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  Marriage has never been a contract of convinence but a covenant of commitment. Marriage is not based on the stability of emotions , but on the strength of character.  You can't get a perfect partner rather you better get a partner you can manage and she manages you too and build him or her to your taste.  Your hubby or wify becomes your number one in all situations after you say I do, its scriptural and spiritual, love is extreme if you know what you are in to, no form of compromise is welcomed.  Be ready to die for yourselves in sincere love and trust must exist between you two, before you enter into this venture called marriage, be at least certain. The vows are deeper beyond the words, the vows does not change,For better for worse, it very powerful than death, always remember this. Vow is an oath do always recall this, more powerful in the presence of God, be sure you know and have thought it thru before you go through it. Successful marriage is a product of grace unlimited,

  Your probelm is nothing compared to what others are going through in life.  Over the weekend I saw this post and reply made by someone on Facebook and start to appreciate my own probelms which is not a probelm at all compared to what this fellow is going through.  Here is the post and reply : If you get to heaven which question will you love to ask God?  And her response : "Why do you give me a wicked man and enemy of progress as a father with step siblings that are as wicked as their father? Who would have imagined that a father and sibling can be a probelm to her and she even voiced out in pains and somewhere now there is a father loving and protecting her daugther, even if it takes all he has.  Yet there is another situation of a daugther who will never appreciate the selfless love of her father and siblings, in life the things that hunts us might be some one else's muse.  Often times we feel we are the only ones fighting battles or that we are the only ones with issues o

  Okay, about the other day, I stepped out to get some stuff just around my crib, while I was heading to my destination, I saw two men on a bike, one of them was trying to teach the other how to ride the bike. When I saw the scene ahead, I gently moved away from that direction, almost immediately when I changed my direction, the one riding was telling the one behind that he doesn't think he would be able to carry someone and ride. While he was trying to balance on the bike, the one behind told him to bend when he approaches a turn and BOOOOM, the both of them hit a car that was nicely parked. They fell gallantly and also damaged the car and got them selves wounded, hmmm, l quietly said sorry to them and continued my journey, oh yes. By the time I was through with what my shopping, I passed that same way home, then I saw the car owner and the okada men arguing on how to fix the car. Now, my piont in this story is just clear, the okada man that was being trained has doubts about his

  Don't let anyone on social media influence you into something you will live to reger tomorrow, a lot happens here.,be guided.  Wars                               BUSINESS: There are a thousand and one business you will be exposed to on social media, many will fall victim and still won't learn, yet there are genuine businesses too, the bottom line is that don't be carried away by sweet talks and motivational speech of marketers who wants to make quick gains. If you are not fully aware of the business, don't indulge, and if you want to, try and learn more about the business with time before you invest your money to it, if you must indulge, start small.                       RELATIONSHIPS Social media is a good and bad channel to meet people of various kind, race belief, nationality, religion and traits. It has linked many to a life time of bliss and so many too to a life time of regerts.  If you have your doubts about anyone you meet on social media, don't hesitate

  Its an adventure of love We decided to buy a house by the beach To push out the sea to the rivers.. We stood still to face all huddles They came by with swords, sharper than blades We fought with our minds and will They became terrified They queried and got fury They were belittled Awww, this thing called love Indeed has a language It's called sacrifice If you find that one person Who is willing and ready to stand still You are not lucky but favoured Love is a force Love is a will Love is a push Nothing ever stands against a love built on sacrifice, you can't beat it, the force is unconquerable, unquenchable and undeniable Love is deeper than the oceans, you can't ever get to its roots, it's harder than the rocks, so hard to break through, its wide and unreachable, like how far the east is far from the west. Don't dare figth the power of true love, as simple as it seems, in the will of a man, it can go places you can never imagine within a space of time.  Am a pin

  Sincerely, wish to take a walk with you, the thoughts in my mind races on, surly am here to let you know this.  When you have your beloved, you are richer than you know , love is stronger than anything, never give up on hope.  Pulled in so many directions and not having no where to turn,I was wondering between taking my time of glory and showing humility.  It's a terrible thing to find one's self alone in this world, who to find love with, kindred spirt, with high spirit yet amazing to behold.  We don't always need words to speak to one another, our minds speak louder, the words echos in our heads, we hear it so clear, a huge part of us knows this. Sometimes we are broken and consumed by fear, some people come into your life to change you forever but somethings can't be. You can neither deny or explain it but miracles still happen, besotted we get, most especially when we figth and wait for love.  We desire with a seal, like a puppet our hands, to prove our commitment

