OPEN UP YOUR WINDOWS

Sometimes last week, a sister chatted in a family group I manage and narrated to me her ordeal, don't worry she gave me the permission to share her story, she happened to have fallen in love with a brother and she doesn't know how to express her feelings to him, since she sees it as not African to approach a guy first.

The subject matter was posted in the group and a lot of reactions came from both men and women alike.

90% of the ladies, said, she shouldn't ever open up her mouth to say a word to the brother in bid of expressing her feelings and they gave so many reasons why she shouldn't.

All the men shared their mindset, they said that she should make him know her thoughts and be ready to take what ever consequences comes up or better still the bliss there in.

Meanwhile, since the whole brouhaha was hitting up, I decided to consult a relationship coach my good friend Olarotimi Olagunju , and asked for his views about this said topic.

After so many guidelines from him, we both brain stormed and came out with this views, seeing it from the views of both genders.

*****Open up to many other options, this will stop you from putting all your minds and feelings on him or her.

*****Induce jealousy , don't always give him the room to be seen as having time for him, create time for others even more Platonic.

*****Give him time to express himself and to see the green light you project towards him, while you keep your windows open to others.

*****Never tell him how you feel if you can't take whatever stand he has about you, else you might be hurt most especially if the feelings isn't mutual.

*****He/She might seriously be in a relationship with some other person but sees you as a good friend, so don't feel bad, if the feelings isn't mutual.

******Move on, if after all these are put in place and he/she still dint own up to tell you how he/she feels about you, move on and hook up with some other person .

Love is beautiful when it is reciprocated, love shouldn't be one sided, it hurts and never ever push love on any one, allow it to grow in their hearts

There is someone who is crazy about you, there is someone who is madly in love with you, just open the windows of your heart to see it, it might take time, because love isn't magical , its beyond a feeling. Just wait for it, even if it comes with a process.

Everyone deserves the best in life, don't ever wait for someone who doesn't even know if you exist, don't beg any man or woman to be in their lives, the consequences are bad

The worst thing that can happen to any man is to marry a bad wife and the worst thing that can happen to any woman is to marry into a bad family , you see it beyond love now.

Though love has its own role to play, make sure, you secure your place in the heart of your partner and this helps to solve a lot of unforeseen issues.

Am not a relationship counselor, am only making sense , because we all have had our fair share and a lot is happening in our world today most especially with matters of the heart.

A good friend added'' don't love someone who isn't ready'' make sure you get busy so you don't waste your time thinking of someone who doesn't even know you exist and after you show him the green light, he mops around, free his space, love will find you.. And u will be happier twice.

Vivravine speaks ©