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  I was on my way back home, just a few blocks to my house, when she beckoned on me, "aunty, aunty" I looked back to see if I was the one she was referring to and behold I was. Taking a halt, I stood still waiting for her to approach me but she didn't, so I walked up to he just by a closed shop where she sat with her kid brother Brigth. Esther was her name and she was about 10 to 12 years of age while her brother Brigth should be about 6 to 8 years too, then I sat with them to inquire what the probelm was. She couldn't speak audibly, she muttered all her words, like someone who had cried all through the day and had lost her voice and so I told her to be a bit audible so I can hear her well. I started by asking her what her name was and what they were doing in my estate, she narrated how she left home because they were hungry and how her mum left home since morning leaving only 50 naira for the four of them to eat. At first I got angry in my spirit as to why would a go

Rivers never go reverse. Focus on your present and forget your past, be positive The past was there to teach us a great lesson, our past could be very nice or bad but take the best of it and keep moving on positively Many haven't being able to come out of their past successfully they drag the past to their present and definatly it would affect an innocent future. Inasmuch as I know that you can't outrightly forget your past, as memories wiill always be there but you can forgive a bad past, focus on a good present and hope for a beautiful future,you are the only one accountable to that. Remember every one has a past, the good news is how you allow yours to control and decide your fate in life, give in to only positivity and allow nothing hold you down. Dear past, that is where you remain, a lesson I learnt and hence I have moved on with a better part of me, my present won't be compared with you because am making my present a better past when it comes andmy present will

There was a time I used to care too much, worry about what anyone would say and words easily get back at me I felt very intimidated and I allowed all manners lf rubbish just because I couldn't defend mysef enough and so I failed my self. I hated to be bullied and I couldn't raise to the occasion that negative energies only reduce my self worth and makes me redundant. Heavens., as I grew, I became wiser and better. I stood for justice and equity and I no longer care what any one would say, as long as i have my conscience to myself. Untouchable, unquenchable I became a fighter and an adherent goal driven specie, I easily give in my all to a cause I know am not fighting in vain. A voice for the voiceless, a soul that is ready to sacrifice and a being too strong to withstand all the wails and fears therein. I became a woman, a goal getter, a peace keeper and a force you can't reckon with without a mark. I pulled a crowed, created a scene and made an impact to touch souls

Do not marry a man you can't respect its easy to get married but very hard to stay married, attraction goes beyond the mind, it entails all forms of attitude.  The greatest need of a man isnt food or sex, RESPECT it is, if you know you can't offer it freely, please stay away from marriage.  Treat him with dignity, honour him with love, cuddle him with care, appreciate his efforts, caress him with prayers, submit in humility. Don't be a failure in your marriage, many are waiting to hop in and take your place, indulge in your marriage, don't be a stranger in your home because you find it difficult to tolerate and manage your home.  Date him again. Fall on him like a baby, sleep on his chest like it's your pillow, stop being too busy to even notice his presence, treat him like a king and watch him pull through for you. Many ladies forget so easily and behave like a grandma in their homes, they fail to look good for their partners, they are carried away with work and ho

  Often times we want things to happen in exact ways it happened with our friends or neighbours, we want the same process and equally the same procedure. We live in a society where things can never be the same, its not bad after all but the reality is that we are unique in our own ordeals and acceptance to what happens in life. Just because your friend was proposed to, got married in an exquisite place and of course had her first baby in the best hospitals in the world, you also want the same, no one is saying you don't have the rigth to desire something good but be mindful that it won't happen almost the same way with you. She got pregnant out of wedlock, had her baby in the worst conditions and even became a single parent, yet feel she can never out grow it and possibly live the rest of her life more beautifully. Another graduated with honours got married almost immediately, travelled overseas and got a wonderful job and there you are comparing your self with her and doi

  If you feel the money yo u have makes another man less a  man, surly some people have more than you can't imagine yet they treat people equally and still humble them selves. Some people wished for what they can't ever get ,yet you might have it and feel too reluctant to appreciate it don't worry you will lose it gallantly and then you would learn to appreciate. Some women takes drugs to add some flesh, while some also take drugs, placed on diet and even exercise to shed some weight, it goes to show you how inbalanced life could be. There is always a phrase in a man's life, its either you are ascending or descending,but whatsoever it is that is happening to you, be reminded  that a phase doesn't determine who and what a man is and can be. Its obvious the world is evolving while it does, be sure to know your own place in time,take your stand even if its not favourable, know the purpose for which you represent and know the best way you can impact and touch lives