  I looked for you and you were not there then I remembered why.. My heart bleed My mind skipped Sloped in fury  Tears poured like rain  Can I ever love again, its truly hard to love  Sometimes, we could have been enchanted but we thought we were in love, alas its so wrong  Loving makes you wonder why, for now we are  so happy and the next while, you asking questionable demands, so painful indeed.  Shattered like the clay pot that holds the old religion of why's and how's.  You are left to wonder if any one could understand why your pains are here for real.  Many rather be left alone and chose a path of loneliness than to make efforts to be with someone who will eventually toil with their hearts.  The mind games continues, love is underrated, loving isn't real, the pains becomes our companions, the tears our soul mate, then hostility and rigidity becomes your folks.  Then you hear all sorts of rage and worries being expressed, the soul becomes volatile and the mind locks up

  Sometimes it is always best you don't know, so as to keep your mind and actions from worrying over uncertainties.  Some people don't ever think about the future rather they just follow their heart where ever they go and worry less about an unknown tomorrow.  With trust and loyalty, with these ideals you build a life of friendship and companionship but these attributes are truly hard to find in people these days.  When you make a man fool, he calls you a thief, remember nothing seems as it seems.  Many are out to dent relationships for selfish gains and when enmity is created, we elope with our selves and look for the next victim.  You need courage, strength and faith to keep lasting relationships and build a bond beyond friendship. it takes these values created to help you reach your goals in life, you must posses  at least one or all of them.  Sometimes we pretend for so long that we forget who we truly are, you know you are so special in your kind but we play the fool to be

  I have truly realised that there are choices you make that either makes you or mares you, sincerely that singular choice you make can really do so much harm to you or bless you and also affect those around you most negatively or positively. Now, take a check in your life and see the regrets you wished you never made, the choices you made are almost the reasons why you can truly say there are some choice you wished you never made. THE CHOICE OF A SPOUSE.. The person you welcome into your life can positively or negatively affect your life, there are some people who come into your life and are a blessing or as a lesson, when it comes to the choice of a life partner, its immensely intensional to open your eyes and ask your self some vital questions and don't allow your feelings over take your sence of reasoning. Some one with a very bad character for instance will not just affect your life negatively but also affect the peace with your immediate family, these set of people are perpet

  Hebrews 12:6 Because the Lord corrects everyone he loves and punishes everyone he accepts as his child.  Endure what you suffer as being the father's punishment, your suffering shows that God is treating you as his children... Prob 29:17 Discipline your children and you can always be proud of them, they will never give you reasons to be ashamed.  Proverbs 29:15 Correction and discipline are good for children, if they have their own way they will make their mothers ashamed of them. Proverbs 23:12 Dont hesitate to discipline children, a good spanking won't kill them, as a matter of fact, it may save their lives.  Proverbs 19:18 Discipline your children while they are young enough to learn, if you don't you are helping them to destroy themselves. We don't need to agree, with every one yet you don't need to be scared of any one, just make your piont known, at least they know your stand There is a lot of wrong in our world today and our children are highy affected, the

  Is that one a slay Queen without your own money?  Is that one a slay sexy Queen when you wait for one man to give and give and give you always?  Is that one a slay Queen when nothing good comes from you than ask and ask and buy and buy? Is that one a slay sexy Queen when you can't affect the lives of people around you and even strangers? Is that one a slay sexy Queen when you can't take decisions on your own, you wait for one or even more people before you decide your life?  Is that one a slay sexy Queen when you can't offer anything good,you don't seek to develop your self, cook,study, invest,research, travel and learn to be your self? If you must slay, do it because you got a mind of my own, control what you want, dominate your world,be accountable and take responsibility of your life. Don't allow freebees, get standards and live for it, get trained, acquire some skills, learn a trade and get something doing, try and live by your self and stop depending on any o

  People die you know ,even when they NEVER plan to, it's best you humble yourself & live a good life,dont allow what you have make you feel better than others.  Something else about humble people is that they take responsibility, even for other people’s errors and they don’t keep record of the wrongs done to them.  They let go of those who hurt them, because true humility is submitting to others who don't deserve it. Humility is a life; it will work in you, whether you are with the high and mighty or with the lowly. It’s often expressed in action by the willingness to take on the responsibility of service to others, in loyalty '' Condescend without being condescending”; it’s one of the key things about humble people. Be humble.  The more knowledgeable you are in the things of the Spirit, the more humble you become. If your knowledge in Christ and of God, doesn’t produce a greater level of humility in you, then something is wrong; your knowledge is of the flesh and

