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  Morals, used to be the way we describe people in the past, the integrity and the atitude they wear, we make reference to them and most times call such people with high living standards as our role models. In our world today, our morals are no more visible, our atitude are vage and there is no integrity to show for it, we now live in a world where we are competing with a stranger, we fight back to back to display a show of insanity because of temporary things and things so fading. The virtues that are lasting are now neglected, the likes of peace, joy, forgiveness, fortitude, piety, wisdom, understanding, self control, love, faithfulness and the likes, we have rather replaced all these with hate and lots of vices so bad to mention. We easily pay evil for evil, we are ready to take revenge and forsake the place of forgiveness, we are quick to judge, backlash and even go ahead to persecute a fellow without fair hearing, all we want is the downfall of a person. Do you know we can be bett

Our world is so corrupt and filled with so many lies, we all jostle between finding the truth or living with the lies, even the most highly rated places and people are found to feed us with lots of decite and they make it look like the truth is served before us and we are left in no other way and we don't even have the strength to fight for what is right or seek the truth. Politics is one of the highest forms of decite today, you hardly can find a politician who is not corrupt, they are good story tellers with lies, they pretend like they are so real, yet they trample on our rights, hold the national cake to themselves and make us slaves in our one country, they care less about what happens to the masses, life is all about them, they make policies that favours them and give us peanuts for all our years of hardwork. Religious bodies are not left behind, they use the name of GOD to do profane things, they bring doctrines that supports what suits them, they are only particular about t

Let's talk about second chances and why many don't fancy it and most especially when they are truly hurt.  We live a world filled with animosity, rage, anger, hates, gossip disappointments, betrayals and so many vices.  Many find it very difficult to apologise to others when there is a strife, fight or even quarrel, they rather go their separate ways then consider a second chance to the offender.  We all agree that some people are so unteachable, some are rather unyeilding and even so many are unbending, they are so strong hearted that they are careless and don't even consider the fact that some one is hurt, apologising and even trying to get a second chance.  Dear victim, we understand that is so hard to let go of the pains when it has happened and many would rather sake for revenge when been offended rather than to forgive and give a second chance to their offender.  Give that person a second chance, God keeps giving us so many chances unlimited to count, why not we do sa

 Marriage is all about compromise, loving in marriage is not a confusing feeling, rather it comes with so many pains and understanding that sustains the marriage if it must work.  Making a wise decision is beyond a kind gesture when it comes to making sustianble decision in marriage and in the future of your spouse.  Love conqueres all, inspire one another, it brings out lots of spark to keep renewing your marriage, which should be out to teach others what marriage is all about. Come to terms with realities in your home, it's either roses or thrones, no marriage is without it's own wars, don't allow the down times overshadow the good memories, always keep it real. Shed your marriage form negative vibers, bad influences and people who are always out to see you both quarrel, fight and create chose amongst your home, often times these people are close to you and you can't imagine the damage they had inflicted in you, stop them before the disintegrate and scatter your home.

  In the world we live today, social media has so become part and parcle of our lives, we live in a world so close to each other, or what we call a global village, where we can relate with each other even without seeing, feeling or even touching each other to communicate, share and interact. The social media space has broken many jinx, linked up people of various race, tribe and color, it has strengthened bonds, inginite wars and created rooms of either a vice or virtue, depending on what niche you so desire and long in this space. In summary there are 3 types of people in this space, who contribute, showcase and act or react in ways I can categorise as ( Idiots, Tribalist and Citizens) some people will either fall in one or more or even the three depending on the circumstances of discussion or topic as the case may be. The idiots, these are people who are careless in their chats, comments and display, they are believed to say whatever they want to say, how they want to say it and

 What you so hold on high esteem is what some other person considers as nothing. We struggle so much, work and hustle just too much and never have the time to socialise, go on vacation and even enjoy a fragment of all our labours. Life must take its turn with or without us, life  happen always, it's best we prepare for it. I have seen so many toil day and night and at the verge of their breakthrough they are gone, again there are many who worked so hard and when it is time for them to enjoy the fruits there in, affliction befalls them and some accident unpredecented arises and they wallow in pains rather. Again, there are some who never worked for it, neither did they try but life gave them all the blessings so far and all they do is enjoy and never know what it takes to be in need. It is always in our best interests to enjoy the gains there in, make the best us of our time, make merry the moments and extend a hand of fellowship to our neighbours, because the memories are what we u

