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 Funny how life could turn out to be, so many had good plans for their lives and others never had any, yet life takes turn to play out as it pleases it. No one ever wishes for any negativity even after setting a lot in place, the reality of pain, worry and fear rules the day and blows you off your feet. Wished we had the best of all our desires but really wishes don't come through, rather they come once  in a life time, while the other ninety nine percent is full of wars and fears. Many a time try and find happiness in all you do, if you don't, it will never come, life on its own is filled with struggles, challenges and anxieties unending until one rests beneath the ground. Whatever steals your happiness, quit from it, stay far away from anyone who drags you down, who takes your peace away from you and makes you less a person and who never values or appreciates your being. Life is too short to stick around people who care only about their self and considers your existence as n...

   It is better to remain single and purposeful than to marry and torment your partner with your dirty life style and bad attitudes. Training your children to become instrument in the society does not end at home but their lives must be impacted individually, sadly, even when high morals are adhered you will still see many of them who chose to becomes pains to their parents, to an innocent spouse and even their family and a societial nuisance. Marriage can be draining when you marry a spouse who doesn't listen to you , run all your effort downs, never appreciate you as a person let alone value your worth. Can I say that marriage is not for everyone, some are married but lives single, never indulges their partners in any affair whatsoever, take decisions alone and expect to be treated well, life indeed is a reciprocated reaction. You must not marry, if you know you can't accept what you do to others, you must not marry, when you know you will cheat, you must not marry when you ...

  Life as certain as it is, so unpredictable and one can't control what you can't hold of, there are so many reasons why people suffer, even when they are in subjected to good environments and while some are not so privileged. There are many types of suffering in the world as of today. Many suffer from hunger, even when there is plenty food around them but they can't have access to it, funny enough some who have food and can't eat because there is a life clause they are subjected to, more so, there are placed where access to food is a major challenge, hence the people living around there are subjected to abject hunger and starvation. Sickness and diseases is another way people suffer, many have so much money and connection to heal themselves but nature won't forgive hence they remain in their diseases despite all the affluence, while some people are in so much pain because they don't have anyone to help them in the cause of medical attention and care, hence they...

What is good for the geese is also good for the gander, I am so sure you know what it means to react to people the way you treat them, if you treat someone with lots of disdain and pain, certainly when you encounter such, you won't complain.  In the case of married couple, when you keep treating your spouse in a wrong way, be mindful that if they do the same thing you do to them, you will obviously not survive it. Marriage isn't about competition, rather every one is equal in it, you are the head as a man and she is the neck as the woman, hence the need to see that one can't do without the other, so whatever measure you take affects the other. You can't be married and still enjoy cheating and hiding things form your spouse, the day things will fall apart you will have your self to blame. Often times we act alone, take decisions without indulging our partners, we live as though we are still single even when we are married, neglecting the feelings of the other and acting ...

Some people would say things like, "when I am rich, I would travel round the world and build empires, others would say when I grow older" I will visit so many places some would even say when I am secured I will protect those around me. There so many wishes that never come through, there are so many words that never came to pass, but there are actions no matter how little grow to be what many enjoy till tomorrow. It is so good to make wishes but it is more beautiful to carry out our dreams and make them realities, for our own benefits and the good of others. Often times life's event might take place, situations so unbearable may occur, sometimes too, time and chance might not surface again and the we lose such opportunities. When you become deliberately intensional, you go an extra mile to achieve things, make the best use of your time and create lasting relationships and build great empires. Many live in total regrets today because of the things they neglected, the time t...

  The things we do deliberately attracts more consequences than the things we do unknowingly. You don't expect to intensionally hurt someone and go scotfree, even if you ask for forgiveness and are forgiven , nature will still take its effects on you, God forgives but nature doesn't forget. Mind what you do to people, especially those we are so innocent of what you do to them, you will certainly pay heavily. You don't except to receive a national award from being wicked to your fellow brother and you go on galavating, some day you will certainly pay for the cost of your actions, karma doesn't forget the actions of pain. We live in a world filled with so much rage, we are always quick to fight and no one is patience with each other, we are so greedy that we want it all to ourselves and we careless of the need and pain of the next persons and when we start bearing the consequences of our actions we start asking questions and wondering where we went wrong. Treat people wit...

