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  Indeed, its said that when we appreciate little things, bigger things would come our way. More so, give honour to whom it deserves, I don't take them for granted.  Its always my usual routine to appreciate and thank those who tremendously impacted in my life during the year and even over the years that have reminded consistent and resilient. To my family, I will always thank God for allowing our paths to cross in a lifetime, thank you all for your prayers, goodwill and support most especially my brother Michael Ubasinachi Oparah , my twinny Olisa gozie gi.  To a blood, who is greater than a brother, a friend and even a lover of good things , bro Oguchi Charles Onyekuru, when one looks for a support, indeed you are one helper and angel God sent to liberate mankind from pains, your support in all aspect of life can never ever be forgotten till I kpe, God bless you more for all you do and may he meet you at the very piont when you need him most. To my boss, Mr. Dele Dare ,...

  I heard a story of a guy who was recently released from prison, he had a job interview on a particular day, on his way for his interview he was well dressed and approaching an accident scene he ran to save the driver before the car burst into flames and some how he missed his interview because he took the man to the hospital. Somehow, so many people heard about what he did and they decided to rise funds for him in tune of millions and he also had better job offers. When asked why he decided to abandon his interview, he said "many more job offers would come, but we just have one life to live" This singular act opened alot of opportunities for him and rewarded him for a gesture, to save lives often times we are carried away by our own  probelms and forget that our neighbours needs more help than our present challenges. A touch can save a life, an act can change a generation, a call can better a life, a visit can revive a soul, a hand can change a destiny, a smile can hea...

Recently, every space and blog has alerted us about her divorce and separation of the monarch's wife from the Royal family, so many reactions cropping from her release yesterday. Here is my opinions as to the reactions so many has thrown to either disapprove her decisions or applaud her reactions. Its better to live with purpose than to die with pains, maybe if not eveyone but some of us has either indulged with wrong relationships or just walked away from one, sometimes we can't forsee the future with someone untill we fully indulge. It takes courage, strength and wisdom to leave such a marriage coupled with the fact that a lot of people feels she is okay and in wealth so why leave the marriage? When you find out any of these in a relationship (occultism, diabolic acts and domestic violence/abuse and decit ) my dear its high time you leave with your life fully in sanity else you will be pronounced dead. I will say this again, i don't support divorce because it's for be...

There is nothing in this life that's new and worth dying for, nothing is worth struggling for, nothing is worth killing for,nothing is worth envying for. Really, check all around you now,so many have gone with their lands and gold, with their fame and power, with their possessions and assets, oh what a life.. Value everyone who comes along, appreciate all,even the worst of persons, life is totally strange and awesome, you can't predict the next moves. Make your relationship with your creator count , build a personal relationship with him,sow and lead a good life because only the end matters. I am speaking to you and surly you so know what am talking about ,everything is worth having yet everting is vain. Make ammends while you can, because everything is passing. Keep it open and simple, life isn't fair Live freely, you never can predict the next moment Owe no man, in all you don't be in debts Keep it simple, it's beautiful that way.  Be accountable to you...

Recently, a young boy was molested in school and eventually killed, bloggers carried alot of news about it while some ended up telling the family to move on. Its so sad to know that we often pretend to hide under something because we are not directly affected. How do you tell a woman who has lost an only child to any means to move on and continue from the pain. How do you easily tell a woman who has nurtured a relationship for years to move on after a heart break? How do you console a man who has lost everything in a day to move on and be a man? How do you watch a loved one die in your presence and some one is telling you to move on. She lost her newly wedded groom in days and now she is a young widow, maybe she lost her husband of so many years of bliss and you ask her to move on. We are/were first human beings before we could be anything else, it's so hard to move on, start again and forget about things because we are totally humane, no matter how strong we act, we have this part...