So many thoughts race through my mind when I hear some certain things that keeps me wondering and I ask questions unending and why it has to be so, there are some unnecessary talks and beliefs we push forward to create so many pains in the life of people, when situations occur and we hold on to them so keenly that we make a mountain out of a mole. In most culture when a young married man dies, despite the circumstances behind his death it is always said that his wife killed him, but when a young married woman dies, it is said that her husband lost his wife and he isn't accused of anything. When a young woman loses her husband, she is been accused of killing the husband and she is subjected to so many unimaginable laws and rules, she is not expected to step out of her house or engage in other activities until after the burial, when she comes back from the burial, she is expected to mourn the husband for months and some a year under so many conditions. I just wonder why they accu

  Whenever I hear this statement in vanacular language" Life no balance " it gets me into so many moody emotions and my thoughts races in so many angles. Life is actually not balanced and here are so many scenarios, you can also agree with me: A certain man has so many children but had no tangible resources to take good care of them, he practically struggles to take care of himself let alone his large family, despite his predicament, you hear so many strange things happening in his life or that of his family, it's either he hear of a disease or that an unfortunate incident occurred and you only but wished things were better with him. On the other hand, there comes a young man who is well to do, has all assets and is comfortable to grace and bless lots of people under his domain but when you look through his eyes you either see he is not happy or has somethings missing to complete his generosity, take for instance, he might not have children of his own or that he is incapa

 Often times we are blinded by our thoughts, we forget so easily and we fail to analyse why we reacted so badly to people, we are lured by our emotions and we are careless about how people feel and assume they are fine after an argument, a confrontation or even a fight. Life lessons are so numerous to remember, some are so valid that we hold on to our beliefs and others we want justice and for some we just let it go, because we don't have the strength to continue.  People are wired to react differently, no two people can act the same way when a situation confronts them, but it is best to be totally human when circumstances of intentions, mistakes, accidents and unforseen circumstance happens, rather than just saying sorry and live like nothing happened, it is best we try not to allow such happen.  Many people if given the chance to express their inner most thoughts, will still tell of the pains they are currently undergoing, many have failed to heal, some are living in the shadow o

 Hello, I will be home soon, please make my food ready, I will be with you shortly, and the call ends. She waits endlessly and he isn't home to eat the food and all she hears is that he is no more.  Wished we can control the affairs of the next second, truly tomorrow is promised, the next second isn't guaranteed and life is not certain. All seems like a mirage, we wake up to lots of questions and wonders as to how and why it happened, who can really tell, how do we explain and trust the details we have no clue to, the episode seem so unclear, yet the reality sets before us and we left to wail in pain and remain silent like the grave yard. One thing is certain, we all don't like that phase to happen but it always happens, life comes with so many uncertainties, tomorrow can't guarantee anything.  They start a project, anticipating to complete, they build a mansion hoping to live in, they buy a property to enjoy, they spend all their saving on training a child and hoping t

 I saw a post where someone made a comment and said "try and sit at the other side and see how painful it is when you talk down on people. It is so sad and never a welcoming situation when you feel you are always better of, you don't have an iota of what people go through and you just imagine or assume somethings can never happen to you.  Sincerely, no one ever wishes for anything wrong or bad to happen to them but again, life always happens, a minute we merry the next second we are in pains, we find answers to our pligths and again we just wonder and weary why and how it all happened. Life, isn't for us to determine or control rather we can only impact on our best possible ways and give it our all and even most times it is never enough, we cannot steer the affairs of life.  Don't dare laugh or merry at any one's pains  because you feel you are better of, don't mock them because you are not in their positions, don't talk down on them, don't ignore them

 This indeed is my first write up in a long while after my break and of course I can record a year like 2024, hmm, the outlook I have for 2024 is more important to me than another other thing. Sometimes, life can be so uncertain that you wonder if there was any good thing that truly happens in a world full and filled with so much distractions and negativity and challenges.  Many a time there are many things we never wished for nor pray for, yet life happens and no matter how good or right you can be, there are things you can't ever slove, make sure you have peace on your inside to forge ahead.  We are all individuals with flaws, none is ever perfect, never kill that human part of your self, come out of it and be a better person, don't lose your humanity, remember to be kind and patient with your self and the next person around you.  So many people are gone, so many are bedridden, so many are involved in so many circumstances they never can fathom how it started and how it happe