  Don't ever be in a hurry to marry, never be.  Don't be pressured by any one, no matter what is involved.  Don't be inclined to materialistic things.  Be sure of the character traits of the person you intend to live with.  Don't leave all finances decision to your partner, its takes the responsibility of all.  Appreciation is a strong catalyst to propel life into partner, they need it.  Family background is a key factor to look out for before taking decision of marriage.  People with complicated life style, hmm, its so pathetic with partners who can't deal with bad behaviors.  Date and marry someone with high level of understanding, what I mean by this is some one who truly understands you without even talking to you.  There are various types of traditions, be very clear about them before you take the decision to marry someone, the consequences are grave.  Never ever, I repeat never compete or compare with your partner and again don't ever compare your relation

  Before we get married there are lots of things we really long to do with our partners, we truly want to be crazily in love.  We crave to be so happy in love that we become inseparable, we want to be the envy of many  the talk of the town and the mentor to aspiring couples, an inspiration to our generation.  When you are so much in love there are places you should really consider when you want express your love for each other by paying a visit to such places like : The Orphanage: really, to check if you are with the rigth person going to the Orphanage should be one key place you both can spend time with, it helps to showcase how your partner values life and how generous and compassionate they can be. The Beach:this one of the favourite place  for couples to get away and express their love for nature and appreciate each other with the warmth of the sea, this place is considered the best place so far when love must be expressed.  Trips: love birds loves to journey together even if they

  If we are not on the same page then we can't continue with our story.  No matter how actively busy he is, a man who needs you as his queen will also be busy pursuing you at the same time because a king knows what you are worth. If he doesn't protects and provides for you,  Girl, you are not his choice, if she doesn't care and watches over the littlest details about you, man, you are not her choice Dear sisters, be attracted to his actions not his words, ignore 99% of what he says but pay attension to what he does, to be sure about him, men are sweet talkers, but real men are action doers. Dear brothers, women are attracted by what they see, if she isn't inclined to you, forget it you are wasting your time with her, yes, women are moved by what they hear but these days they go to where they are comfortable. Still on, if a man doesn't go through anything with you, he wont appreciate you, if he doesn't build with you hmmm you are sure a liability, make sure you a

  The worth of a thing shouldn't be attached to a condition before you can value that thing, we hear lots of people saying l must test before marriage, so as to be sure of what am going for, sadly, we still record high rates of divorce even after the so called testing. So many will frown as this write up, but let's call a spade a spade, why do we still record high rates of divorce most recently even after dating and indulging in premarital sex and the likes? There is a reason why sex is only meant for married couple, there is a reason why this bounding is for procreation and pleasure in marriage, let's stop deciding for God. I ask again, is that does who divorce didn't indulge in sex before marriage and yet they couldn't stay as a couple, I can put this to you, 80% of divorce rate is due to infidelity, poor sexual bounding and the likes.  back to my initial question, must we test before marriage?  Every one has one reason or objections about this topic but it goes d

  The evil that men do don't just live after them but lives with them, above them, beside them, for them, behind them, in front of them and of cause in all they do. Let me remind you that evil people are the most jobless set of people, all they can do is to run quickly to cause evil and sow pain but little do they realise that the evil you do stay with you no matter how little as slandering a fellow, the repercussion will eat you up like cancer. Now that you have gone to cause havoc, how long do you have to live? Now that you have slandered your brother, how much is in your bank account for life? Since you derive joy to discriminate your fellow and smile at your mischievous ways, am sure you have been awarded in heaven Where do you think you will end up in life and how will you face the judgement throne of your maker? Really joy killers, did you know that some day soon , even if it's a 100 years from now you will stop breathing and leave this earth?  Since you enjoy wickedness,