There are countless situations that we can relate to when we discuss the activities in life, the scenarios are not limited to but similar to different experiences we share. People who come to the hospital are there to get better, they want to follow a procedure, get treatments and want to leave better than they came but unfortunately it isn't always so anticipated. We engage or indulge in various projects in life, some go into business, others learn a trade while some decide to go to school, all in the bid of becoming better and greater than when we all first started. Funny, as the we can recount, many won't complete the projects they started, others will go part way while some will even come to a conclusion but still won't be able to drive the affairs for a long time. Life affairs can be so dearing, some so complicated, others mysterious and while some easy but without a story behind it, we all have something to say about life and how it has dealt with us. Therefore, we r...

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. Whatever you do affects your partner positively or negatively, recall that to every action there is an equal and opposition reaction.  When you keep treating your spouse in a wrong way, be mindful that if they do the same thing you do to them, you will obviously not survive it. Marriage isn't about competition, rather every one is equal in it, you are the head and she is the neck, hence the need to see that one can't do without the other, so whatever measure you take affects the other. You can't be married and still enjoy cheating and hiding things form your spouse, the day things will fall apart you will have your self to blame. If you are in a good marriage, enjoy it and pray it lasts, but if you are in a bad marriage that is unrepairable, please leave, there is more to life than managing what will eventually kill you or take away your peace. Many, stay in unhealthy marriage because of their kids but the truth is tha...

  Life comes with so many issues, circumstances and challenges, it is meant to be so, just as you are sloving and attending to one, another springs up and we keep going round and round until life finally happens. What do I call the place of grace, because in life we have lots of challenges we sort, it won't be out of place to consider the following factors as attributes of bliss when we encounter some qualities of life that makes life worth living. If we are blessed admist all life issues, then we can say we are in the place of grace, if we enjoy peace of mind even in our troubles, we can equally say we are in the place of grace, if We fellowship with one another amicably and extend a hand of love with them, then we are in the place of grace. More so, we could be out of grace also when sin , wrong life styles, worries, mistakes and vices take the over our lives, the access of grace becomes far from us and hence we fall. Get up and clean your life, make ammend where necessary, stop ...

  I chose to keep quite about some certain topics but I realised that even if you fail or choose not to talk about them, they will still linger and face you, hence it's rather better to talk about them, free your mind and remain positive. Suffering and smiling has become the icing on the cake for us here, we have become slaves in our own land, ruled by our own people and suffer pain and unimaginable hardship for a cause we have nothing to do about. Our liberty is limited, we are captives in our land, we can't express our opinion without been arrested, detained and even jailed, hence we rather wonder as fugitives and remain silenced. We have vast land, arid and fertile soil but we don't have food because insecurity has stopped our farmers from producing, the moment they go out to make an impact, they are apprehended, kidnapped and even killed, hence we  become hungry in a land with plenty. We are scared to take a long trip, all because of these same people, when  some are ...

 ESSENCE OF LIFE  Beyond here there is much more about LIFE, often times we concentrate so much about this life and truly forget that we are in a fleeting world.  When we look at the surface value of things we lose the main value of it, hence that is why we place so much value on temporary things and hardly store up treasure on immortality.  When you don't place a value on something you will never hold it to high esteem. Value attracts, again, you are what you believe in and what you place so much value on.  The essence of life is the love of neighbour and of God, that is indeed the summary of the commandment,so easy to the ears but so hard to attain and live by,these are the real value and what immortality requires of us.  Set your priorities right and have good sense of value and proper judgement. Life isn't all about you, life is about your next door neighbour and the extent of fellowship you are willing to share.  What value do you place on the thi...

It has never ever recorded that life stopped because something bad happened or because someone died or because we are not able to attain the highest levels or meet ceray goals in life, no matter what happens, life must go on. Even in the midst of massive pains, people still eat, drink, go about their business and continue living like nothing ever happened. Life comes in phases, either a good one or bad yet life must happen and continue, nothing stops it, we are so wired to continue admist whatever phase we are undergoing. Some people's life will be near perfect while some will live in abject penury, pain and fears, yet life continues, no one no matter what phase you live with lives forever, we are all like a puff of smoke, seen now and the next second we are gone. What then should our lives we reconked with, what and why should we fight and struggle all through life, when we know we won't be here for eternity. We only live once and it's in our best interests to determine ho...

