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In your embrace I remain comforted. In your warmth I am consoled. In your arms am protected.  In your world  I dwell with pride.                        There is no better place I so wished to remain, Oh, the serenity is all for me, knowing to the fact that peace surpasses all the world gives.                                     Holding on to a future so brigth and great, makes me delighted that you came my way, I longed for a kiss, I just want to remain in this domain of sincerity and careless of the world within.            Just so imperfect, so rustic yet he keeps my heart racing, he fans my world and makes me glued to the reality that he is human too.        Then I realised how blessed I am, am very thankful, eventually I got a best influence, whom isn't any...

  If there is anything less than making your partner happier then you don't need to be in that relationship. You would succeed in hurting yourself and then adding sore to your pain you are in already. Any relationship worth having won't be easy to come by but defiantly those who really want to be in your life would always be there for you Forcing your way through any relationship isn't the best approach,, you would beg till the very end and be faustrated out eventually. Its better to have a reciprocated relationship,, its said to be healthy and acceptable, you might not get all you want but at least you are contended and happy. A one sided relationships is very unhealthy and causes lots of pains and regrets,  be bold enough to walk out, stay abreast and be hopeful. Sincerely, its better to remain single and healthy than to he in a toxic relationship and gloomy, life is short to cut terms with what it should have been. Respect yourself enough to leave honourably, don...

  A life worth living is a life of service, its indeed a life of purpose. I am enough to step on top of the world, life is indeed fragile and very certain, so make it a life of purpose.  Like leaves shocked within the trees, so close but yet so far and maybe you try again to reach beyond your goals.  A life without purpose lacks vision and when lives without vision definatly hebor she has no misson in life.  The sky isn't the limit, its not even the stepping stone rather its just part of the experience you must go thorough to be extraordinary in life's pursuit. I decided to change perceptions, nothing stops me, the pains isn't nothing compared to the joy I hope to be and enjoy. Many ran, others laughed, a few stayed yet never got involved but here I am going through my darkness with no ligth in view. Collectively I wanted them to jion me and make a difference, utilising what we have but selfishness stole the other of the day. The journey wasn't fair, yet so insignifi...

In marriage there are lots of expectation most especially either from our partners or extended family members and even friends but truthfully you owe nobody anything. Its expected that you manage your home, keep your secrets intact and work together as a team if you must succeed in marriage. You both should keep your home in a good rapport, you owe  him nothing or owe her nothing but you both owe each other yourselves. Why are you actually married? Are you married for love, or because you want to build together? Are you marrying because he or she was recommended to you? There are so many reason why, but nonetheless  find out why you did. There are lots of relating issues why marriage are either booming or discarded, it's more on expectations either from one partner or family relations. Pride, poverty, orientation, cultural background, upbringing, orientation, family roots and societal abnormalies are some issues that affects marriage drastically and increases levels of e...

  We learn as the journey goes and from people's experiences yet you don't compare yours with others. It starts with beautiful moments, so unending but when the phase of turbulence comes you face it like your lives depends on it. The crux of marriage is sacrifice, tolerance, commitment and uncertainties, be ready to face the fears, worries and anxieties that comes with it Marriage they say is for better for worse, in sickness and in health, but marriage is more beyond feelings, as Iove as its foundation yet there is more to it than we see around today . The realities are always there, the challenges never hides and the joy is mostly exposed if its there, yet marriage could form you to be a better person or worse. Every marriage has its own unique benefits of wars, yet its very paramount you treat yours with all sence of respect, mutual love and tolerance, the very moment when you wished your marriage is like some others person's own, then you enter into the realm of u...

We all engage into one relationship or the other most especially direct or indirectly amd which is so inevitable to aviod. Personally, I love the flow of time, it helps us achieve the following interns of human relationship. It enables you put people in check. In so many ways, it helps you determines the frigidity of their minds. It assists you to chose who is worth staying or leaving Helps you foster or disintegrate rapport in all areas with human relationships. It helps you foresee and also deduce the acidity or sweetness in them It enables you know who are real,who is fake , who is true and untrue Finally, it helps you take a stand and also standout if necessary Its always adviced that we give in a lot of time while interacting or dealing with people, no matter the type of relationship we keep with them. In doing so, it enables us to learn how to treat them, tolerate them and even build stronger bonds or let them go if they are not impacting your lives. Make sure you allo...

