.  Your heart makes you sing so loud  Smile for me.. Be good to me.. Love love love me....  Play with me.. Sing for me.. Love love love me.....  Dance for me Be here for me Love love love me...... Rejoice with me Cry with me Love love love me..... Care for me Stand for me Love love love me..... Get for me Give for me Love love love me..... Pray for me Stay with me Love love love me..... Praise for me Rep for me Love love love me.... And I will be all to u.. Love love love me..... When you meet your soulmate you don't need anyone to convince you that true love exists..... Don't lean on emotions and words when you want to experience true love....  FACE REALITY Get a life before the ring,tho

There so many reasons why that MAN will never marry you no matter how close you are to him, love is overrated, there is more to the things we see in relationship today.  Before you lose yourself for this man, make sure you make your research well about what he likes, so you can position yourself to what is possible or not in your relationship with him.  Mind you, he will never outline these facts to you, he can open up to someone else but not you, but as a woman it's your duty to find out and know where your heart stands.  The following pionts are some of the reasons why a man might not marry you but can be in a relationship with you for a while untill he gets what he wants in another woman.  BRAINS,:depending on the kimd of man you are dealing with, a handful of men are attracted to ladies who has brains and can use to make money, these smart ladies could be hard to understand but definatly they attract a certain type who wants them at all cost, do you have such brains?  PHYSIQUE,

  He has been an unseen friend in the last 11 years, he has been so supportive and very close to the needs of others. He is selfless and full of God, he behaves like a generous spirit, he exist but very humble, he is out of this world He is phenomenal, he is a lover of God and served God through humanity, he has a soul, ready to sacrifice and give to affect souls positively.  You don't need to be rich before you can sow seed in the life of people, you don't need to have it all before you can impact life positively, you don't have to demand something in return before you can offer to render help. There are people who are angels living amongst us, these people are living saints, they pass through our pains with us and give us a whole lot of refreashness, these people are called destiny helpers, they are God's messenger of goodness to humanity. They don't shout, they are silent archivers, world go-getters and life impacters, they live for others and are always willing

Don't wait untill you get sick before you value health.  Don't wait to see someone one die before you value life.  Don't wait to see someone in pains before you respect your body.  Don't wait to see someone hungry before you can share your proceeds.  Don't wait to see war before you value peace and serenity.  Don't wait to see fire before you think of ways to quench it.  Don't wait to see trouble before you learn how to aviod it.  There are so.many things we can take responsibility for and be accountable to, don't wait to see your neighbour fall before you can offer to help. Don't wait to see people go the wrong direction and you are very comfortable with it The world is going bananas, a lot of haze and drama happens, don't fail to counsel people for a good purpose, don't fail to learn to be patience with people, so you can help pass a virtue to them. The chaos in the world is too much to behold, we need exceptional people like you who will s

Many come to share relationships goals with me and together we find out possible way to go about most challengings we face in our relationships .  Like I will always say, don't force your way into the life of anyone, if you truly love them you set them free and if they come around, cherish and make your relationship work.  Hmm, but when you notice your relationship is one sided, please talk it through with your partner but if its still not reciprocated, then you can take your leave quietly and honorably.  There are some key things that should not be over looked when you are in a relationship, treat them as a matter of urgency and strive to see your relationship work even with your best efforts  DONT ALLOW EACH DAY GO BY WITHOUT SORTING ISSUES, as long as we remain in relationship, we are bound to make mistakes either in marriage relationship or in courting, no two human are the same and that is why we are prone to mistakes and we will always be offended by our partners.  Don't

  The other day I decided to talk a stroll in the  neighbourhood just to regain strength. I walked as slow as I could and enjoyed the evening breeze. I walked passed a high brow area, where these set of people lived in an enclosed restrictions and lived in with so much cozy and serene environment and so many thoughts plied my mind as I walked passed this area. Again, I came into another environment where poverty and hopelessness lived and pains of tomorrow lingered today, hmm, the thoughts raced in my mind and I walked by. Now, my thoughts and I journeyed together slowly and this conversation ensued. Me.... If you are truly blessed, make sure you extend to the next person, make sure you touch lives.. My thoughts.... If only God blessed everyone there won't be poverty and pain existing in the world.  Me.... Sincerely, that can't happen, we must have the poor and the rich, that is just how its programmed My thoughts..... Yes, I insist, if God blesses every one, what you are seein

Stand by me Look towards me Even though I don't understand love yet Stand by me Watch over me Even though I am not good with love The more I look at you the happier I am Absentmindedly I start humming, suddenly I want to buy a rose, aww, thats so new to me.  My thoughts are all on you, the world has become beautiful, I can feel this too, please wait for me, let make it together, forever making you smile.  Filled with your happy smiles together, let's make it love, hold on to my hand, stand by me, look towards me and watch over me The better I understand your heart the more excited I get, all I do is smile, I want to quietly kiss you just once, that way I will get closer to you.  Is this feeling of mine love? Rigth now I am rather shy, so impossible for me to completely express how I feel, please wait for my love.  I feel like swimming in the ocean, its hard to wrap my mind around, almost paradise, even warmer than the sun, the gaze with which you look at me is like being on top