When people misplace.. Priority.. Prospects Property.... Priority is what comes first before pursuing other things... Prospects... Are the things you probably want to chase or you are chasing already Property is what you legally own or a right given to you.. Please understand this and you get it right, don't make others feel wrong or stupid just because you haven't found themselves or are positioned to take charge and do what is rigth and expected. I might not be the best of me or what you expect of me but am me, someone once said "expect less from people and expect more from yourself, that the only way to stay happier but be reminded that you are the best version of yourself . You are not out to please everyone one yet its better to impact lives in your smallest and widest domain, that's all that matters. Live and be true to yourself, don't let little nothings and bigger something  which is temporary and fake affect or influence your person ,your integr...

Fighting is just the show of strength and expressing vengeance on your neighbour. Fighting has never produced anything good or palatable, funny enough, some will indulge in fighting and either kill their opponent or it results fatal injury. Why not walk away, no one has ever gained accolades for beating up another, no one won the trophy for injuring his fellow, no one has been given cash price for being violent. Yes, I understand sometimes it feels good to directly deal with people who truly offend us, but to what end do we enjoy such memories? Fighting and vengeance has nothing good to offer those who indulge, absolutely nothing, when you kill, you face the law and either remain in prison custody or you are killed also and sadly face God's wrath or you pay the price of treating who you inflicted injury on, honestly fighting has no gains. Let me add this, its okay not to believe in God and live and act carefree like you deem fit but have you ever thought of the reality of dea...

 I was reminded again of how blessed I am!  I have a vehicle that gets me from place to place, I have a roof over my head, clean clothes, money to buy a hot meal, running water, electricity, my health, a job, family, and friends! Sometimes God sends situations our way to remind us of how blessed we are! So many are sane and they don't have a bit of what we have, it's so clear to us that we should learn to respect people, appreciate them remain thankful for all that life offers us. There are stories of people you can't imagine what they are going through, trust eveyone you come across in life has a story they haven't shared. The crust of life is that we all bear them and sometimes we share to encourage or encounter others who are either privileged or those who are in our pain. Life comes in phases, to someone they are enjoying it, to other they are enduring theirs, there is never a mixed phase, it's either good or bad phase, one must happen. Try not to envy a...

  Often times we hear different things and situations in relations that are mostly erotic in nature. There are some who have defined their relationships from day one and they worked towards it tirelessly admits all odds and still ended together as a beautiful family. Hence, there are some who never defined their relationship and some how fate made them build a happy ending. Again, there are some who intensionally are in that relationship for selfish gains, knowing that they will never settle for their partners and all they succeed in doing is wasting their time and those of their partners. While there are some who snatched, stumbled and had they most nonchalant attitude in relationship and eventually had a good union and vice versa. We also have some who out of desperation due to age, widowhood single, motherhood and other unknown factors went into a marriage for the sake having a companion who migth never be there, while some of the so mentioned later became fortunate in the...

  Recently Tyetribbett and Shantet celebrated 24years anniversary of their marriage, though in their forties, very youthful couple with great dreams, scaling through all challenges and proving to the world that true love stil exists. There too, we saw a viral video of Jordan and her lover making a lot of singles wonder if they would ever find such love that exists among them only to be heart broken at the end of the video where she was indeed battered by her lover and you ask why on earth would any human being do such a thing to a soul you once professed love to. Olu and Joke recently showed us what love is all about despite his downtimes, they are waxing stronger than ever, that  singular act changed mindset and made many prayed and hope for beautiful grace in marriage. Yet, there are some many who would tell you otherwise about love and why it hurts badly, we all have our stories, positive and negative alike. Someone said, you can do everything rigth in a relationship b...