  There are some traits that shows you have low self esteem when you exhibit these attitudes. . Anytime you maltreat other people who are either below you or even above you, then it could be said that you have a low esteem , its expected that we learn how to treat others better and nicely, so that we can get good recommendation from them. Whenever you fail to use these basic languages (please, thank you and sorry) to seek, appeal and relate to the people around you than you really have a very low self esteem and because you fail to imply them you would generally have issues with people you come in contact with. You wonder why many people hate others, is simply because they don't love themselves and when you don't love yourself, you have a low esteem, which in turns relates with how you treat others around you. Fault finders are amongst those with low self esteem, they are never pleasing, never do wells and they are so quick to cajole, instigate, bully, and insult people at...

We smile with our face glowing while the inner being settled in misery, we fake it, just to look all good but down in our hearts pain untold The pain is unbearable but I still try to take the smile don't judge what you don't know, truly am scared of the unknown  Behind the beautiful and smiling face, there's always and untold story of pain, agony, anguish and a shattered heart. You came to me promising me the world  I gave you my heart and soul  but you battered it all You said you'll stay beside me always  But here I am alone in the stor, alone and lonely in a world full of uncertainties.  Covered with a mask of smile, a face with the reality of my mere self, day and night I weep, living a life full of pain and anguish.  I can't hide forever how I feel,  I can't continue to live in pain,  The fake smile can't continue, where is the liberation, save me I need help, an agonizing it is,with pain of the past  This is what some of us are going th...

A selfish person only thinks of himself and in doing that, he or she feels temporary joy , but in most cases the end result is emptiness and pain. You can end up packing all the food in the buffet at the  panic  and even at home, glutinous approach is never the best, eat and remain for others, life isn't just about you alone. Today , try as much as you can to consider others and share with them the good things of life that come to your way. Let it go round and you will be much happy and satisfied in the end. You take what belongs to everyone, You are satisfied when you loot treasures You have everything yet you keep wanting more You are always quick to collect all and never share your asset with others Immerse all you want, collect all you can, gather all the proceeds of life, acquire untold wealth and enjoy life to the full even at yhe detriments of others but recall that they are all passing. Most selfish and greedy people are mostly low self esteemed personality, ...

No one intentionally chooses to face challenges and difficulties in life. However, no matter who we are, difficulties and challenges will always come our way at certain points in our lives. The choices we make could also play a part in what comes to us. Therefore, we should try to help one another to cope in times of difficulty. What you suffer may be different from what I suffer, but solidarity could be of immense help in overcoming our pain and sorrow. Do not stand aloof when you see others suffering, try to do something to help and God will be happy with you. It only takes the will and determination to help someone and you can really do something to help if you choose to. May God open the eyes of our mind to see that pain and suffering of others... Amen That life is good to you should not make you insensitive to other people's pligth,so many people are really suffering and please don't be the headache they have to go through. Switch positions before you feel you are...

The word "desperation" comes in various sceneries in life's challenges and pursuits. Desperation can be aligned in marriage  most especially when someone has waited for long to get married but due to life's situation he or she becomes too anxious to get married, such people then becomes desperate, as whosoever comes their way at that time becomes their partner and because they didn't take out time to discuss and find out more about their partners they fall into big probelms in marriage. Money, they say is the root of all evil, yet every one can't do without money, the piont is that when you allow money control you then you become desperate to get money by all means and when you indulge you get yourself in bigger trouble. Having a well paying job is good but don't allow faustration and desperation ruin you, when you don't have a job you become stressed and that could shortens your life span, learn to take this to heart, that what ever you can't ...

  Okonjo recently became the first woman to be president and director of world trade Centre and she was duly applauded for her Hardworking efforts, yet there is also a woman who isn't known, who lives in the rural areas and who functions in her own capacity. The debate as to why she was highy rated was because she is exposed and influencing and has the rigth platforms to explore, again there is also a fellow who never has such opportunity and we fail to celebrate them too. Each and every one of us has our strength, and weaknesses, we have limits and heights, the fact is doing what you know how to in your best interest and capacity. We all don't need to be Okonjo before we cab attain success, rather where ever you function, do so with almost strength and zeal, make your passion speak for you and while you do so, don't be limited in expanding your reach. People would apprise you in whatever capacity you chose to function, don't be dismayed because you don't find ...

