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Discuss every and everything with your partner before marriage.  When I mean discuss every thing I mean pratically every thing, except the things you forgot to mention, but learn to discuss things like: *Inlaws and relatives  *Sex and child bearing  *Family and foes  *Habits and weakness  * All forms of challenges and circumstances *Children upbringing  *Finances and home management  *Education and business skills  *Biological, social, physical, emotional  *Health and believes *Culture and traditionally *Religion and personal orientation  *The past and future  *Others, etc As a woman recall that : Every king needs an Orator, encourage him , have his back, always be your husband's  fan ,bless him and pray for him. Being a wife entails more than having a husband. Dear wify, your father is your first boyfriend ,but not your last love (ur hubby)stop sharing marital issues with him. Be the first to forgive, it breaks many unseen bou...

If marriage was all about characters, good values, beauty and brains.  Then, the likes of some prostitute won't ever marry.  The most ugly ones won't near marriage..  The handicapped ones too won't marry.  Many uneducated ones, won't smell marriage Marriage is about he who finds a good thing( na only am know what is good in the person he finds) Marriage is about being a good thing for him (either now or for life)  Then when the above happens in quote marriage sets Else I still wonder why,  Why is there cheating In the marriage after all their good characters? Why is there pretence in the marriage even with their good values? (the good thing) Why is there so much animosity in the marriage with all their" I checked well before I married "'?  Why do they divorce and separate after all the checks of having a good character.? Shior for una......it takes only grace to have a good marriage.  Marriage is not about character traites you know ....if u are b...

Don't be deceived by the lights, these are dark times. Be careful! things are not what they seems to be!! Do not regard every students with lab-coat as medical students some are biology students going for their biology practicals!!! You may think you're heading to Awada only for you to find yourself at Okpoko... May the apple of ur eyes never make you cry, when things like this happens, it  will look like what I ordered versus what I got, sweet to taste painful to behold, looks like a double..edged sword,then your choices becomes One of its kind a day, scares the doctor away, the other of its kind, scares diseases away. Behind every victory there is a tough battle, behind my smiles I hide all my pains. Your beauty radiates like a fresh apple yet untouched but the inner beauty lies a bunch of onion which when slices!!it brings nothing but memories of sadness and tears. Beautiful as it looks.. Very attractive as it Appears.. Appeared delicious and attractive Tempted ...

Ladies too, also have their worries; when it comes to marriage with already made men, one of the reasons is that many of them are highly promiscuous, no true woman wants to share her man with another, these men are exposed and attracted to lots of women, because of their fame and wealth, it only takes the grace of God, self discipline and guts to find a wealthy man without flicks of ladies to play with. It's truly a big concern to women who eventually marry them.  Attention is far from women who marry wealthy men, today he is in the south, tomorrow he is in the east and this also makes the woman helpless and lonely, many of these men feel all the woman wants is money money money. No we want our man and his time and attention, we crave to hold him and lay on his chest doing nothing, that's the best feeling so far, we love to bond and share all with our man and when this is lacking, you find out that her attention becomes divided too.  Our society today must be questioned, many ...

With the powers vested in me as the Ahudiya 1 of Olugbaje fake people, the asa nwa of my kingdom, I propose the following laws on marriage as the high rate of divorce and marital brutality happening in our society is on the high side therefore the following laws must be adhered to. ... Make sure you know why you are going into marriage ... After marriage before you have the right to divorce your husband or wife will take another 25 years from the time of your wedding and during this time, you will not engage in any sexual intercourse and you won't be allowed to remarry.  . ... In the case of violence and diabolic activities, any of the partner that indulges will be kept in isolation for 5 years with hard labour. ....Cheating must be treated with upmost regard, if you dare cheat  your partner, the law says you will be castrated, Simple ..... Because of the scared rites concerning marriage both people must adhere to these laws, teach their children the laws and the import...

We live in a world full of fears Everyone is selfish in one way or the other Yet we can still make a different Come to think of it.. Life should be celebrated always Because alot happens in our world today Do u know many who wish to be in your place Do you know many envy you without your knowing Do you know many have gone with nothing Challenges are part of our lives, Infact problems comes so we can solve them Be thankful, your case is still better Chose life.. Don't let any one or thing make you feel less.. Don't listen to rubbish nothings from ingrate ,allow negetive energies go down the drain Be hopeful Be thankful Be ready Don't allow the pain of this day overcome you and subject you to faustration, chose to celebrate life no matter what happens to you. The universe abhors pain The earth loves celebrations So you have to do same Impact lives positively Help souls as much as you can Be remembered for something good Shun all forms of injustice Do...

