WE DATED, COURTED BUT WE ARE GETTING A DIVORCE

Often times we forget the fact that when we say "'i do' ' we are simply saying to out partner that we are taking care and responsibility of them.

Marriage goes beyond what we envisage it to mean.

Two good people can date, court and even marry but have a bad relationship, and that why we hear of a lot of unassuming issues in marital affairs.

The fact that you courted for years doesn't mean you can't divorce, most especially when you have endured beyond your limit.

In this marriage relationships, its better not to expect any thing from your partner, keep an open heart and work on whatever makes you happy.

As the year goes by, you and your partner must change in one aspect or the other and this also brings about lots of different attitudes and approach towards your expectation.

It takes massive and excess grace to stay married and remain faithful admits all trials.

Ignoring the ills of your partner, loving hard and committing him or her to God is the best way to deal with untold pain you can't explain to anyone but God.

So many are the challenges and unforseen situations that comes up in marriage, its always better to be ready and take them up dully to aviod been put on limelight over marital issues.

People would always talk, see, make suggestions and observations in your marriage, its left for you to either disclose your pain and gains to them or manage them without them.

When people you look up to seperate or divorce, don't judge anyone of them, you probably don't know what each one has endured over a period of time.

Like a yeilding piont and elastic limit we all can  stretch to a piont of breaking and there is nothing anyone can do about that, it simply means we can't bear it anymore.

Open your eyes to the realities of what you intend to go into, be ready to take up all challenges and don't be allowed to be pushed by all and sundry.

Marriage is work, if you are not ready for this job don't send in your application, you eventually would be sacked without pay.

But to them who accept this job, the get a reward God alone knows how best to give, they will build godly children and make a better society.

While you date and court, don't forget to ask yourself this question, am I truly ready to take this job?

The signs are always there,don't be beclouded by love, pressure, money, influence, fame, power, age, family, education, etc.

It's better not to start a thing you don't intend to finish, if you must be the best you can be in there.

Vivsravine speaks