  You will agree with me that we hear alot of things during our life's time concerning marriage, there are so many myths that we hear and sincerely they are not true.  We live by these myths and remain loyal to them out of stupid beliefs and as such they affect out sence of decision, some of these myths are listed below.  LAWYERS ARE LAIRS : At first they will tell us not to marry lawyers, they don't make good husbands and good wives, just because they are assumed to lie alot, Oh my goodness, show me one person on earth who has never lied or show me a virgin in the maternity ward, hello, we all lie and no one is exempted. More so, it applies in our choice of profession, they say don't study law, because all Lawyers will go to hell, they come up with these statements in the scripture "judge not so ye wont be judged" again our ignorance is at its peak, everyone will be judged good or bad, but how you live your life matters.  SINGLE LADIES WITH CARS Again do I remind

  Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't have your time, otherwise you may end up hurting yourself. Love is truly beyond words, its a test of a life time, if you don't feel it for all the good and bad reasons in the world..... Take a hike.. Leave quietly.  Be mindful and careful of those who cherish your body but with dishonest intention... All that matters is not feelings but true love for marriage, if you are not ready for it, don't dare start.  A stingy guy in courtship won't suddenly become a generous husband, so too for a secretive woman she can never be a good wife.  Don't date someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness,there is more to this chemistry.  A lady who doesn't believe in dignity of labour, will not serve as a contributor but a consumer, infact a gullible liability then you will face the self guilt.  The fact that you're begging for communication and attention simply implies you're with the wrong perso

  These values must be adhered in an African home, no matter your background, never forget that these virtues makes a home and it must be imbibed... RESPECT :Africans loves respect, from the head to the last in a given African home, we are expected to respect our elders not only in our homes but in the society at large.  From the way you display your manners at home you are expected to act rigthlyt outside and as such bring the values you learnt at home to the society,  the society will evaluate your character traits and then give kudos to your parents or guidance for good upbringing but if your character is bad you are regarded as a manace to the society.  EDUCATION : there has been lots of evolution in a typical African home, most recently no matter how poor a family is labeled, you will stil be able to find someone who can read and write, you can still find someone who can express herself without a middle man, this goes to show how we all value education and now, more families are s

You're Next In Line ... Beloved.... I want encourage u You might have  given up on all You are wondering why Disappointment everywhere, heartbreak and depression...pains n fears Like all hope is gone.... Wait! It won't be long.... I'm talking to you! Yes! You !!! It won't be long.... Never give up!  Don't compare your life to others..There is no comparison between the sun and the moon..They both shine when it's their turn/time... Stop thinking ... Stop worrying... Stop crying. .... Stop depressing....  Stop faustrating......  Stop wailing....  He makes all things beautiful in his time and season.... Depression and frustration are the tricks of the devil... Look Up! No matter how dark the cloud is; the Sun MUST Shine through .. Remember a Victor has an appointed time to go. There is hope for you.... Yes!  Listen! Everything that is happening now will make up your story for your testimony.. Smile you are winner..  Heaven will take away every fear... Vivsravine spe

  Hmmm, let me be nice today yet I will still say that core truth, I am so pissed by how most ladies run their lives and these makes most men label we all the same. There was a recent video of a couple who came on social media to disclose to us what transpired in their date recently, the guy asked the lady a very simple question, where do you see your self in the next five years and the lady in her stupidity got offended and invariably lost out in the future of that relationship by that singular act. Dear ladies, its high time we tell ourselves the truth and also live to project what we want from these men, there is more to relationship than what we ever want. The question from this young man is the most intelligent question I can guarantee you from someone who wants to see you in his future, a man who just want to sleep with you or who doesn't see you in his future wont  even ask you these crucial questions like this Rather, aunty fives years plan, went ahead to reply our good bro

Write me a poem, that relates with my pain about the unknown enemies we call friends! Never trust someone so deeply to the level that you give them the power to destroy you. We will never be able to know who truly wishes us well, and who don't. The sad truth is that they are just so close to usm Some friend are worse than the devil, do I remind you that they can easily kill you without any trace some enemies are sweeter than your friends, make ammends with them  Sometimes, you don't have to tell people the plans you are making in life when those plans are still at early stages. Many friends see you as a competitor, and once they see that you have gone ahead of them, they begin to hate on you. The truth is, not every friend is going to be happy with your success, even though they might pretend to be in your presence. Oh many of them has  jealousy that is hidden in their hearts. Don't ever trust your secrets with friends, one of the biggest mistake in life is learning too lat

