THE GOOSE AND THE GANDER

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Oftentimes,we set unimaginable boundaries in relationships which in last run hurts us and even those close to us.

It's so sickening that most relationships is built on selfishness and what I can describe as personal gains.

Imagine a marital relationship where one of the partner accuses the other of lying always and because of this he or she magnifys the act and hence holds the other at uptmost fault.

Sadly,the same partner who accuses the other is also guilty of cheating but holds his other own sins in high esteem,it's so unacceptable that we now determine which sins is more grave than the other.

The phrase which says no one is perfect is not specifically for a set of people, it is for everyone, I hope it sinks and helps us learn how to judge more fairly..

Relationship is about how you treat others ,it should be equal and given in the same feelings jthe measure you give is the same measure you receive ,no sidelining and no gaslighting.

I have seen people who complain so much about theor partners but they're indeed the problems in the relationship,learn to be what you haven't expect others to be.

Whenever there is a fuss,we should learn to avoid taking sides, both parties should do well to see the reasons why they came together in the first place and take their relationship to the next level by imbibing commitment, accountability,tolerance, responsibility, forgiveness and then love to help them push through life challenges.

Vivsravine 



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