U are married am single.... Its not the visa to heaven... U have kids and I don't have...again that doesn't mean you are responsible and accountable... U have a car and I don't even own a bicycle.. well our destinies aren't the same.. U are so wealthy and am on my small corner, all that we all have and own today is temporal... U are in a better position than I am, let me remind you that some people even envy me too.. U are powerful, famous and connected, hey am not but the goodnews is I have still got my life..thank God U are high and am low..sister humility pays off. . U are there and am here..time sorts things bro.. I am me and you are you, am very contended with where, what and how things will turn out,. Whatever we are today is as a result of influence, that I don't have your kind of influence does not make me less a person. . DONT RUN MY RACE..RUN YOURS BUT REMEMBER DONT USE: MARRIAGE CHILDREN WEALTH HEALTH Against any one or shine on it , there is a God who an...

About the other day.  I was in this gathering, anticipated and very expectant about the event of the day and most especially, I had always wanted to hear from this great speaker. Seated like every other guest and was discussing with some few ladies in the group where I belonged.. Not knowing I was been monitored and listened to When the event started, the main speaker walked up to me.. Gave me the mic and asked me to talk about the same topic I discussed some few minutes ago. Wow.. "I  can't fall my hand na".. Na so your sister. Carry microphone  .. Approached the podium, walked the tyra banks waka reach stage with plenty charisma. Oya o.. I started.. As all the eyes of those ladies and gents wan make I fall.. Me.. I kajad o.. I no send them, I was given a 5 minutes speech.. To talk about the rigth of women in our modern day. world. IF I start here .. This page go break o.. My five minutes elaspe, the speaker told me to carry on. I spoke and ended my speech with thi...

If you have been to the mortuary before you will understand better why you should let things go and don't hold fuss with anyone in life. And if you have never been to a mortuary before you don't need to go there to understand my piont of view i will help you understand better, those people who are in the morgue now were once like you and I but now they are lifeless. . Take a short trip, go to you tube, make a research on how the morgue looks like, you will feed your eyes better. Back to the piont of this write up, you will agree with me that nothing in life last forever no matter what, we will one day be somewhere else but not on the surface of this earth, why then do we hold grudge, why do we figth over things, back stab and even kill a fellow, why so much hate and perpetual animosity with your fellow being.. We need to learn a lesson from those who are currently in the morgue now many wished they had another chance to make things rigth, many wished they forgave, many wis...

Some thoughts and its realities.. Many pretty ladies are not in a serious relationship, let me remind you, many of them don't have any man in their lives, because a lot of people assume they have flock of men they roll with because they are beautiful. Our assumptions makes a lot of people keep away form them, because they feel they are highly promiscuous, whereas most of them just want to be happy with the man of their dreams, please, if you like them, ask questions when you are in doubt, the ones who like you enough will reciprocate your likeness, don't assume about them, it hurts. More so, some rich young men are assumed to have lots of  ladies at their becks, because they have money... So sad, why do we ever reason this way and draw conclusion about people? many of them don't have a real woman to call their's, certainly, they might have lots of woman flocking around them but that's not enough reason to conclude they have women in series. Assumptions are trul...

If you are not in his future they can't function in your life.  If they want you in their future they will do whatsoever it takes to keep you there.  You see those ones who don't want you in their future, they are full of laws, full of excuses and most annoyingly they are habitual time wasters They will never lift a finger to help you no matter how good or urgent it could be, the ghosts always expect you to check up on them and give them your time, selfish beings.  What I wonder about men and women who indulge in this attitude is that, on the long run they will eventually make big mistakes and live the rest of their lives in absolute regrets and are always looking for who to talk to. Open your eyes to see, the signs are always there, they don't pretend, they act their real self because they simply know what they are doing with you.. They are always quick to take sides and act like all is well between you two but funny how these things play out.. They very moment t...