It has never ever been recorded that life stopped because something bad happened or because someone died or because we are not able to attain the highest levels or meet certain goals in life, no matter what happens, life must go on. Even in the midst of massive pains, people still eat, drink, go about their business and continue living like nothing ever happened. Life comes in phases, either a good one or bad one yet life must happen and continue, nothing stops it, we are so wired to continue admist whatever phase we are undergoing. Some people's life will be near perfect while some will live in abject penury, pain and fears, yet life continues, no one no matter what phase you live will live forever, we are all like a puff of smoke, seen now and the next second we are gone. What then should our lives be reconked with, what and why should we fight and struggle all through life, when we know we won't be here for eternity. We only live once and it's in our best interests to de...

  Having a daughter is one of the blessings you can receive from God that comes with an extra grace, infact you are considered massively blessed. When you have a girl child, you are blessed two times, when you have more you are blessed even more, please don't get me wrong, I am not saying having male children aren't blessing form God, they are too, but having a daughter is one of the bestest gifts you can ever recieve. A daugher is an embodiment of blessing, women tend to sacrifice a lot, they can go to any length to achieve their goals most especially when family is involved. Train your daughters to be role models in the society, someone once said "train a woman & save a nation" we see this effect in the family where these well trained women come from, such family hardly lacks because they have a rare gift living with them who impacts positively. The girl child is always willing to make a difference, share and gives in her all to make the others comfortable and ...

  Come let's reason, let's talk about something very real but we all rather keep quite about it and pretend like it never existed, because it is all about our personal gains.  We kill because we want something so desperately and for this reason we are careless about the fate of the victim, why are we so much in pursuit of the fall of another?  Again, because of our vain ambition, we can do anything humanly attainable to gain favour either by crook or otherwise , all in the name of personal gains.  We are seen to tarnish peoples image just because the world revolves around us and as such we careless about people's integrity and how they will feel after the ordeal has been done.  Everything dubious we indulge to grab all to ourselves and to outshine the other by every means possible.  We drag good name on account of evil and selfishness, not minding the pains and the projected circumstances we leave the fellow.  Why do we go about destroying people, seei...

  If we all know when we will die, I guess we will live more purposefully and make ammends on time. There are people who we know, lived with, and had personal contacts with that are no more today. These people wished they never died, some of them if they had the will certainly will live for more years than we can quantify now, many of them are wealthy, influencial, famous, religious, disciplined, stood for something and while some had so many vices they lived with. The funny thing about death is that, it will never tell when it is coming, but certainly it must come, it careless of what you are doing when it comes, or what ever project you are handling when it comes, or even who you are, when it comes, it strikes. Death is pain but could be gain on the other side, death is not fair here but is the only passage to attain immortality, death is what no one wished for but is as certain as life. Who know how he or she will die, who knows the time or day, who can say exactly what is expec...

  Life has each one of us facing one challenge, want or access to something in our journey, we either fight to get it, hope for a miracle or wait for it to either come or take our chances with it. Sometimes or the other we seek favour, we long for something or we find ourselves in dare need of it as life happens, most times we even compromise our believes to get what we so desire and that either makes us win or lose. Individually we have what motivates us, either propels us to be more patience or more more daring, we are seen to stand up for the truth or throw the reality in the mud for our personal gains, we can be seen to be witnesses or stand as a loner. It's either yiur faith or fate  life could stand between you and a given reality, sometimes we could be seen to hurt people in the process of life events, which we can either be remorseful and make ammends or chose to remain adamant and don't give a hoot. We live in a world where we compromise a lot to get what we want, eve...

  Sometimes absence conotes value or better still you may have to leave to be appreciated,which ever one it is depicts that value has something to do with scarcity. Take for instance when a particular product is not in circulation in a place, that product becomes unavailable and if eventually you find it, it the become so expensive to afford, there by making it's worth so valued and wanted. So also hen you are valued in a relationship or a place in life, you become much appreciated, so that if you create the vacuum of absence either by life issues or death, your absence is felt and mostly valued. Diamond is hardly seen everywhere but when you find it, the cost is also worth it because it is highly placed, almost everyone values it. How we chose to relate with people determines how they value us, the impacts we make and share also creates a lasting feeling on how we are placed, you become a white angel when you are being missed, longed for and cherished because of what you have depo...

Most often, we are all indulged with life issues and we forget how we treat others during the cause of our businesses with them. Life lessons has a way it treats us all, we all indulge in one activity or the other and during this time, we interact with people, who come our way and even some we don't have direct access also feel our presence. How would people refer to you when you are not around, what people say in your absence really tells how you are and the way you live or lived your life. It becomes angelic sweetness when people give a better account of how you impacted in their lives when you were around, the things you do and did, the encounters differs from people. In reality , many will not hesitate to express how bad you treated them and if you were truly a bad fellow, they will also say their opinions about you, but at this point, it is best we try to relate well with people, no matter our status in life, people take records alot and they are always watching, most especial...