Out of the shower where I had a very hot bath at the peak of the noon.. Slowly I walked into my room and sat to dry my body.. The thoughts came and I  paused to ask.. This was excatly how I came into this world and some day I will leave like this too.  What then am I here for what am I fighting for, why am I worried and when will all my dreams come true.. I asked myself Hmmm, I heaved a big sigh and wondered if anyone will answer me.  Again, I continued to cream my beautiful body and as I creamed another thought came flashing.. Hmm.. This body you so nurture and you pamper where will it spend eternity, the voice questioned me. I looked around to see if any one was in my room then I realised my mind was taking to me.. I stopped creaming, then looked at my body and imagined it in pains,quickly I refuted the thought. Then the answers to the first question came through,my life is on rent and someone great owns all,there is nothing I have, that is truly mine.. God owns our lives God is the

  WHEN YOU HAVE SOWN SEEDS IN THE PAST We hear things like "no one wants to help me" my dear you can't have what you don't earn, the same way karma works, that the same way generosity works, the effects of nature are all the same but comes to us in various ways. You don't expect to receive when you have not sown something in the past, which include goodwill, sacrifice, services and even material things, don't get it fussy, you don't receive simply because you have nothing to show for it. SOWN IN THE N LIFE OF PEOPLE The God we see are in the people around us, we all claim to seek God, worship God and serve God but we fail to notice the next door neighbour let alone extending a hand of care to them, we are always quick to expecting and expecting from people and we so fail to share our proceeds even to the poorest of the poor. A wise man once said"no one is too poor that he or she does not have something to give '' dare to be different, you don&

Most recently I feel ill and all Iever cared for was to get better and have my life back, just like a movie it was so serious that I prayed and prepared again for life thereafter. Many will wonder but you keep making post on your blog and still keep pace on your write ups on facebook, if it was that serious you won't have such time and strength but hey you, am a spirit you know.(I don't write daily, I have many articles I have written over time, I just copy and paste) I sat down on the bath tub and as I allowed the waters to flow on my head from the shower I cried and wondered what if I didn't make it, what if God wasn't merciful to me,then I realised that I enjoyed grace, I mean massive grace, unlimited grace and I became grateful again. Funny how life plays out, as an adult the last time I ever visited a hospital was in my primary four and  I managed to take two injections on that said date till date I have never had any reason to visit a clinic let alone taking any f

You don't know if you catch it, hide it or step out of the way, it's more interesting to know who are than who you want to be.  Sometimes, the people who come into our lives plays a huge role as to what our lives holds, it either makes you hide, showcase it, catch it or set it aside, the circumstances calls for it. Alot happens in our time, the people who we chose to be with determine alot about us and most importantly every decision we take with them changes a lot about us our future, our career, our location and even our after life. Ask your self some questions: Is he worth it, is she worth changing all my plans to fit in? Can I cope with her? Is my future secured with him? Can I trust her with my life? Will I sustain my trust and love for him? Will she always be there for me?  Hope am taking and making the rigth decision?  Make sure your clear all doubts, make sure you find peace and be free within yourself.  Figure out a way to ignite the spark, always show up when you know

It becomes a crime when you indulge in  the following listed below and you become stupid by allowing vain glory becloud your sence of reasoning.  SMALL MONEY, alot of people are easily carried away when they hit an extra amount of money, probably from a connection or contract, they forget easily where they are coming from and they act most stupidly.  THEY MISBEHAVE, one of the traits associated with a little taste of heaven is that those involved are easily misbehaved, they become vulnerable and act like the world belongs to them, you can't correct them because they feel you have nothing to offer them.  THEY INSULT, another traits they wear is that they are very quick to insult people and they are very disrespectful, with slightest argument or conversation with them, they feel whatever they have acquired gives them the rigth to talk dirty and rubbish a fellow..  THEY BRAG, its very easy to detect this trait, they are easily prone to bragging about everything, their accomplishments

  Go back to school to learn again.. Many a time I keep saying this.. Never ever stop improving on what you know and add to what you don't know.. Most records shows that in our times and economy,our certificate does not truly matter,  But,what can you do? What can you produce? What can you do to make money? "Owo ni koko" Yes, get educated.. But make sure you have something doing, without the certification. When you check it most times, you see that those with the certificate ends up working for those with the skills,hmm its mostly hands on the job. Infact, when you travel out of the shores of this country, you will realise that its what you know how to do best fetches you the "benjamins" Go back and learn any of these skills and better your life  Cooking  Driving  Baking  Hair making Barbing Cloth making Cleaning Nursing  Computing  Home keeping Singing Writing  Editing Electrical works Carpentry Business mgt Etc.. . Don't allow any one to look down on your

