AND NOW CHACHA...

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The list keeps growing endlessly and it make you wonder why is happening when you hear the word marriage.


Those who are married wants to leave their marriage, while those who are single wants to get married.


Apart from celebrities getting married and divorcing, we have many other people who aren't celebrities leaving their marriage on a daily base.


Take a critical statistics on the list of Nigeria celebrities who at one time left their marriage because of domestic violence and cheating.


Funke Akindele

Iyabo Ojo

Stephanie Okereke

Victoria  Iyama

Ini Edo

Toyin Abraham

Mercy Aigbe

Stella Damascus

Faithia Balogun

Lilian Esoro

Doris Simeon 

Regina Askia

Dolly Unachukwu

Eucharia Anobi

Tonto Dikeh 

Kate Henshaw 

Ini Edo 

Caroline ekanem

Mercy Aigbe 

Damilola Adegbite

Monalisa Chinda 

Chika Ike

Tiwa Salvage 

Toke Makinwa

Ayo Adesanya

Uche Ogbodo

Shan George 

Clarion Chukwurah

Chiege Alisigwe

Foluke Daramola

Juliet Ibrahim 

Billy Wright 

Anne Njemanze

Jackie Appia


You will agree with me that these women has something in common, I decided to stream line my list to just women because they are also connected to the men they were married to.


I will say it again, marriage it's not by force . Don't marry someone and make them older and faustrated because they married you 


If your partner is not looking more better and beautiful than when you met them, If you can't find the right one ,you better remain single with your life in place 


Sincerely, we have one life to live, take away the number of years you have lived before you got married, how many more years do you have to spend it with someone who will eventually faustrate you because of marriage, rather, find that someone who is ready to make the remaining part of your life to be full of good memories. 


There are so marriages you look up to as a single person and wish someday, you will have a home like this, only to discover they are a shadow of themselves and they are heading back to the court house for divorce. 


Saddens my heart, that our beloved CHACHA has entered the list of those who had failed marriage, I once heard that if you can survive the first five years of your marriage, then you can truly stay married, but why now, after seven years of togetherness. 


We wonder why the likes of Genevieve Nnaji , Rita Dominic and co have decided to stay unmarried, well different stroke for different pains. 


My mum will always say, that someone's marriage failed somewhere doesn't mean your own marriage will fail, you just have to keep working out your marriage, it takes a lot of work to stay married. 


If you know you are not ready to stay married admits all challenges apart from domestic violence and occultic rituals, then don't marry, live your life and enjoy your peace. 


She stated that if when you are married and your spouse is in the habit of beating you, leave that marriage, if when you are married you notice your spouse indulging in dubious occult practices of taking lives, leave that marriage, apart from these two, you are expected to remain married. 


Then I asked her, what about if he cheats, she replied, men are wired to be polygamous, it takes the grace of God for a man to remain with one woman for the rest of his life, it is your duty as a woman to do all you can to help him aviod such temptations,  be a good wife and pray for you partner, she says 


About CHACHA, I sincerely pray they resolve their issues and come back together for peace sake but if not let God direct their paths in life. 


May God help our husbands obtain favor in his sight, so that they can find favour in us to chose us as their wives and may we be good thing to them who obtain favours from God, so that we will be able to fulfil purpose in marriage.. Amen


Vivsravine speaks ©

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