When you start hearing things like... He is 35 and he has a family .. She is 25 and a billionaire..  He just aquired a mansion on the island She is famous on asset management in her field and she is just 29 He owns kelox industries at 31 She owns fleet of companies in Abudabi My dear they are all good but dont allow anyone put you to pressure Aviod motivational speakers who knows nothing about your past and the lives of those they use as examples Many even used hush puppy as an example.. Now we all know the story, sadly many lost their way. Dont be moved by their rants, follow your path If you are determined and smart plus God's grace you wil reach your goals Many of these people so mentioned have their humble beginnings,  Many have their down times,  Many inherited from family,  Many did dubious stuff to get there,  Don't be lured by the ways of men and lose track in worry and pressure.  Dont worry or hate your self in regrets The pains will last longer an...

What is holding you from achieving your goals Was happening, why are the kids not coming Why are you not married till now. Are you sure you have not damaged your womb You need to go home, your village people are on your case.  Your mates are building houses and buying new cars and owning sweet asset. Your family history is really bad and very bad Why haven't you gotten a breakthrough with all your church and good character. You will agree with me that the list is endless and mostly annoying, can't we just learn to mind your business and let people be for goodness sake. Learn to mind your business in the life of people, no matter who they are to you, the best you could do for them is to pray for them, if you truly care. Better still find solutions to their problems and involve them when necessary and they only time you are permitted to talk to someone about their probelm is when you have answers to their probelm , correct them in love and don't judge them. Stop castigating p...

Love is beautiful when you are with the right person, may God provide someone who will play a Love game with you wholeheartedly..  Actually, when you find people who are truly in love you automatically become jealous of them , love is sweet when you have the rib of your heart ,all my prayer for every single ladies and men in life is that God give us the right choice in the right time🙏 Love is sweet when u marry your friend, the vibe is electrifying, makes you long to have a sincere playmate, never indulge with someone you can't be free with, someone you can't mess with and joke crazy with, you will be sad for life.  The smiles are endless, I repeat, love is beautiful when you are with the right person, above all maturity and understanding matters most, which reflects in your relationship.  😘🤣Love is beautiful when you're with the right person,, permit me to buttress this fact, may God bless us all with our heart desires, that one person who will love and cherish you...

When its time your opinion won't matter When it's time , it will just happen When its time, you either rejoice or cry When its time, the universe unfolds its powers When its time you will accept the unforseen and take your place. When its time you won't have to fight for a spot How blessed am I to have this smile bestowed on me by the one who loves me. There are somethings that should be left alone, there somethings you can't go back to.because you let them slip away. My smile is very contagious it heals a pain so hurting., life happens to us after all.  The conversation played out a million times in my head oh I feel like taking a booze, I lost it all with the string I had left,but I deserve better. Legally, am an adult I have it all together, what happened to me, am better off without it,  shame on me, I must have the capacity to forgive, profoundly from zero to hero I am....  I got the strength to forgive and move forward. I helped him process the news, i will be ...

Life is short, even if we live to a 100 Life is love, if we find someone who makes us special. Money is good but a sincere heart is better of,  The sincerity becomes sweeter if love lives there.  If he or she makes you comfortable.  If they make you forget your past pains  If they are always there for you  If they make the worst pains, feels like nothing.  If they extend their all to you, keep them.  In this journey called relationships, make sure you find some one who makes the dark clouds lighter.. Many a time, we all have our stories to it, but its worth the while to elope in love and get drunk in the of ecstacy.  Simply, be hopelessly romantic.  Crave for a sweetness rush.  Deepen and lossen your childishness Pamper yourself with all the fragility there in If they make you feel wonderful If they love you without boarders If they lift up the strangest figths If they make you smile always If they fight your worst fears If they lose the...

God help this generation,the pretence and deceits is much, check and test all spirit he says. If want to stay safe in this generation...don't expect too much from people and always be ready for the unexpected. This was the conversation I had with a friend, who was sharing with me the pains he has to undergo and the lessons he learnt from a horrible relationship. His story..... I met Anita at a function, where we sat at the same table at the party, we shared the same views and somehow we exchanged numbers, later we became friends and that was how we decided to take the friendship to the next level for 3 years. She was jobless as at the time of our relationship, I made sure I established her in a business and set her up, so that when I get married to her she won't start afresh, but I noticed that she was free with me only when money is involved and other times, she was very hostile, i just felt she will change when she becomes mine fully. The same year I asked her to marry me, sh...