  The little things we do is the most significant we can be with people around us. Hope is the only thing that keeps us going and believing in better days ahead. No matter what happens in time, start small, give hope and be the best you can be with people. Hope is our life's breath, we can't out live hope, expect we quit. Untill people feel it, see it and consume it, they won't know how important hope is to us. Hope comes with empathy for others, the pains we share and bear for one another. Humanity should be consoling ,giving praise and hope , we need to keep appreciating those who stand in line for us all, giving their best to save lives,particularly sacrificing so much to give hope. Life like an echo, what you send out is definitely what you would receive too, what you give is what you get, what you plant is surly what you will reap and what you see in others exists in you. Find someone to help grow, someone to comfort and someone to touch with hope the only wa

The high rate of money rituals is no longer news in our times anymore. Yesterday a friend sent me a video of a man who was asked to sleep with a mad woman in public ( this happened at plaza roundabout in uyo), the man drank some watery substance and started sleeping with the mad woman in Broadway ligth and people were seen cheering him. Again, it isn't news about what we hear about G BOYS, though such rituals has always been in vogue but it has always been hidden for public view. One Onyeze Jesus acclaimed prophet of wealth lures young men and women into a newer phase of ritual, where they stripe naked, holding animals and spraying currency on the river as a way of fortifying them for wealth. You start to wonder what really happened to us, then my friend answered "End of time beckons when people will want to do anything for money" he further buttress his statement by saying "If people believe in all these shits then I will want to sell them the Brooklyn bridge. When

  Black isn't a color, it's a universal identity. It represents a race, a nation and empires of bliss Black is like blood, so unique and too inevitable to behold Like water has no enemy so is the force with black, indomitable. Black is a standard beyond words, its as firm as the oceans, stronger like the pillars of the earth. Uncompromising, its an attitude of praise, the joy of newness. You can't figth its space, you can't quench its existence, you can't swallow its guts. Black is the kinetic power that drivers the world, its a constant momentum you can't ever ignore The movement is real, it has no pretence, its highy symbolic and as such its a winning domain Everyone is yanked to it, its domineering and a fierce too strong to catch. Don't ever mess with this  beautiful sunshine made of God, its as important as the breath we take. Her misson is to give, care, partake, impact, sow and dominate the minds of all who share in humanity. She speaks w

  Everyone is good and bad in the eyes of some other people, the fact remains that you can't be a perfect person, the same person we tag bad to us, is infact a good person in the minds of other people. Life is programmed in such a way that we can't have it all no matter who we are, the situation of life presents it self to us daily as we journey through life. There it is also, that one man's taboo is another man's treasure, one mans hate is another man's like, what we do in such situation is to embrace each other and let go. When you come to a community, you will see and meet people of various race, culture, beliefs and religion, yet one thing that is common is life, we are either struggling to fulfil destiny or meeting demands to life, in the end, all that matters is life. Many would figth about every difference that separates us, its interesting to know that someday the same thing we figth for will bring us together to the same place, Be it our creator or de

Certainly, it came to pass, that nothing lasts forever. No matter how placed in life you become, some day soon you will vacant that position, you will leave that seat and surly you will stop holding on to the things you held so tightly. The examples of great men and women who either fell gallantly or left some how were all recorded in time. Power they say intoxicates and as such no person can hold unto it for a life time, nature would always happen. Abacha of Nigeria, Mugbabe of Zimbabwe, Mandela of South Africa, Gaddafi of Libya, Osama of Saudi Arabia, these are good and bad men who occupied a position in power at some point but today they are no more. So many occupy various position in life either political or otherwise, how well do we use our authority to effect lives? Are we power or position proned? Most times we easily forget how we got there, we are so concerned about self and we neglect the very essence of our being there in the first place. It's paramount you reali