  Excuse you, I put this to you love fluctuates, know this and know peace. Often times we wonder why is our partners behaving absurd, you can't tell exactly why they are acting up and no matter how much you give in to make it rigth it ends up negatively. You wonder why some one you were so much in love with now sees you like trash and often times there are some reasons why you can't explain the hate. Well situations prompts why people either allow their love to blossom or fade away, but be reminded that love is like a moving flag it comes and goes and when it's finally no more, it is pulled down. Have you wondered how a beautiful couple full of love for each other at a piont are both filing for divorce? Let me tell you why, its either because one of them was pretending, or the other can't take the pains therein or because they allow distractions into their union. There are no two ways to love, you either love some one completely and set them free, when you truly ...

  Lora Ajuzi and Chima Queen prompted this write up on sexual predators.  MY OWN STORY  During my degree days, I decided to stay with my Counsins both hefty men, one of them happened to own a shop at trade fair in lagos,so after school I stop at the shop to collect money for food stuff and go home on time to cook before they come back home. Most of us who boarded coaster buses then knew that there was a space in between the seats, so I jion my neighbour in the bus and sat close to the walk way in the bus while my neighbour sat close to the window side. Two guys sat at our back, the journey started, I wore a trousers and a top, so I noticed that the guy who sat directly at my back was using his fingers to play with my back close to my bumbum, I tried shifting to know excatly what was going on, it just continued. Luckily for me, my neighbour told the conductor that he wants to stop at the next bustop, so he alighted, so I decided to shift to the window side he occupied, for...

  Honestly, there is no reason why anyone should envy their neighbours, envy brings about unnecessary competitions and unholy wars. You are beautiful and am not, there is nothing I can do to change that, so why should I envy you? , I didn't create myself you know. You are from a very rich home, with so much inheritance kept for you, I am not, i can only work harder to achieve more and live my life, so why should I envy you? I don't even have a grain of sand left for me You cling to so many dubious activities to get to where you are now, i don't have such nerve to indulge in the things you did, so why should I envy you? You are married and blessed with kids, there is no cause to envy you, since its not something I can create or change, why should I envy you? we all have our time and space in this world You are highy placed and am not even in your class, yet I wonder why should I envy you? Life jas a way of distributing its resources and shares it to whom and how it so ...

  For peace sake, we tend to ignore what and how ill treated people display act of wickedness to us. Many a time, you either chose to keep quite, act like you never saw what they did and move on. Often times they keep showcasing their barbaric acts and threatening you to your face and waiting to take your breath. The very moment you react, they start to blame you, many won't know how much you have ignored, many times you kept quite to let peace regin and most finally when you chose to forget and let go. Wailers will always be there to ferment trouble, jobless fellow will always want to have a say and trouble makers acting like they are there as judges to settle issues. Sometimes when you decide to show people a glimpse of the pain and troubles they have caused you over the years, alot of people will start saying stuff and forget so soon how you have endured all along. Being quite doesn't mean one doesn't have something to say, ignoring stupid acts doesn't mean th...

  Okay let's all pretend we are married and we were all asked to share the success and failures of our marriage, oh I can imagine we won't go home that day. So many remember their anniversary and say sweet and beautiful things about their union while some wished that date never existed. Take a poll online use a vibrant group and make a  post about marital joy and pains, am very certain that the poll will end with alot of anonymous coming inbox to share their pains so that no one links them with what they are suffering in marriage. Yet some who are truly enjoying their marriage too will also want to go inbox to share their stories because they are scared of some people using their success stories to wage war against their union. A woman narrated how her husband invited his concubine's friends to beat her up in her matrimonial home because she complained about his incessant cheating she further expressed her pains as she was backing a 6months baby on the said date while ...

  Just this morning, I logon to my Facebook handle to behold a lot of atrocities happening all around us and I keep wondering why all these incessant events that are so disheartening. A young lady in her teens was caught at a market scamming people of their hard earned money, she comes in as a customer and opts to pay you via transfer only to scam you with a fake alert and goes scot free untill she was caught this morning. Again, another two matured women we caught on their way to lagos from owerri with stolen babies kept in a sack and when asked they said they were on their way to lagos to sell the babies before they were apprehended. This one is so funny but true, a church pastor and a lady were caught making out on the pulpit with the doors wide open, they were beaten by church members and disgraced. If i ask you too, am very certain you also have your own story to add the manace happening around us.  The world is going bananas, every nook and crannies lies one manace being...