Working miracles, that what mothers are most especially the very responsible ones. You will agree with me that they are the heart beats of the home and without her there seems to be no heartthrob. Like the hearts connects to atries and veins, so our mother's are connected to everything that concerns us. She can take the place and role of all others but whose place no one can take, so iireplaceable, no matter how much you try. There is no role in life as essential as that of motherhood and the inevitable challenges that comes with it. A man truly loves his sweet heart the most, his wife his best but his mother the longest in all outward accountability. Heard life doesn't come with a manual, rather it came with the best gift, mother. Even though God could be everywhere but he fashioned mothers to see that life is a bit easier. The influence of the character of a mother affects the lives of the children and even beyond. Someday soon, we will work and worship our mother...

  I was in a bus heading north when I broaded with a married woman in her late fifties who sat next to me. We got talking and shared life issues, she was from my clan and that gave her ample reasons to open up to me on matters that concerns marriage and relationships. While we chatted she made it very vital pionts I won't fail to share, has started by saying there is this symbol that notifys that one is married which happens to be the wedding ring. The wedding ring can't be outgrown no matter how old you become in marriage, no matter your status and position, marriage is truly humbling. She went further to say that she has been married for 23 years and still counting, even though she isn't wearing her ring anymore because she finger got bigger than the ring but she narrated why one can't outgrow marital symbol and what it entails and stands for. The wedding ring signifies being married and staying married, the boundless bond that binds couples, the power that remi...

  There are one million and more reasons a lot of people fear to get married and even stay married Change: many people chnage after marriage which is given but most times they change so negatively that it becomes impossible for their partners to cope, hence they find it difficult to stay married. Unknown:definatly marriage comes with so many unknown factors that are inevitable to handle, hence many can't cope with the unforseens, there by they stay away from marriage. Pressure:marriage comes with lots of pressure and most times it could be related to an individual or collectively, handling it varies from people, but those who can't are subjected to leaving their marriages. Past,:we all have a past to deal with, but bringing our past into our present deters alot from us, many haven't left their past and it haa stopped them from staying married or getting married at all. Responsibilities: we all know that marriage comes with lots of responsibilities, saying I do means y...

On my way home, I came to the park to board a bus home, I asked the lady in front of the driver's seat if I could seat with her so we can ride together, she obliged. At the point of entrance I noticed she was speaking to someone who was standing by the window side. Almost immediately my phone rang and I picked my call while she continued with the guy, then when I dropped my call, she asked me what I wanted as a drink under the hot sun . I was amazed and enquired why the sudden gesture from the both of them, but mostly from the lady who asked me what I wanted. Upon the revelation, I was told that the man was the bus money collector for the park, he and the lady placed a bet that the bus will get filled in 10 minutes b ut the lady said it would be more than that, so whosoever won the bet would buy drink for the other. So since the lady won, she offered me a drink which the guy paid for the both of us and also paid for our a transportation fare. We all exchanged numbers and bid...

  INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY Honour a woman Love a woman Respect a woman Bless a woman Educate a woman Polish a woman Secure a woman Give a woman Believe a good woman Celebrate a woman Cherish a woman Protect a woman To all the correct, sensible, independent, strong courageous, gorgeous, enerous, loving, caring, selfless and decent woman who pull through to make a difference. Dear sisters live for the now, hope for a better future, remain beautiful admits all challenges of life.  Shout to all those whoae husband left them to cater for their children alone. Shout out to those widows who stand in for something despite the pain they go through. Shout out to them who tradition and laws has subjected them to abject pains and miserable conditions. Shout to them who are incapacitated, those whom we considered handicapped, those who are physically challenged and those who are truly delusioned and who feel desolated and uncared for. We remember you all today , ws sha...