You wonder why some marriages lacks spark and every other things seems to be so ordinary. You wonder why all the down times, if truly they were in love before marriage. You wonder why the so many divorce and separation in this marriage relationships. Truth be told, many have failed to sparkle their union, they have failed to ignite the fire that makes it beautiful. They feel its a total waste of time and hence they don't even want to try any longer. When last did you take your spouse out on a date, a vacation or even a sight seeing or just a walk? When did you plan a surprise party, a welcome back party or even celebrate your anniversary to remind them why you married them? When last did you buy a tangible gift for your partner no matter how small, when did you send them flowers or even leave a simple note or text to appreciate them. When last did you cook something extraordinary to appease the hearts of your spouse or better still buy such delicacies for their consumption

  I watched a video of a truck driver who delivers goods to a certain community, almost every other day. Yes, he was paid for his services but he took his job to the next level by being friendly all the time and this created a good rapport between him ans the members of this community. This beautiful experience continued over a long period of time, it was so intent that the members of this community contacted his company to appraise the truck driver for a service well done. Upon retirement, especially on his last day at work for the community, all the inhabitants of the community came out enmass to applaud his massive contribution and awarded him various gifts. There was so much joy and excitement, tears of joys and the atmosphere was lighted with praise, just in my corner, I saw what humanity is all about. He is a truck driver, from a different race and color, yet he wasn't discriminated, he was highly appreciated in a land far away. Untill we learn to interact, project, im

  The reality of life is that everyone is sharing something, defining sharing won't make sence here but I am certain that details below would enable you know what you are sharing. FAME So many would do anything or give up something because they want to be very famous, take for instance, we see lots of videos posted per second on social media handles of outrageous and unimaginable activities people do to gain fame, with such people that is what they are sharing. GENERATIONAL WEALTH Naming such people here would be a waste of time but trust me there are some people all they do is to keep emassing wealth for themselves, their children, their unborn children even to their tenth generations, its so sad to know that such people are very unreachable and they fail to repent. POWER Its very funny how many who seats in power are so carried away , it does not only intoxicates them, it controls them to stupor, all they want is power, they carry it like a name tag and show it to any one

  Most times people who are depressed bring out symptoms of difficulty, they find it hard to relate with people, they are mostly by their corners and hates to mingle, they careless about themselves. There is nothing so hard that cannot be discussed, there is nothing hidden under the sun , you are not the first person it happened to, so many have undergone the same ordeal you passed through and still came out stronger and better, learn to talk to someone about it We can't keep losing our youths because of something we feel does not have a solution, the solution comes when you talk to someone about it Depression comes in the following symptoms Emotional Physical Cognitive Behaviourial EMOTIONAL  SYMPTOMS Exhaustion Low mood Irritability Hopelessness Feeling of worthlessness Suicidal thoughts PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS Fatigue Insomnia Excessive sleep Headache Cramps Nausea Stomach pain Loss of appetite COGNITIVE SYMPTOMS Disinterest in the things that used to bring j

  We often judge things we know nothing about and most especially we easily piont fingers and really don't care about how others feel  Never judge a book by its covers we hear, but we do excatly the opposite because we are in a better position.  We slander, we judge, we conclude, we insult, we humiliate, we impose and we wait to see our fellow man suffer cruelty because they don't speak our language or because they don't belong to our denominations or even race.  Often times we act like the world is in our becks,we also live like all we have can't be taken from us and most factually, we forget so soon that we are all strangers in this world.  No matter what you posses in this life, The sky is too big to accommodate all, the land is wide enough to inhabit all, live and let's live.  "May the basic never look like luxuries to us'', this the prayer we say especially for those of is who haven't attained the glories of the world, yet we aren't less hu

  Living with joy is indeed very hard for someone who is faustrated or who is depressed about life's challenges Many don't even live up to 50 these days, yet we still have centenary men and women who truly lived with purpose. Having a life of purpose is essential for long life of fulfilment, purpose can be found by helping others, living together in harmony, eating well and being surrounded by friends and family. Remaining active to the very end indeed worth the while. No matter what life brings, live with purpose, you were created to fulfil purpose and also recall that you were created for a reason. Take out time to find out what you were created for and when you do, you would be able to slove probelms and impact in our world. Life has many issues, people live with so many probelms, yet solution is what we all long for, be one of the solution finders and impacters. Give in to positivity, shun all forms of hates, pains and vices that would hurt your fellow man, be conscious of