  Am a priority ,not an option. Am a projector ,not flat screen.. I can't b what you want me to be ,when I have my own dreams to pursue. You can only fall into my dreams to make me ,stick to your wants. I don't sow where I don't have a share.,I invest in workable projections Allow my space and I will give you zillions of miles away, I'm fully contented with what I have and work for what I desire.. I am not in any competition with anyone  in this life,not even my shadow or my twin, I am me and that makes me so unique I only figth for what is right  and just,pure and  acceptable,holy and lovely,excellent and attracting. Do well to stand for a cause and don't be propelled around by people who lack vision and are deem in thoughts,blind to see and are carried away by the glamour's of life Stand for something if it means standing alone,at least you will be reckoned with something when you exit this earth. Some things make you look nice and  good yet they a

  God sometimes work in ways that seems so difficult for human beings to comprehend.  Sincerely his ways are way off from what our desires and plans are, hence why we truly need to stick to him to help us excute our plans.  Your delay is not denial. Hannah was once a barren woman, that later gave birth to a glorious son and everything seems like she never went through the period of waiting and pains.  Don't give up on yourself or let go of your faith because things are not the way you hope them to be or worked like you anticipated.  God has the best and perfect plan for your life. Whenever your expectations are not met, always remember that God is planning something far better than your expectations for you.  Your expectations are limited compared to God's ultimate plans for you wait for it , keep your faith alive and never forget his words, he works in marvelous ways.  Don't be brainwashed by negative names you might be called before the fulfillment of God's plan in yo

Hello bea, I stole a show from heaven Then i picked a rose from Eden Dropped the petal on your door. I sent you a banquet full of rubies, Am certain you giggled when you saw it Your smiled reached my heart and i wonder if you are truly human You share happiness, you exhumed bliss   aww how do you smile when you are excited? How do laugh when you see s blessing ahead? We have got angels around they are human beings too, they are exceptional they are highly unique, they are always a blessing, they are sent on mission to be a bliss. Make sure you are one Be that person who makes others smile Share happiness and impact souls Extend a hand, it makes you better Figth to save souls Be the change we hope for Give without expecting Sow for others to reap thats the highest reward I gave an angel a lift, haha i never knew I was flying on angel's wings as my reward.. I saw the rainbow ans touched the skies You can't imagine the glory Spread openness reap transparency Share your belongings

  There is a reason why this phase was made and written into law, when it comes to marriage relationships. Many churches and individuals has so far changed this statement of truth to suit themselves in the name of speaking positivity in faith and changing due process. God can't be mocked, nature can't be wrong, events certainly must take place and life must happen, no matter how cunny and intelligent we get. In this marriage relationship we get in, we hope to be better when we become one and that same way we are expected to stick on too when things gets worse. Although there are so much phases in marriage which we might never anticipate but the realities is that alot happens in this union called marriage. Many won't have children, so true.  Many will lose their assets, life happens.  Many will change physically, certainly   Many will be deformed either by accident or otherwise, these things happens   Many will take ill, we are humans you know.  Many will die too, life fact.

Don't follow man's majority,  stay focused on God's authority.  Don't allow the glitz and lies of Social Media to put you under pressure! Don't strive to conform to other people's expectations because life is not a competition.  Stay focused on your lane and pray for God's grace to fulfill your destiny. Be you always and strive to be better than you were before. Don't allow sweet nothings make your feel less a person, none is worth your tears. Aim at self development, get more and more closer to your maker, after all it all matters..  Our lives is full of outward packages that we forget the main content, be true to your truth Before you get into your season of honor,there must be a time of service( a waiting period)which differs from individuals Never get tried of waiting,if you are doing what God expects you and you are faithful at it, you will never lose your harvest and honor YOUR TIME WILL COME, THEREFORE ENVY NO MAN, BECAUSE YOU ARE UNIQUE This not

  Life issues and the unfairness in life..There is a God who understands why a younger person becomes very wealthy and an older person becomes poorly poor. There is a God who knows why some very young people die and some old persons still live, there is also a reason why he allows the innocent to suffer excruciating trauma while the wicked wallow in joy.  There is a God who knows why a harlot who has committed series of abortions and is still able to birth children but a virgin has no child of her own There is certainly a God who understands why some very good persons die prematurely while some very bad persons live till when death rejects them.  Surely there is a God who sees orphans living in absolute pains and hopelessness while some spoilt brat live in plenty without showing any form of appreciation There is a God who knows why those who ignore him make progress in life and some who seek him face all kinds of challenges.  There has got to be a God who smiles when his devoted childr