  A man in his purpose knows and understands his responsibility. It's embedded in his character and certainly he assumes responsibility and becomes accountable. He knows how to prioritize you because he's building towards his destiny. Most of the guys women take on as partners and have to beg them to ' do right! , often times doesn't end well, Being a man is taking charge. So true, a man should know his position  how to treat a woman how to make her happy and doing the needful as at when due. Every queen loves consistency from her man, it shows highy level of acceptance and responsibility. Hear this gospel truth . If we're not getting what you want in a man or relationship, you have to love yourself enough to walk away . More so learn the hard way to wait on God. He will direct your path. Again, you should never have to beg a man to stay out of another woman's inbox and spreading his name across her post and showing his face everywhere with her. I'm...

  We speak wisely but act foolishly Like a signpost that shows a pointer to where we are going but will never follow us to where we are going That is how most of us are, showcasing our generosity doesn't reduce or increase God rather it helps the poor and make them pray for us then God alone rewards us There are so many whose life are like a trophy, they showcase everything and deeds around then to gain fame and accolades from people for an act that should have been secretly executed. We live in a society where fame speaks louder than kindness and selflessness, a society where everyone at the herms of affairs wants to be relevant because of a position they occupy. Sacrifice isn't the order of the day but selfishness and self centeredness, the podium is there to sing praises of her gullible achievement and not the pains of our people. Now you watch them speak so wisely but act so foolishly because all they say is just opposite of what they intend to implement, like the se...

  I heard a story about a man who was extremely hungry, he went into a restaurant and sat , called the waiter and told him he has no money to buy food but he was very hungry,the waiter brought the menu and asked him to chose from the list, he again made it clear to the waiter that he has no money, again the waiter insisted that he chose from the list and he did and the waiter brought the food Some people at the restaurant saw what he did and decided to pay for the man, the waiter declined the offer and said he will pay instead from his pocket and the customers were amazed. Beautiful gesture indeed,  at every moment we have a choice on how we can respond to humanity each time it beckons. I love stories like this.  I get it, it doesn’t hit the national news often and when it does, it sounds like ‘the exception’.  I contend that this happens much more often and people either miss it, overlook it, or worse- dismiss it (cynically) as a gimmick or effort of self-promo...

Many wonders of the mind comes with great shock and it leaves you to imagine the things you can't fathom, most especially when it comes from a close ally. Trust me, there are people who just get angry with your presence even when you have done them no wrong. These kind of people are closer to you and if you can ever read their minds or have confrontations with them you would fear humans, as to the things they have done against you and even said to tarnish your person. Recall this, Jesus didn't please everyone, even though he did them no wrong, for the fact that your life pleases you, they get irritated by your progress that it isn't deterring theirs, they find ways to indict you and cause you untold pains, but don't be dismayed, your speed will shock them. I have seen household enemies who possess to stand in the way of your lifting, they appear so angelic but they have sold you out and waiting for you to make a mistake just to laugh at you. Keep surprising them w...

  HALF A WOMAN, NO SUCH THING Growing up as a girl, we were taught about basic life principles and we were guided jealousy so as to aviod certain mistakes that would be fatal and colossal. When I had my first menstruation my mum told me something very shocking, she said "now you are a woman" she went ahead to give me wrappers and so many admonishing words that I held so keenly till date. When I was in my teens and also when I became an early adult, I heard something different from what my mum told me, some girls got married and had babies, while some became pregnant without a father, yet for all the reasons in the world I heard people say "now they are complete woman '' Stll shocked at what I heard, I became even more confused when the situation as to how they put to birth came to be. These same people categorised women who put to birth using normal virginal delivery as complete women and those who gave birth through cesarean operation as half women. In my ...