  Morals, used to be the way we describe people in the past, the integrity and the atitude they wear, we make reference to them and most times call such people with high living standards as our role models. In our world today, our morals are no more visible, our atitude are vage and there is no integrity to show for it, we now live in a world where we are competing with a stranger, we fight back to back to display a show of insanity because of temporary things and things so fading. The virtues that are lasting are now neglected, the likes of peace, joy, forgiveness, fortitude, piety, wisdom, understanding, self control, love, faithfulness and the likes, we have rather replaced all these with hate and lots of vices so bad to mention. We easily pay evil for evil, we are ready to take revenge and forsake the place of forgiveness, we are quick to judge, backlash and even go ahead to persecute a fellow without fair hearing, all we want is the downfall of a person. Do you know we can be ...

Our world is so corrupt and filled with so many lies, we all jostle between finding the truth or living with the lies, even the most highly rated places and people are found to feed us with lots of decite and they make it look like the truth is served before us and we are left in no other way and we don't even have the strength to fight for what is right or seek the truth. Politics is one of the highest forms of decite today, you hardly can find a politician who is not corrupt, they are good story tellers with lies, they pretend like they are so real, yet they trample on our rights, hold the national cake to themselves and make us slaves in our one country, they care less about what happens to the masses, life is all about them, they make policies that favours them and give us peanuts for all our years of hardwork. Religious bodies are not left behind, they use the name of GOD to do profane things, they bring doctrines that supports what suits them, they are only particular about t...

Let's talk about second chances and why many don't fancy it and most especially when they are truly hurt.  We live a world filled with animosity, rage, anger, hates, gossip disappointments, betrayals and so many vices.  Many find it very difficult to apologise to others when there is a strife, fight or even quarrel, they rather go their separate ways then consider a second chance to the offender.  We all agree that some people are so unteachable, some are rather unyeilding and even so many are unbending, they are so strong hearted that they are careless and don't even consider the fact that some one is hurt, apologising and even trying to get a second chance.  Dear victim, we understand that is so hard to let go of the pains when it has happened and many would rather sake for revenge when been offended rather than to forgive and give a second chance to their offender.  Give that person a second chance, God keeps giving us so many chances unlimited to count, why ...

 Marriage is all about compromise, loving in marriage is not a confusing feeling, rather it comes with so many pains and understanding that sustains the marriage if it must work.  Making a wise decision is beyond a kind gesture when it comes to making sustianble decision in marriage and in the future of your spouse.  Love conqueres all, inspire one another, it brings out lots of spark to keep renewing your marriage, which should be out to teach others what marriage is all about. Come to terms with realities in your home, it's either roses or thrones, no marriage is without it's own wars, don't allow the down times overshadow the good memories, always keep it real. Shed your marriage form negative vibers, bad influences and people who are always out to see you both quarrel, fight and create chose amongst your home, often times these people are close to you and you can't imagine the damage they had inflicted in you, stop them before the disintegrate and scatter your home....

  In the world we live today, social media has so become part and parcle of our lives, we live in a world so close to each other, or what we call a global village, where we can relate with each other even without seeing, feeling or even touching each other to communicate, share and interact. The social media space has broken many jinx, linked up people of various race, tribe and color, it has strengthened bonds, inginite wars and created rooms of either a vice or virtue, depending on what niche you so desire and long in this space. In summary there are 3 types of people in this space, who contribute, showcase and act or react in ways I can categorise as ( Idiots, Tribalist and Citizens) some people will either fall in one or more or even the three depending on the circumstances of discussion or topic as the case may be. The idiots, these are people who are careless in their chats, comments and display, they are believed to say whatever they want to say, how they want to say it ...

 What you so hold on high esteem is what some other person considers as nothing. We struggle so much, work and hustle just too much and never have the time to socialise, go on vacation and even enjoy a fragment of all our labours. Life must take its turn with or without us, life  happen always, it's best we prepare for it. I have seen so many toil day and night and at the verge of their breakthrough they are gone, again there are many who worked so hard and when it is time for them to enjoy the fruits there in, affliction befalls them and some accident unpredecented arises and they wallow in pains rather. Again, there are some who never worked for it, neither did they try but life gave them all the blessings so far and all they do is enjoy and never know what it takes to be in need. It is always in our best interests to enjoy the gains there in, make the best us of our time, make merry the moments and extend a hand of fellowship to our neighbours, because the memories are what...

