VIVSRAVINE

If you understand that life comes in phases, you wont be bothered by what happens around you so keenly So many things are enough to make you feel less a person, when you allow them take hold of you. There are catalyst who propels you to go out of your way to see that things are done or better still satisfy people and contents, yet we also have pressures who forces you to do things out of your will power to satisfy personal self or a greedy community. Be intensional about everything you do, don't allow sentiments of any sort becloud your thoughts. Be accountable for your actions, take responsibilities for them and make sure you avoid every form of explanation to anyone, they are absolutely distractions. Never apologise for your feelings because you were intensional about it, rather make feasible ammends in the situation where you hurt any one. Always remember that life comes with various choices, many will intimidate us, yet a few will give us opportunities to be better of, yet its ...

African homes can be very funny either the nuclear or polygamous family. A lot happens and  sometimes when we recall, most especially when you are away from home we just smile Different characters in exhibition, sweet malice, cold wars, loud laughter and silent tears, these truly makes a home. There is so much to write about, the joy of having a family , you look forward to see, gist and laughter, all these makes you conscious of the fact, that you can't do without family, no matter how much we figth, we still love ourselves.  I recalled when my parents will have a cold war chai we the kids will suffer the pain of the malice they kept, you will hear things like, '' go and meet your mum'' or go and tell your father. But when they reconcile you won't be in the know, don't ever interfere in their little wars, cause they know how to settle if you dare come in between they will use your head as' nkwobi'.  There are days when you will quarrel with your sib...

I was created  to love u.. My teacher You are the reason I came your way My muse I was made to give you my all My partner I was fashioned to bring you joy My mentor I was blessed to be your support My forever I was built to make you an empire My productivity I was called for a purpose My future I was crowned a queen My king I was nourished to be the best My domain I was given a new mandate My reason I was me before you changed me My treasure The reason, the purpose, the everything... A lot in a being... Responsible freedom, the consciousness of the mind.. This isn't a poem, it's beyond the literal, be open to your thoughts, be conscious of  your inner mind, take responsibility of all you do, be free as a bird yet know where you land..  Vivsravine speaks ©

Life has it many phases and the very moment we recollect and make ammends, the best decision we take there in. Seen it all, the high times and down times, been with so much to spend and also had none, i mean absolutely none at all. Felt bad about situations and also felt so good about life events, cried at the haze and laughed hard at the bliss. Times had come with so many questions to ask and you just feel life is so unfair to you, and also there are times you get away with it. Then, i checked the time and all the achievement so far and i had a mixed feeling, does it really matter, really?? I heard of great people, so too about wretched souls, i still aaked again, does it really matter? What exactly is the purpose of life itself? We all are passing thru, some had passed thru, other will still come thru, those who hv gone before us, what purpose did they achieve? We are here now, counting every second and might be here again the next second, then at that piont, when we are no more, i w...

Many a time, i just smile at the outcome of things, events and what people do, probably bcos of their positions in life. Just yesterday, i did something very funny but my joy was that i passed my message to the madam involved. Below is the conversation that ensued between me and her right from my inbox.  Madam.. Nne happy quarantine and how you dey hold body o,  Me.. Huh Madam.. I know say you be super woman but vivian abeg chose one guy already, you are too chossy.. Wetin, mtcheww  Me.. Ignored her.  Madam..abeg all these guys way dey distrub you marry one, make i come chop rice.  Me, bia xxxxx, how you take marry your own, did you just wake up from the blues and fiam you just married, didnt you chose.???  Madam.. what do you mean by that???  Me.. Xxxxx, no lemme play your tape for you o.  Madam, Vivian, you dey crazy abi you high.  Me.. While i was typing, madam bkocked me.  Me.. I freed her.. Later two days ago, while i was dancing to...

Permit me to say this and am certain you can attest to this hard fact.. A lot of things is happening now and more so.. Very wrong It saddens my hearts 💕 but what can I do to erase these inevitable facts and fears around us, truly sad 😔. On the covid 19 menace, who would have believed that such a time will come in our lives and we all stay home at the same time. The subjected hunger, oh, I can't even quantify the pains in the lives of people and the fears that engulfs their faces 😔 On the robbery and insecurity, we now have to protect ourselves and wait to figth even when we are hungry and scared  about d virus Hmm, the economic situation of a lawless country. Who uses this opportunity to enrich their selfish selves, let them recall ABBA kyari OK, what of the personal issues of ours, what happens after this covid virus, what has life got to offer us and what is next, oh my 2020 goals It just occurred to me to ask this questions, HOW LONG? 🤔  Really how long do we need to fi...