I met him online and we started dating, for over a year we couldn't see but we were still loving up, he calls me on video and we are glued like magnet, so,on one of my vacations from school I decided to go see him in Abuja from owerri. My flight was cozy and I arrives Abuja at few minutes past eigth that evening, I called him to tell him I was at the airport, he told me he was on his way,  I waited for another hour. Now, its past nine, I was getting furious, my phone will soon go off, I don't know anyone here, so I prayed he shows up. Few minutes to 10 he showed up, I wasn't excited to see him, all I wanted was to get into the car and go home, he tried hugging me but shrouded away, he collected my bag and walked me to the car. Oh, my world, little did I know he was married, his wife was waiting rigth in front of the car with two hefty men,  well i don't know what was going on,  but i tried to maintain my cool. Give me the car keys and get into the car she ordered him, e...

Often times we hear things like I cant cope with her, she has a very bad past, Oh, she hide a lot of things from me and now I know, I can't tolerate that. My dear, that guy is a whole lots of episodes, his escapades are so much that I can't deal with it, he is even a cultist, I just found out, infact he has two kids with two different women, what's more, I heard he was an ex convict. Every one you meet in life has a past, either good or bad, but we are so attracted to the bad past and find it so difficult to let go of it. Dear lady and guy, its highly advisable to let your partner know about your past, if they find you worth enough, they will do everything within there reach to be in your life.. The sad truth be told, no one person is perfect 👌, yes we might not have a bad past but we defiantly have a past, but our now is what defines us, don't dwell in your negetive past and make the life of your partner unbearable. Share all that is to know with your partner, they wi...

My bros My brother My sis. My sister My family friend Good guy Good woman Hmm..when you expect sweet names and he or she calls you such names listed above forget it you are just what it is. '' But you are my bros naa''.. I like you so much, God bless you for always being there for me, I appreciate you, but wait how is your babe? Haaa!!! The shock will be hard for you to fathom, so she means to say ''I am just a friend to her' ' no wonder she keeps calling me bros and brother. When we truly love someone,we easily give them a pet name, it just happens naturally and when you get a pet name from someone you don't love or you don't see in your future, it simply irritates you. The signs are very clear, Are you confused about your friendship with her? Does she call you names like bros, brother and my family friend and just a colleague? When you call her pet names, does she react rashly and never acknowledges it? Do you feel irritated whe...

The rich has road they ply, the road is specially made for them, if you are not in their standard you can't pass through that road. The rich has a special place they gather, if you are not in that class you can't be amongst them. Oh, the rich has a special kind of food they eat, special kind of car they ride and special kind of house they live, if you are not in their class, you can't be with them. Let me remind you, the rich has a spacial place in the heart of men, they are only attracted to Kings, Lords, presidents, influencers and people of caliber, if you are not any of these, you can't see them nor even talk to them. The rich have a mansion in space, they have a spot on the plane its called a first class or private jet, they live on the waters and enjoy all the serenity of the yacht and even secured a place somewhere on earth , you can only do so if you can afford to be like them. Finally, let me add this too, the rich can only be friends with you, if you share the...

These are personal experiences I have learnt and more so happened before my very before and this happens especially to single ladies mostly.  Don't ever go and live with any married couple most especially if either of them are not family related to you. Most times it could be work or even friendship purpose or a sort of recommendation but for what soever reasons don't, I repeat don't ever live with them, if you want to know peace and value whatever you have with them. TO THE MAN Many a time because you are not family related its always assumed the man will be attracted to you and even if he is a monk in marriage, the wife won't be at ease and again family and friends will instigate a worrisome look in her, for allowing a single woman live with them, its better you come visit them and leave than to live with them. Another bit to these, it could be also that the man is the unfaithful type of husband too, this also puts you on the edge, he could sart threatening your life ...