  Many thoughts runs through their minds when they saw this picture They easily conclude and decide my fate even without reaching out to me How they castigate me, cajole me, insult me and even gave me a dirty name. We live in a world where we only see one phase of a thing and draw our conclusions and even go ahead to pass a clear judgement. We don't care about how the person in questions feels, we are too carried away by our thoughts and judge by what we presumed we saw. Hearsays, rumors, gossips and what we chose to believe are the topics of the day. Who cares about your own feelings? Hey they actual don't even know if you exist, that's how we are programed. Careless,arrogant, selfish and very archaic in thoughts are what we are known for and that is why there is so much injustice in our world today. Look beyond the picture and see a selfless person , see a goal getter, see a treasure and see an imperfect human being like you. Appreciate the me that makes  me the who I am

  You don't smile because all is perfect rather you smile because you know all will be well.  Keep faith because God controls time and recall also that God and time will sort it out.  Everyone has the rigth to love even a stranger, a wicked fellow and even an ingrate, because love is a force its not a character.  Love isn't selective, it's open and real. No matter the circumstances revolving around love, it goes to where her heart longs.  Is a house really a home ? When your loved ones aren't home. Love becomes empty when the ones we truly love are absent.  Far from reach, yet our hearts lives with them, we hope and long like the trees by the river side for the nearness of waters, so we cling to where our treasures lies.  They are the bedrock of your existence, the glow that makes us shine, the sacrifice we love to endure, the blessing of our tomorrow.  We stretch for them, we share our all with them, we go the miles with them, we pray it lasts for a life time, indeed t

  You stole my heart best influence, but i will let you keep it. You found me in the most strangest places, yet I chose you in the most unusual manner. You reached out to give my life a meaning, now I will make sure I keep it shining. You shown interest and commitment to me, I am obliged to love and respect you. You made me fulfilled and changed my status, my dreams I bedded in you, what a mystery. You taugth me how to love without saying it, I learnt to submit lovingly. Now love kept us alof our count down begins each day defines why we anticipate and the bliss we hope to share. The journey a long one, so full of uncertainties yet our faith builds each vision and keeps the dream booming. Destined for s purpose, lived to fulfil realities, soar to break boundaries, together to build an empire, fought to achieve greatness, stood to withstand all allies, conquered to grow a force unbeatable. Our love is beyond romance, its sexy within a place but an example to reckon with, teach

Try not to become a man of success,but rather a man of value, the impact you give to the people around says a lot about who you are, even in your absence your presence is highy felt because of the value you impacted. You can't hold a man down without staying down with him.its always best you release yourself from every grudge, pains and strife you have with anyone, no matter how long you hold onto them, you hold yourself, rather, its hard but let it go. My best friend is the one who brings out the "the best in me" trust me your best friend might be someone you find very difficult to align with and even hate his words and actions yet they impact greatly in your life and pushes you to become better. "Don't hurt what you don't know" the pain is more than the thoughts you might go through, whatsoever it is you don't know about, its best you aviod every form of hurting, because they come back to us in ways we can't understand. Many people will co

There is a lot more to being ready for marriage than just being able to handle my own problems. Part of mature love is being able to support and help my partner when she has problems and not depend on her to always be my emotional support. Well enough, I know that marriage entails lots beyond physical attraction, financial competence, spiritual awareness, biological facts, educational inclinations and mental health and what have you, emotional maturity is more to balance the equations. It is being able to stand on my own and being able to help her even when I am already carrying a load of my own." for marriage than just being able to handle my own problems. Its a bunch of commitment, losing myself to guard another and even family, taking and accepting responsibility that are even detrimental to myself, yet I am happy doing so. Part of mature love is being able to support and help my wife when she has problems and not depend on her to always be my emotional support and she doe

  Oh, I am made of a universal color I am black, am solidly beautiful. I dominate a world full of compromise, yet I rule Incorruptible, a force to reckon with and an attitude to behold. A kingdom without laws, a power with the mind of everyone We excel without words, our actions controls the domains We are indestructible, we are a flowing crowd without no ruler. They thought we can't function, here we are shaking them with our smiles. We chose to conquer, dominate and rule the minds of the wicked and baised rulers. Our presence kills them, our unity destroys them, our love conquers them, oh, our generosity baffles them. We are selfless, we are a heir full of the God person, we are Victoria in all forms. Don't dare what you don't know, don't insist a game with us, we are a silent force, a sweet tornado, beautiful like streams of waters yet very peaceful. Jion us, we excel, live with us, we make the world better, pray with us, we are stronger with you but fig

