BUT WHY, MARRIED WOMEN?

She started by narrating how her sister inlaw insulted the hell at her just because she isn't married, she went further to say how she welcomed this young lady when her brother was making his choice in choosing a life partner.

Amina is the elder sister to Luke who married Lucy, Amina welcomed Lucy like a sister and mother and advices Luke so keenly on why she felt Lucy was the rigth woman for him, even after three years of dating, Luke considered her and left the other ladies.

Four years after, Amina got a job in Kogi where her brother and his family resides, she thought it fit that she can stay with his brothers family prior to when she gets a place of her own amd since the brother also has extra room to accommodate her.

She called the brother and told him about the offer, he said he would discuss with his wife and get back to her, few days later, Luke discussed with his wife and she vehemently objected, Luke was shocked at her reaction and wondered why, somehow they agreed she can stay a while and leave, finally Luke called Amina and informed her.

Excited, she relocated and got busy with work as she came down, she works from Sunday to Sunday, comes back late and leaves very early, you will hardly know she resides there because her absence is so glaring.

Lucy became so hostile to Amina because she hates the fact that she has to go and open the door and also shut the door when she arrives and leaves, it got so bad that she doesn't keep food for her or indulge her because Luke works outside the state but comes home once in a month.

This continued and Amina couldn't understand why Lucy was hostile to her, she makes sure she drops money and assist where necessary financially but it wasn't enough for Lucy, on one of the occasions when Amina came back home late as usual, she was very famished and tried, she knocked and Lucy didn't open the door for her, she called her cell phone, no response, she called the brother to call his wife, he did but Lucy decided not to respond.

Since it was late, she slept at her neighbours place, the next morning she was going to work again, she came to the door and knocked, she didn't open, she left for work with the same cloth she wore the previous day.

She decided to take out time from the office and went home much earlier, Lucy didn't expect her at that time, so she opened the door, Amina decided to ask her why she behaved at such to her, rather than explaining, Lucy rained all manner of insult on Amina and told her to go and marry and stop pursuing career.

Amina couldn't hold the pains of the insult, she packed her things and left the house to a nearby hotel, where she lodged and go to work from there for some weeks before she got her own apartment.

Months later Luke came back and asked his wife to apologise to his sister she refused, hence he became cold to her, meanwhile there was a family function where all the family was to assemble at an event at they end of the year, Amina was there too, Lucy reported her husband to the family members but none gave listening ears to her because of how she treated Amina.

There are lots of questions I wonder about on why some married women feel they are better than you because they are married.

Why do some few they are older than you because they are married and expects you to respect them beyond imagination? 

Again, why do some of them feel they are much responsible or better than you and feel all singles are not responsible? 

Why do most of them become marriage counsellor even after few months of being married? 

It's high time we allow people to make their choice in life, the race isn't for the swift and certainly destinies are not the same. 

We should understand that we all came into this world at various times and that why you can see a young woman of 20 getting married while an older woman of 50 isn't married or just living her life, we all mustn't follow a pattern,life happens to all at various times. 

Sadly, it is in this part of the world we compell people to follow a norm ans when they refuse for whatsoever reasons or challenges they go through, we consider them failures. 

Marriage isn't a criteria to a better life, its isn't not the assurance to get all you desire, it also not the passport to heaven, it is but a choice to those who decide to indulge and follow the precepts it entails. 

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