Picked a rose 🌹 from heaven and I gave it to one super human The rose 🌹 wasn't shinning but, the touch of this super human, made it glow.  This super human makes even the most hardest things, 🥤 soft and easy, wat love I ☺ smiled at the super human and blessed the creator for his creation, wat an idol Yes, this super human is an idol, I cant worship but, I can adore ✔️,  and my heart robber oo Robbers me of my pains and replaces it with endless joy 😂, what a super human indeed Indeed, if you find a super human, u are almost 🔐 close to 🛐 worship ur idol, but the bliss The bliss this super human gives, is more than a blessing, eruditely and intellect and a joygiver Joygivers only comes from super humans cos they are higher than the angels put together Together, me plus ➕ super human, we are unstoppable and we create a force, a bliss Bliss of knowing a super human makes you soar above the heavens even on earth 🌍 Earth hear me, super human is met for me alone, yes call me se...

Most recently, events of our times has indeed opened my eyes to a hidden inevitable truth, and which is this, everything in life has a process, its hard to believe but true. You are in a relationship and all you want is that your plans work well , nne na nna, there is  process, working for or against you, as the situation calls in, u cant stop it, its a process.  We have kids and here we are, we want them to do the rigth thing always and you see them doing other wise, you are weary, even at this there is a process going on. She is expecting a baby, nna, she is always undergoing a process, and as such, we all wait for it, watch out for her or we either rejoice with her or cry out our pains with her, a process still You embark on a journey, which ever means you take, entails a process, which will either be fruitful or not an experience you will ever want to share with any one, yet it is a process Hmm, do I need to talk about this zoo country, okay, let me give them a space here,...

Boo's asset.. Boo's priority Boo's goals Na so them they address themselves, ndi ara I heard a very funny line form a friend today and that reminds me of what happened in my domain today.  My friend's exact lines Lockdown Everywhere Abi Now how will U renew the soap Baba gave U.  Las las U go run mad 😛🏃 (No dey use juju to hold a Man)*🏃🏽‍♀🏃🏽 Chakam, I still dey sleep the sleep way Olisa give me this morning, dey enjoy my self o.. When my sister come knocking at  my door, nana come hear story as e dey hot 🔥. Chai, I wan vex change am for her but she sounded very urgent, fiam I jioned her we go backconey o,dey  loook the next compound, since we stay upstairs. Oya na, na plenty noise o, cries and shouts, What happen oooooo Haunty, slay Queen, olosho e hvf madt o..they tied her for ground fully naked Me.. What happen...i keep asking My sister... Slay Queen jazz hvf cast Me.. Gbese re.. Me.. Tell. Me sometin o My sister, sebi na me and u dey live here Me.. Oya no v...

We all try to be careful one way or the other in our various activities of life. While you are cooking 🍳 you try to be careful in the best way you can 🥫, maintaining all precautions you know so as to leave the kitchen safely. Driving 🚘 entails lots of precautions so as to aviod fatal and even minor accidents. In business engagement and relationship, we apply all guidelines, so we don't loose money and make huge profits. Family values, most especially rearing kids, a lot is been and being put in place for the proper upbringing of that child 🧒, so he or she won't be a probelm to the family and society at large. Erotic relationship, also has it own fair share of applying caution ⚠ so you don't go about hurting for the rest of your life. World and economic authorities has its own, encounter when it comes to been and being careful while dealing with counterparts in all areas of engagement. My very pionts exactly... Somehow and somewhere, we all try to exhibit a level of care...

Hey you, because you have all you are looking for makes you feel others are not up to your standards. You are enjoying every bit of the moment, therefore others are lazy and insensitive to understand.  Miss.SHOW, you have a lot flicking into your inbox and that is enough reason to be rude and insulting, nnem, because you are beautiful means any one who isn't up to your stand can go to hell. Madam, because you now hang out with the calibre of the society makes you lose your sence of reasoning. Omoge, now because you have some small change, means you have fully arrived. Okay, you have been to all the poshed hotels, travelled in a jet and lived in a yacht by a private island, makes your class mighty and we hear things like '' he cant even buy my body spray let alone my hair, haunty sorry we will remind you when the time comes. Brother, tooo much money 💷 we hardly see your face, you don't come back home again infact home is too local for your liking, oh we see all your fri...

Hi Hello How r you Where are you How old are you Are you single  Do you live alone Are you working or schooling Blaablaaa They come with all sorts of antics.. Many will frown 🙁 at this post but believe me, when i say i am not even looking at your face... E no increase my bank balance.  Fiam, they come into your inbox to say absolutely nothing, attension seekers and empty heads. What I don't understand is when you give someone a little chance to showcase who they are, they eventually display show of stupidity. PLEASE , those involved Knows themselves and before I block them  I will give them the room over a period of time ⌚ before sending them packing.  Even when u try and answer them, thats the end.. Nothing more. They come back after a long while to ask the same questions they have asked before.. I love what i do so well.. I just ignore them, till the last time.. When they see you aren't forthcoming, they call you on messenger without your consent, like the sub for...