  In life there are basically two types of people you would meet in your sojourn on earth. There set of people can be classified into negative and positive people, biased and unbiased people, propellers and deceivers. When you are in a fuss these set of people would always come across and as such be one of your determining factors to either excel or not in your pursuit. Don't be dismayed rather keep an open spirit so as to be able to discern properly, many are out to see that you fail in your quest while some would help you succeed. The bottom point is to seek to make your self scarse to people who are negative in your life project and seek to cling to those who push you, encourage you, support you ans stand by you in your most trying times. Seek for wisdom to know these two set of people and learn to know when to discard the negative ones and cling more to those of impact and soul lifting. Know it too that even from the negative ones, you can still learn something of import...

  Why bear animosity? Why the fighting? Why the hating? Why the strife? Why the anger? Why the wickedness? Why the rage? Why the backbiting? Why the slander? Why the cold war? Often times we hold on to so many irrelevant things that is truly uncalled for, the rate at which we promote vices is much greater than the number of years we live. Many hold on to acidic perceptions, the lofty weight they carry in terms of animosity for others is very alarming and indeed wasteful. Showing more love than hate calms alot, sad reality, the grave welcome everyone, no matter who you are and what you posses. We often times we forget about our existence and make due of the current realities that is indeed so passing, each day draws us closer to our grave and the silent truth stares at us. Make ammends with your now, mend your past and prepare for tomorrow , take out time to forgive those who truly offended you, let the rage die and set yourself free from the hurts and pains. The gra...

you are my choice, more than enough for me.. You found me, I choose you and that's my best pride. I won't trade you for the world, you complete me and I am contented Certainly, am full of flaws yet you compliment me and what more can I ask for. Like a strong wind, you blow away all the pains therein and I felt brand new. My life like a river of sorrows but you came like a calmed blue sea and showed me the depth there in. I smiled like i saw thw angels, the glories filled me like butterflies in my belly. Then, I recalled why I smiled in the first place, you are the reason I giggled with smiles. Rescued from the shackles that held me down, I met with a soul so blessed beyond my word. Best influence runs me through like a scanner, hw prints me out to bw show cased then like a frame I was crafted to be seen in gallery. Only love could make you do so, the ache would just go away knowing it has a pain killer standing by for remedies. My love of all times, the glory that covers me, th...

We all hear different stories about many wives who leaves their husband's because he was promiscuous and as such they can't bear to live under the same house with him. The saying that goes thus "men are polygamous and promiscuous in nature" should be enough reason why you should stay in your home. Oh, because hw impregnated your maid, therefore you leave your matrimonial home to her and your hubby to manage. In such case, welcome the baby because its your husband's blood and child, but set the pace running, either he takes care of the baby outside your matrimonial home or the child lives with you in your home Its so sad, you can't pack your belongings and leave because of this, yea men cheat but you can still make an impact by making them know you know they cheat by other means not by leaving your home. How would you feel comfortable leaving all you built with him, the struggles and the pains all because of another woman, you decide to be a single mother...

You have got to build a boy  to a man You have got to build a wedding to marriage You have got to build a house  to a home You have to produce to create a generation In marriage you need hundred percent of each others support unwarying because your partner expects more from you in the same way you expect more from them. We must communicate everything and not leaving out anything, sacrificing and understanding why our partnera does the things they do. No matter how painful and unpredictable thw process seems, we should come to terms that we have forever to go with our partners and that's the reasons why we must be ready to explore each day with varieties that spices up our marriage. Marriage is indeed a whole new chapter, an institution with one course with several topics unending and with a life time of practicals so real to ignore. The union is for matured individuals with babies mindset, lovers like children, playmate like age mates and like professionals without a ...

Now that you have killed me with your lies, your words, your actions and your will, I hope you are truly happier? You might have ended my life abruptly, but am certain that you will die someday too. No life is ever balanced, no one has everything in life, no matter how wealthy and connected you are why then take my life? A life you couldn't create, a soul that is longed for by family and friends but now I rest in the great beyond. Life is full of so many uncertainties, no matter your power, your policies, the very moment you decide to take a shot, you lose all the powers you possess. The sad reality is that no one will live forever, no matter how furious you become in your act of wickedness, you too would die one day. Never allow anger and hate make you take a soul, be conscious of the life of others around you, don't feel you are too far above them to take their lives because you don't agree with them. Never be found in any place where the soul or life of anyone is being d...