  True love is not based on emotions and feelings. True love is based on sacrificial action, given to someone or any one that does not deserve it. True love is not give and take, check your love bits , is it expecting or sacrificial.? True Love is to hold, to care,to nourish and to cherish ( if you have all these attributes ) surely you are a true lover. Sacrifice is a true measure of generosity, we all need to pay the price to get the prize. The price of glory, the price of fulfillment, the price of happiness, the price of attainment. What t have you to give up , to let it go, its hard to give out sincere love without expecting, yet its really attainable. True love strives to perfect, it strives not to hurt, it makes sure others are happy and it is genuinely selfless. It takes no record of wrong no matter how hurt and painful it is, it easily forgives and lives to make ammends. Most times we confuse our feelings with loving, there is much to loving beyond feelings, it's

  Life isn't rosy to me, yet I wake up with a big smile admits all fears and worries. I pick the pieces of my life and start afresh like nothing ever stopped me before now. The pain vanished, the worries like breeze comes and leaves, my succour rests on my will to go on. Pretending sloves nothing, i rather buy courage and persist in resilience, even if I fail The world is against me, my battles are so numerous to count and my wars unending. Yet, I am enough, i beat them and soar like I have always been aboive the trauma of pains My secret cries, my fears and worries atr all embedded with my grit, I just gnash them. Woe unto you who chooses to cause me pain, shame to you who isn't happy with my guts. I take a bow to forgive all who caused me unimaginable pain, i only see how weak you are Forging to leap with streaming strengths, my leap of faith my only courage to behold. Who sees what am seeing, who understands my wars without a fight, now I bleed without blood. My

  If you really want to achieve anything in life you need sacrifice and courage. If you must succeed in life, you have got to believe in yourself first because many people won't believe in you no matter how good you are. We don't stay because of what we think but what we feel and the courage that pushes us through. We don't just stay with people because we care alone but because we want to and affect a change. I carry the hopes in my chest, many wait for me to see the courage I carry , the pain I bear is beyond me but I still hold on for many. Many wonder if am a superwoman, alas almost a nobody, a small me but a big personality in a cruel world The world is only for the strong, someone and something waiting to hunt you, the figth and struggle is real, injustice is on the rise, heart breaks is for show and the unfairness is a norm. Many don't deserve what befell them, but the pain of the next moment is staring at you on the face, the laughter ceases to come beca

  Now many would wonder why my subject matter is called deputy Jesus and again why would I call any one such name. As the year begins, let us be mindful of people who act and feel they can take the place of God in the lives of people, below are these type of people listed : PEOPLE WHO OUTSMART OTHERS : Learn to be in your own lane, if you must interfere in the lives of anyone, make sure you are being called upon before you make your own input, don't shine in anyone's matter, dont outsmart them because you feel you are better of. EYE SERVICE We have eye service oriented kind of people, these one's never do anything on their own accord without wanting accolades and hypes from people, they are at the forefront of getting a reward and they never see others doing anything genuinely. LACK HUMILITY Most of these people lacks humility, they are so full of pride and all they do is to castigate anyone who isn't as prideful as they are, they are impugned in making sure tha

Marriage is beyond sex, its beyond love, its beyond character but it entails the both of you. We wonder why there is so much divorce, separation and broken homes today, the alarming effect is that these people dated but they weren't true friends. Many marry for various reasons and it would intrest you to note that even if these reasons are nice but you hardly find those who marry their friends. Friendship ignites alot of things which propels a future of bliss, but because we marry for the wrong reasons we find ourselves in a fuss of unpalatable situations. Find someone who you can easily play with, someone who makes you smile, someone who makes you laugh, someone who isn't a comedian but even when they aren't talking makes you laugh hard. Marriage becomes interesting every day because there is this unpredictable attitude and stunts you would expect from your partner. Marriage becomes less a burden and all forms of boredom vanishes even over a long period of time. Th