Run yours and focus on the finish line. If you keep looking back to see how others are running theirs, you might never get to the finish line! Eziokwum ! If you respond to every booing and cheering, shouting, side talks, malicious antics from the crowd, you might never make it to the finish line! Life it self has lots of distractors, even amongst your closest pals, wear focus as a garment and never allow nothing shake or move you. Many are out there to pull you down, many feels they are in competition with you, many just dont like your personality, many feel threatened by your life goals, no matter how safe you want to play, many don't want you to go far and exceed them, even when you are running 🏃 a different race from them  Be determined to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, stay glued to what you stand for, so you don't fall for everything  Focus! Focus and focus! Vivsravine speaks ©

Its their fault,I must marry a rich man, because am beautiful and educated, am from a well cultured home, so I can't marry anyhow. Indeed that's the mindset of an average Igbo lady, family values has made her believe so and as such she must see to it and make it happen. ''Biagodi nnem'', what stops you from making your own money, what stops you from being so rich, even before the marriage comes.. .. ..Do you know your own money can be so sweet? ..... Do you know you will earn your respect from your in-laws and siblings alike? .. ..Do you know you can build a house, buy a car, own an empire before marriage? ... Do you know you can catch all your trips, get your designers, live your life before and after marriage? Nothing stops you from achieving your goals to go back to school, train others and employ labor. Marrying a rich man is good but when you truly check it, you will realize many ills are associated in such marriages because of greed and wha...

Dear Vivian, I have watched you over times and I must confess, you are phenomenal, erudite and charming, my words fail me, but permit me to call you, "Ahudiya" do me the honor to make me forever the found rib, the evergreen joy of a new day, please marry me. My ears itched, I wore a smile like a crown  and laughed out loud  like one who is hopelessly romantic and then stretched out my hands and said YES to my own super human, greater than all men that existed and blessed beyond the wildest thoughts of the human race . He slotted the ring on my finger  and left me admiring the piece of metal, with a diamond  head, so beautiful to behold, there after the celebration continued. In that joyous mood, i retried that night and it beckoned on me that I said yes to a soul to be his everyday muse, his everything through and through, the wife of his youth, the mother of his children, the'' bubugaga'' of his worries, the support of his pillars and the streng...

Do you know who i am? Am bubu's number one man Obama is my boy, we graduated together Who is trump, he standstill to greet me I enter the hollies of hollies as I want Even at the Vatican, I ball there Oprah can't eat without me Beyonce, learnt how to dance from me I taught Rihanna who to sing I control all the shipment in Nigeria The former minister of state is my best friend I have traveled over 300 countries of d world. I don't eat over night food. My smallest car is a Ferrari, I have lots of yacht I am the delegate of the United nations. I don't count my money.because they flow in quantum, my jets are  in series. We control this country with numbers Dangote is my aide, he honors me Obj, used to be my cleaner that year Who is Wizkid and Davido, I promoted them I have companies all over the world My designer are from Paris, my food is from Bahamas, I sleep in Dubai hotels, I am this and that, do you know who I am? Be everything you want...

Before the lock-down I was at an eatery waiting for my chicken and chips to be ready then I sat down in wait while it was prepared , mean while, just opposite where I sat, there were  these two women who sat with me charting. While I was busy pressing my phone, their conversation distracted me... So I was pressing phone and listening to their conversation. They were waiting for a third person and they were speaking Yoruba language, oh.. So painful what I heard from these two wicked witches. Hmm.. Little did they know that I heard all they were saying, its saddens my heart, that wickedness no longer hides its face in public. This conversation ensued between them in Yoruba language but am going to translate.. Witch A.. I am sure Seyi doesn't have an idea of what and where we are taking her to. Witch B...ha ha, she will understand by the time  baba gives it to her. Witch A.. My own time was just small concoction and the rituals of sperm donation ME.. I wanted ...

THE LADY SAYS.. I love my boo  he is a good man, he takes adequate care of my needs and loves me rigth. THE GUY SAYS... Oh, she is loving and supportive, she compliments me. THE LADY SAYS... I cant wait to be his wife THE GUY SAYS.. I will make her my wife The list is endless and unlimited to count but the big question is that a lot of people forget to sit down and understand that a lot comes with marriage, which are just inevitable. Dear ladies, before you say " I DO" BEA.. Are you ready to lose your shape, get fat huh, maybe too have a Sagging breast? Are you ready to endure the pains of pregnancy and groom kids? Are you ready to work not for yourself but for your family Are you ready to be accountable to your spouse and family Are you ready to take up responsibility that comes up during this period Are ready to bear the pains and joys that must come too. Are you ready to give yourself in  knowing that your hubby is your first priority, then ur k...

