OPEN UP YOUR WINDOWS

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Sometimes last week, a sister sent me a private mail in a family group I i managed and narrated to me her ordeal, don't worry she gave me the permission to share her story, she happens to have fallen in love with a brother and she doesn't know how to express her feelings to him, since she sees it as not African to approach a guy first.

The subject matter was posted in the group and a lot of reactions came from both men and  women alike.

90% of the ladies, said she shouldn't ever open up her mouth  to say a word to the brother in bid of expressing her feelings, many gave so many reasons why she shouldn't.

All the men shared their mindset, that we only die once, that she should make him know her thoughts and be ready to take what ever consequences comes up or better still the bliss there in.

Meanwhile, since the whole discussion was hitting up, I decided to consult a relationship coach my good friend Olarotimi Olagunju , his views about this said topic.

After so many guidelines from him, we both brain stormed and came out with this views, seeing it from the views of both men and women

*****Open up to many other options, this will stop you from putting all your minds and feelings on him or her.

*****Induce jealousy , dont always give him the room to be seen as having time for him, create time for others even more plutonically.

*****Give him time to express himself and to see the green ligth you project towards him, while you keep your windows open to others.

*****Never tell him how you feel if you can't take whatever stand he has about you, else you might be hurt most especially if the feelings isnt mutual.

*****He/She might seriously be in a relationship with some other person but sees you as a good friend, so don't feel bad, if the feelings isn't mutual.

******Move on, if after all these are put in place and he/she still didnt own up to tell you how he/she feels about you, move on and hook up with some other person .

Love is beautiful when it is reciprocated, love shouldn't be one sided, it hurts and never ever push love on any one, allow it to grow in their hearts

There is someone who is crazy about you, there is someone who is madly in love with you, just open the windows of your heart  to see it, it might take tym, cos love isn't magical , its beyond a feeling. Just wait for it, even if it comes with a process.

Everyone deserves the best in life, don't ever wait for someone who doesn't even know if you exist, don't beg any man or woman to be in their lives, the consequences are bad.

The worst thing that can happen to any man is to marry a bad wife and the worst thing that can happen to any woman is to marry into a bad family you see its beyond love now.

Though love  has its own role to play, make sure, you secure your place in the heart of your partner and it helps to slove a lot of unforseen issues.

Am not a relationship counselor, am only making sense , because we all have had our fair share and a lot is happening in our world  today most especially with matters of the  heart.

A good friend added don't love someone who isn't ready, make sure you get busy so you don't waste your time thinking of someone who doesn't even know you exist and after you show him the green ligth, he mops around, free his space, love will find you and you would be happier twice.

Vivsravine speaks 





















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