  Recently, I came across a real story of a young lady who was bathed with acid simply because she refused or declined to go out with a guy who asked her out in school. The barbaric and inhuman guy poured acid on her and till date he absconded without no justice gotten for this lady. When has it becomes a sin or a crime to say NO to something you don't want? When has self worth and personal decision become an issue of national concern and someone's headache? Its so sad to know that someone can go this far to hurt a fellow like himself just because of selfish gains. Certainly, these are the kimd of partners who beat up their girlfriend or even wives at the slightest provocations. Again, its so clear that we live in a strange world where we don't have an iota of what is the mind of a fellow about us, most especially when we relate with them. Some one said, maybe the manner at which the lady told him hurts his ego and so he resulted to damaging her for life. I just wo...

  Some few days ago, I wore one of the gowns I used for my birthday celebrations to church and someone picked on me and said the gown was short and that I was dressed indecently to church. Well this said person can be funny at times but there was alot of seriousness with him, I smiled at his probelm and waved him off. Considering the fact, that he isn't the God who would and should judge me, he isn't my husband and he didn't get the clothes for me, besides I am highy comfortable with what am wearing hence I considered him one of those religious fanatics who is always looking out for faults to discredit others. Moreso, one of the Nigerian Gospel singers and prophetess recently uploaded a picture of her wearing a baggy shirt and trousers and the world picked on her, that she is misleading people and I asked when has it become a sin to wear what you are comfortable with as long as you are not naked? We live in a world full of hypocrites who sees the faults in others and side l...

You see everyone you come across in life has a story to tell. Don't act like your story is better than the other because you didn't get to pass through what they went through. In the journey of life we all have one story attached to our names, the difference is that we alone can tell our stories better. To some their stories are so good and they are grateful for life, while to some their story is so pathetic that we wish they never happened. Our destinies are different, we are not set for the same kind of expectations and experiences in life yet this life happens to us all. Some who are so privileged migth meet their down times later in life, while some who started with the wars migth meet their pleasures later in life. Hold on to the positive things that kept life going even in thr midst of the heat, the pains migth last for a life's time yet a glimpse of hope is all we anticipate to make the dark days brighter. Share in each other's burden that's the only ...

  Have you ever rejected any responsibility because there is no gain or benefit attached to it? What exactly does service mean to you? If giving out your time and treasure and talents for the sake of humanity is always for a fee for you then you have to recheck your purpose on earth. Or do you see it as an opportunity to show appreciation to God for all he has done for you? Its better to align your commitments to the service of others effortlessly, so as to fully accomplish your purpose. Our primary aim of life is the sacrifice we give to others and not for the selfish gains we accumulate for ourselves. No matter whatever position you occupy in public or private organisations its best you serve for the good of others that's why you were elected in the first place. Are you always clamoring for your rights and gains or the will to fulfil the desires of others, so that we have a sanitised society? Are you amongst those who who buy responsibility, or positions? If you do, such...

  Indeed another 366 days.. I recalled my previous birthday this time last year, admits the turbulence of all that happened in October 2020. I asked God for 3 things ... Exponential connections ... Divine settlement ... Family upliftment It all seems like magic, but I trust GOD for miracles,indeed everyone of my request was granted and even more I can't share here. Another year has begun and I count my blessings again, this time I will ask for 3 things, I will share them next year when they happen. I count my blessings in quantum, indeed I have seen the glory of GOD, of a fact what God cannot do does not exit, am a living testimony of his love  an effulgence of his glory, I radiant blessing and I carry his grace. As he is so am I in this world, I don't operate on the economy of this world but of God's abundance and fullness, am not ordinary, I carry God on my inside and manifest his works. Happy birthday to me Ahudiya 1 nke best influence, asalicious nke oyeoma na...