Many are busy chasing stars that are far away from them while they trample upon the diamonds under their feet, but alas they will find those diamonds unaccessible when some other persons buys the ground they trampled on and they will be left with stones to manage for the rest of their lives. These are the exemples of taking for granted the blessings within your reach and then chase on what is not accessible to you. You want the highs and glories, then tomorrow you will start complaining about making a mistake and managing your regrets. We are carried away by vain glory, the moods and the glamour, all because we want to be reckoned with at the detriment of our future. You take the diamonds for granted because they are below you and you feel you can always access them, while you are busy looking for a ladder and possibly a jet to reach to the stars. Take a hold about your future, the stars are good too but can you tell yourself the truth, do you know that diamonds are worth more than th...

The Bea says, He must be handsome and God fearing Infact he must be this tall and blessed, That he is rich is an understatement, he must be very rich. He must be a graduate and also a business man.  He must have at least seven streams of income. He must be from my place, a good Christian and he must have a good reputation. He must not smoke and womaniser, he must be very humble and tough at the same time. He must be ready to understand me when I wink, he must listen to me always and he must consult me before doing anything. He must be a good  listener, good talker and very caring and loving. He must have six packs, very athletic and sexy, a good dresser and romantic to the core. He must know how to cook too, he must be very intelligent and versatile, he must an angel helping me in doing things. The Boo says,  Before I marry her she must possess the following qualities:  She must be slim and very handy. Infact I love them glass shape.  She must be very beautiful ...

Don't take her love for granted She can endure all but the very moment her hearts can't bear it anymore.. She is done with you  Don't take her for granted when you cheat and she isn't fighting... She is avoiding a confrontation and embarrassment, trust me she knows what she is doing.  When you insult and abuse her and she holds forth her tears because she loves you and she is scared to loss you to another, again she knows what she is doing.  Her love for you keeps her form not bursting the anger on you, but when she keeps quite, she is indeed dangerous.. Don't dare.  A woman who truly loves you will guide you, protect you and will be very jealous, she upholds her asset and won't let go of you even when you misbehave.  Hmmm but when she can't take it any more,she becomes a venom, she uses can blood to make vow, she stripes to lay a curse, she can do anything, I mean anything to rage a war and she will sacrifice to see you suffer.  Don't hurt her when you ...

Leave all to God Life has a way of forcing its all to us.  Don't depend on anyone to push you Depression is real. Don't wait to pushed.  In life there is always a problem to slove There is always a need to attend to.  There is always a story There is always a life There is s always a pain There is always a worry But stay strong, the problems can't kill you Recognise if it's a blessing in disguise Or a lesson to better you Ope. your eyes to see You alone knows better The glory of the present day is vain The reality of tomorrow sets before our minds You better learn how to push yourself up Dont ever wait to be pushed No one will do that for you Go the mile to be better But dont over stretch to folly Be reassured that the universe sees The elements listens Your faith obeys your will And God honours his words You are an amazing being Don't be worked up by fear Be encouraged and live for the future Gain momentum, u are a rare gem Someone needs to hear this U are the best...

Everyone claims to be single and no one is in a relationship, boom, the next things U see will be  wedding bells.. What does that tell u..????  No one is waiting for anyone anymore.. Availability is the way now, then you work your way out in the Union when you finally settle down.  What I realised is that they all could be speaking to a number of persons at the same time waiting for who will be available tomorrow but the proposed wait cuts off immediately an available person shows forth... This relationship thing can be funny.. Oh, I have been with him for years and he isn't saying anything about our future. I have a lot of people asking me for my hand in marriage but because I love him and I know him I rather wait for him but since he isn't making any move, I allowed myself.  He has done so much for me, its hard to let him go and I feel pity leaving him, but my dear I have my life to live, I am not getting any younger. She is too full of herself and she is not ready...

Going by the so many things happening in our world , you tend to ask questions unending and hoping to get immediate answers that you can't find anywhere soonest and this calls to mind to help us recall the mereness of life.. What is more to life , when we keep malice , hold a grudge and find it even hardest to forgive a fellow, yea, it could be the hardest of things to do, but hey, recall the great pain of life ''DEATH'' when you wont see the fellow any more and won't even be able to communicate and tell the fellow the ''painfullest'' things you harbored in mind to say, why not make amends now.. What is more to life, when all we work for, live for and brag for will one day be left alone and assumed they were never there, when we finally leave, in fact it looks as if we never came this way, really won't it be nice, we make amends and allow every thing to go its way while we are still here. What is more to life when we hustle, crave, indulge in...