PARTNERS PHONE

 

"Honestly why would I commit my life and totality to you in marriage and still have something to hide from you..

What is that exactly?

Past

Finances

Medical

Future

Otherwise

If I can't access your phone and what you have in mind, then you are unfaithful to me and it should be reciprocated. 

We should have nothing to hide in our union if we are truly into each other.

I made the above statement on a post about a lady who shared similar case about his cheating partner and she discovered his HIV positive when she checked his phone, that post had 100 likes and over 50 comments.

Many would say, if you keep checking you would find nothing but heartaches and pains while others agrees to the fact that you have the right to check once in a while to be certain of whom you are living with, because people change with time.

My candid opinion on partners checking their spouses phone is okay, as long as you are one, you don't have anything to hide from each other why then should checking of phones be a probelm.

Yes, apart from being married, we all have our private lives to live and should be able to enjoy a level of privacy, yet there are things you still would want to keep highy secret and carry to the grave, I understand that part but such things can be shared if you are asked about it by your partner.

Infidelity begets a lot of ills and its never healthy, it has never produced anything good apart from sadness and pains, disunity and fights, distrust and anger, hence why would you want to go ahead and do things that aren't acceptable in marriage just because you want to catch cruise and play games.

Checking of phone should be a reciprocated thing, there is absolutely nothing to hide and be scared of, if you are sincerely into each other, I should know the business or businesses you are indulged on, I should know your pins and password, so also I should be able to know your next move and aspirations and goals, so do you to me.

When emergencies happens, many of us are kept in the dark and delusioned we don't have access to our partners documents and gadgets, we are robbed of our possession because we fail to ask, talk about them and define the way to go about it because one person decided to be selfish.

Another story was said about a man who built a house outside a particular state without they knowledge of his wife, he rented some flats out and occupied one when we he visited with his concubines, after some years he died in a car accident and none of the tenants knew about it and also they didn't pay rent all these years.

One day fire gazed his apartment and some tenant raced to help him save some valuables, it was at this point they were able to contact his family and they knew about the house after so many years. 

Its high time couples tell themselves the hardest truth, marriage is deeper than our surface area attachment, its deeper than the oceans, when two becomes one, its a total infusion, its like mixing two different colors to become an entirely new color, there is no way you can separate them except death do them apart.

Let's learn to take charge of our homes, discuss with our partners, fashion out modalities to make things work, approach situations with wisdom and ask God to help us in this union called marriage.

Vivsravine speaks