  Two days before my birthday, October a month I cherished so much. Same two days before the planned visit to Abuja to see have the best moment for my birthday thanksgiving which was disrupted by the end sars protest which was hijacked by our political inclined beings. On this said ay, as I got excited and longed for my trip, with all arrangements in place, I went about posting online on the ongoing end sars protest against bad governance and the tied hands of its citizens. My phone went dead as the almighty power holden had seized ligth to faustrate the end sars protester as home, hence I went to my neighbours apartment to charge my phone that evening, while I stayed back at my neighbour's house for a chat about the state of the nation. At about 8pm that sad that day, I went into my apartment when power has been restored and I switched on my phone. Lo, the first post that welcomed me was the live video by DJ switch on Instagram on the incessant shorting at the lekki toll gate, I j...

  If you Dont see the value in having.me by your side, I won't convince you.. Every woman/man  deserves to.have a man or woman who is proudly willing to say to the whole world 'yeah, he or she is my one and only, he or she is beautiful and she is mine, she is intelligent, full of flaws yet she complements me and vice versa  Promise me you stay with me, we figth for what we have and win this war together.. Life isn't governed by miracles but by principles, chose to forgive your partner in advance, its the highest form of love.. There would always be trials and mistakes in marriage but you must be ready to figth & face it and overcome it with love, make yours work.  Marriage last long not because they are destined to but because both involved make a conscious effort to make /work for it. Marriage is a union between two great forgivers, if you don't know how to forgive, there is no need to marry, because there are lots of flaws in marriage that must always occur as ...

As a woman, I have so experienced alot from marriages and I can categorically say that there are 3 types of married women in their homes, as regards my personal encounters with them and shared experiences with people around, permit me to list them aa follows : Home breakers Nonchalants attitudes Home builders HOME BREAKERS These set of married women are just out to break their homes and the homes of other married women, many a time they have a click of friends who all they do is drag their families down, quarrel with relatives and inlaws alike, shatter friendship and pull their husbands down. There is never a happy moment with them, no matter how wealthy their spouses are, they are always ready to ferment trouble and it becomes worse if their husbands isn't as okay as expected, they become the topic of discussion in their gathering and gossips, they gear at his faults and find ways to rubbish his ego if he still has one. They don't take corrections, they are too proud an...

Recently, I encountered Victor on my way to the clinic around Yaba, he is such a charmer despite the fact that he is disabled yet he speaks fluently. We became friends based on the fact that each time I pass along his domain we exchanged pleasantries and I give him what ever I have to offer that day and tag along. One this particular day, I stopped by to have a chat with him because I am always marveled at how he speaks and interacts with people around despite being incapacitated. So, while we spoke I asked him why he dropped out of school and how come he got amputated on his leg, the crust of it all was that he lost his parents when he was in secondary school, on his way back from their burial he had an accident that took one of his leg and so he resulted to begging to make ends meet. While I walked home , I thought about the various reasons why many children dropped out of school, coupled with what Victor shared with me , below are some of the reasons *Economic challenges (war...

Use your TIME, TALENTS AND TREASURE to appreciate GOD and your fellow human beings ,it is in service we make a difference and its beautiful to make it a duty to say at least 8 thank yous  out of 10 with every one you encounter daily, it will open more doors for you, yet it takes nothing from you. No matter who is involved.. A gateman. A cleaner. A cook. A gardener. Your staff. A trader. A stranger.. A driver.. A hawker A cashier A conductor A begger. Any one Whosoever it is, show gratitude to them, gratitude is a virtue, if you are not grateful to your fellow man,you will find it difficult to show gratitude to God, whom u haven't seen.. Abraham showed appreciation, did you know that gratitude and thanksgiving opens doors, how far have u gone in appreciating God? Abel showed appreciation, Rachel showed appreciation, Solomon showed appreciation, show yours in gratitude and in thanksgiving Naaman showed appreciation, one of the 10 lepers showed appreciation, the bes...