So many thoughts race through my mind when I hear some certain things that keeps me wondering and I ask questions unending and why it has to be so, there are some unnecessary talks and beliefs we push forward to create so many pains in the life of people, when situations occur and we hold on to them so keenly that we make a mountain out of a mole. In most culture when a young married man dies, despite the circumstances behind his death it is always said that his wife killed him, but when a young married woman dies, it is said that her husband lost his wife and he isn't accused of anything. When a young woman loses her husband, she is been accused of killing the husband and she is subjected to so many unimaginable laws and rules, she is not expected to step out of her house or engage in other activities until after the burial, when she comes back from the burial, she is expected to mourn the husband for months and some a year under so many conditions. I just wonder why they accu...

  Whenever I hear this statement in vanacular language" Life no balance " it gets me into so many moody emotions and my thoughts races in so many angles. Life is actually not balanced and here are so many scenarios, you can also agree with me: A certain man has so many children but had no tangible resources to take good care of them, he practically struggles to take care of himself let alone his large family, despite his predicament, you hear so many strange things happening in his life or that of his family, it's either he hear of a disease or that an unfortunate incident occurred and you only but wished things were better with him. On the other hand, there comes a young man who is well to do, has all assets and is comfortable to grace and bless lots of people under his domain but when you look through his eyes you either see he is not happy or has somethings missing to complete his generosity, take for instance, he might not have children of his own or that he is incapa...

 Often times we are blinded by our thoughts, we forget so easily and we fail to analyse why we reacted so badly to people, we are lured by our emotions and we are careless about how people feel and assume they are fine after an argument, a confrontation or even a fight. Life lessons are so numerous to remember, some are so valid that we hold on to our beliefs and others we want justice and for some we just let it go, because we don't have the strength to continue.  People are wired to react differently, no two people can act the same way when a situation confronts them, but it is best to be totally human when circumstances of intentions, mistakes, accidents and unforseen circumstance happens, rather than just saying sorry and live like nothing happened, it is best we try not to allow such happen.  Many people if given the chance to express their inner most thoughts, will still tell of the pains they are currently undergoing, many have failed to heal, some are living in th...

 Hello, I will be home soon, please make my food ready, I will be with you shortly, and the call ends. She waits endlessly and he isn't home to eat the food and all she hears is that he is no more.  Wished we can control the affairs of the next second, truly tomorrow is promised, the next second isn't guaranteed and life is not certain. All seems like a mirage, we wake up to lots of questions and wonders as to how and why it happened, who can really tell, how do we explain and trust the details we have no clue to, the episode seem so unclear, yet the reality sets before us and we left to wail in pain and remain silent like the grave yard. One thing is certain, we all don't like that phase to happen but it always happens, life comes with so many uncertainties, tomorrow can't guarantee anything.  They start a project, anticipating to complete, they build a mansion hoping to live in, they buy a property to enjoy, they spend all their saving on training a child and hoping t...

 I saw a post where someone made a comment and said "try and sit at the other side and see how painful it is when you talk down on people. It is so sad and never a welcoming situation when you feel you are always better of, you don't have an iota of what people go through and you just imagine or assume somethings can never happen to you.  Sincerely, no one ever wishes for anything wrong or bad to happen to them but again, life always happens, a minute we merry the next second we are in pains, we find answers to our pligths and again we just wonder and weary why and how it all happened. Life, isn't for us to determine or control rather we can only impact on our best possible ways and give it our all and even most times it is never enough, we cannot steer the affairs of life.  Don't dare laugh or merry at any one's pains  because you feel you are better of, don't mock them because you are not in their positions, don't talk down on them, don't ignore them ...

 This indeed is my first write up in a long while after my break and of course I can record a year like 2024, hmm, the outlook I have for 2024 is more important to me than another other thing. Sometimes, life can be so uncertain that you wonder if there was any good thing that truly happens in a world full and filled with so much distractions and negativity and challenges.  Many a time there are many things we never wished for nor pray for, yet life happens and no matter how good or right you can be, there are things you can't ever slove, make sure you have peace on your inside to forge ahead.  We are all individuals with flaws, none is ever perfect, never kill that human part of your self, come out of it and be a better person, don't lose your humanity, remember to be kind and patient with your self and the next person around you.  So many people are gone, so many are bedridden, so many are involved in so many circumstances they never can fathom how it started and h...