Often times I write not to annoy anyone but this time, I don't care or give a hoot about who cares or not. Fiam, they won't check on you to know how you are doing, when they see you on social media, they assume all their assumptions. One time, they are on your inbox, in seconds they are out to accuse you of not relating to them, they want to use the few minutes to know about all the events happening in your life, the details there in. If some reasons they know about any event happening or has happened in your life without you telling them they are angry with you and I wonder why.. I just laugh. You won't call to ask for help and they answer you, rather you will hear tales by moon light stories,endless, I love 😍 myself I will never ask them.. They have never offered or lifted a finger to show you care or concern, yet they want you to do same, when they call you for help. Better still, when you decide to stay away from them and concentrate on your life they say ...

Frown at this post , but let me use this medium to remind you about what happens when you die. When you die, you wont worry about anything on earth.. You won't worry about paying bills You won't worry about wearing designer's You won't worry about fat bank accounts You won't worry about the trips around the world You won't worry about being married You won't worry having or rearing kids You won't worry about joblessness or your career You won't worry about a failed relationship or even your sweet marriage You won't worry about the pains, fears and betrayals You won't worry about the loss of friends and family You won't worry about wars, fights and power tussle You won't worry about wicked people and good people You won't worry about taking care of family and others You won't worry about education, religion traditions etc You won't worry about sin, lies good and bad You won't worry about nothing R...

Sometime ago, I had a chat with SH and as I listened to all that was said, I made my points written, so as to share with my beloved. Marriage is not for scattered people, it is for people who have assembled themselves in the following ways: Mentally Financially Physically Emotionally Sociologically Academically Sexually Spiritually If you find your partner boring or scared to be with or relate with or you feels he or she has taken advantage over you, please leave quietly. Relationships has to be with friendship, if you are not committed or in communication to your partner.. stay away from them than hurting them. The quality and content of your person is what makes the substance of who you are. Oh, if you have love in your heart and you cant communicate it to your partner, Nnem you are dead... Why you don't have to condemn anyone who is making efforts Hmm.. People might even tell you, that you are crazy  for communicating, set your goals, ignore the naysayers ...

Needless defining to you what responsible means and more so what an adult entails, you especially knows what it means. My pains is that most adults have failed to be responsible in our world, many of them acting so stupidly in the name of its '' THE NORMAL THING'' You see a full flagged adult being so carefree about the ills that should be addressed, rather you see him indulging and piratically bragging on such annoying acts. Now who corrects the so called adults, when mostly everyone is seeing things as norms, our society keeps degrading and we just watch. What exactly do we tell our children, what values do we keep for them, dignity is now subjected to a very few who stands for something, so as not to fall for anything, such people are called "holy holy" in our minds we are quick to cast them. Our actions are very appalling ,our words hurting, we are out and ready to fight, the purpose of our existence is now all about self, we are now so greedy ...

You put on a lot to attract a fellow, looking like one loosed harlot from Sudan, eyelashes so horrible, stops you from seeing your future , nails looking like those of the toes of a mad hen, my dear you can still keep it simple without using all these "Inugo". Still on still you pierce your nose, open almost all the lobes of your ears, your belly bottom isn't left out.,what is all these please, my dear wear all the metals in the name of pure gold and be looking so dirty and unkempt, you can still look simple without these too Now, They will hate me again, but I will still air my views, its yours to keep, leg chains, waist beads , armlets, blue eyes, bracelets, heavy finger rings, necklace like three at a time, please how do you feel comfortable with all these at once. Okay ..you wear all the designers, all you think of is party after party, what more can you offer? Before they say you are jealous of their shapes and implants, what I wonder about is how and why will...

Sometimes last week, a sister chatted in a family group I manage and narrated to me her ordeal, don't worry she gave me the permission to share her story, she happened to have fallen in love with a brother and she doesn't know how to express her feelings to him, since she sees it as not African to approach a guy first. The subject matter was posted in the group and a lot of reactions came from both men and women alike. 90% of the ladies, said, she shouldn't ever open up her mouth to say a word to the brother in bid of expressing her feelings and they gave so many reasons why she shouldn't. All the men shared their mindset, they said that she should make him know her thoughts and be ready to take what ever consequences comes up or better still the bliss there in. Meanwhile, since the whole brouhaha was hitting up, I decided to consult a relationship coach my good friend Olarotimi Olagunju , and asked for his views about this said topic. After so many guidelines from hi...