Is that one a boyfriend or fiancé or hubby when he will never be attentive to you?  Is that one a boyfriend or fiancé or hubby when he is just self centered ,only thinks about himself?  Is that one a boyfriend or finace or hubby when he complains about everything you do wrong and never even appreciates you for the rigth ones?  Is that one a boyfriend or fiancé or hubby when all he wants is food and make you open legs for him and never cares how you feel too?  Is that one a boyfriend or fiance or hubby that is scared about your progress and wants to pull you down? Is that a boyfriend or fiance or hubby when he does nothing about your looks,your dress sence but want you to be presentable?  Is that one a boyfriend or fiancé or hubby when you look too well he feels someone somewhere is showering you with gifts and money?  Is that one a boyfriend or finance or hubby that will always collect the much or little you have to flex and never replenishes u?  Is that one a boyfriend or fiancé or hu

You are not allowed to talk about marriage because you are not married. You are not allowed to talk about children bearing and rearing because you don't have children of your own.  You are not allowed to talk about driving because you don't have a car of your own or because you don't know how to drive.  You are not allowed to talk about a business because you don't have a business of your own or because you don't have an idea about that business. You are not to talk about life experience about traveling or those living abroad, why because you haven't even left your domain nor even seen the airport. You are not allowed to talk about school, education and opportunities there in, just because you dropped out of school or because you never attended one. You are not allowed to talk about politics, again because you are not a politician and you don't have any affiliation with it. Oh you are not allow to about an illness just because you haven't experienced it

About the other day... I chilled with my friend  and her daughter.... We certainly had a nice time out.. So much fun and the joy that life brings too.. Just in a bit, you forget about the pains and fears life has to offer us all.. But while we sat down and talked and watched the unfolding events at the function.. It occurred to me how life has really revolved and is still revolving even till your very thoughts . Don't panic about life.. Don't worry about life Don't kill yourself about life.. Don't forget that life still goes on.. No matter what life projects to you... BRACE UP No matter the pains you undergo.. GOD KNOWS No matter the abject wants..YOU STILL GOT LIFE No matter the rejections.. HOPE IS SURE Look around you and see why you made it.. So many loves to be in ur place rigth now.. Yet, you fear or worry for the down times.. No, do you know you are envied by many?  Therefore.. Buy ur self a cold drink Better still, get a big bowl of ice cream In the midst of you

There is no friend anywhere,  Just be yourself and find your way out When things and events of life happens to you that is when you will know there are no friends anywhere. Make sure you have God,  Work your butt out,  And save yourself from the entanglement associated with having friends. They truly don't care about you Truth be told, many who you call friends don't even know your real names let alone knowing details about you. They are always busy when you need them and they have so much excuses as to why they can't be there for you.  Every man to his own domain,  They can't lift a finger to help you without an exchange for something, hey and you call  these fags friends? If you dare mess up, they won't show up Infact they are only ready to come for your burial with designers and exotic wines, but they never knew what killed you. I rather have enemies I fear than friends who are ready to stab me, jare at me and make me a topic of debate when they know nothing abou

Its funny how our orientations play out, most especially in Africa and how we view relationship with the opposite sex.  We expect things to play out the same old fashioned way and yet expect things to work perfectly well.  We have a very bad and porous way of relating with people and we still live with a mundane minds in a 21st century where a lot of things are evolving.  Who says a lady can't approach a man if she has feelings for her.? Who says its a crime for a lady to ask a man when they are getting married, if she truly wants to know his stand with her.? Who says a lady can't support her man to pay her bride price, if they have a better orientation of selves?  The list goes on and on, when a woman approaches a man for a relationship, they see her as possessing the following bad traits  CHEAP DESPERATE PROMISCUOUS THEY TAKE HER FOR GRANTED THEY PLAY WITH HER EMOTIONS THEY USE AND DUMP HER THEY SCAM HER Those things listed above happens alot of time, if not all happening at

We all have various experiences in life and as such it's always better you realise that you are unique and you have your own life to live, stop comparing yourself with others, our destinations are not the same.. The experience and life events we go through can never be same, that you were born the same time with someone, went to the same school ,graduated the same day and possibly worked in the same place does not make your destinies same.  Your age mate might have been married ten years ago, some have four kids and you don't even have a relationship let alone settling down, yet some of your age mates might have died too.  Some have experienced major breakthroughs in life while you are still lagging behind, yet that does not make you less a person, we have seen people in the same class, started together and few weeks before graduation, many are suspended, others were not even bona-fide members of the school and some died, yet life happens.  Other stories like s, ome were marrie

We are crazy one family and there is something I Love to do with you... This the one...  I be your storm...  I be your rain pour...  Watching over you...  Feeling you under the cloud Am caught up in your storm I froze up because I love him I just wait to say welcome home Tell no lies you can't deny Side by side dancing like we making babies Don't hurt the scene, blossom it radiates We are here to win. We give it our all We fly higher, nothing stops us No limit, no bounds , an empire we occupy I waited truly, you found me and we soar The power to win formidable force you can't test. No promises, just achievements No fears, under the rain we made our strength You take my breath away, your laughter my bliss, because of you, I see love in your looks Lets now build our dreams and soar. Now, I mesmerise and laugh louder I play with my mind and smile like d sun Oh, baby.... Its not love. Its you I see true beauty because I see you, what a gift I don't love you because the word