VIVSRAVINE

 Honestly, marriage isn't for the feeble hearted, it takes lots of grace to live with someone you never grew up with, someone you met along the way in life and you decide to spend the rest of your life with them. Love they say is blind most especially when you are courting and dating but it's highy different when you eventually get married, love turns to become an open reality, you either chose to ignore for peace sake or you talk about it and face the war therein. Often times, love isn't enough to sustain a home, there are so many things that supports and rekindles the home, yes love is one of them but never enough to keep that home going. Most times we are carried away and blinded by love when we fall in love but the hardest reality faces us when we get married and we are between leaving or staying, you checks all the pros and cons and decide what is best for you. There are some actions your spouse takes and do and you start to wonder why they did that, you never saw it c...

 Why do men cheat she asked me?  Thinking of the best reply, I told her many are flirts and they love it that way.  Yet they are highy jealous with their own women and they don't share, i told her again.  It takes massive grace to be in a relationship, most especially when your partner hides a lot of things from you, still clings to apron strings and finds it hard to let go of past relationships she said.  Pray for your partner if you are with one, if he doesn't go after them, they come after him, I said. Many of them who are cheats, pretend alot and they are always quick to accuse the other of cheating and not being faithful.  Recently, they can show all forms of commitment to you but their minds are far form you.  They are so ready to defend and justice all their actions when they know you know about their shady affairs and they come out clean but certainly they pretend alot.  It's always easier for a woman in a relationship to adhere to her man...

  If you have a decent mind, and earn decent money, and make decent financial decisions, and associate with decent friends, while marrying a decent person, no spiritual or physical force can prevent you from having a decent life-Genesis 8:22 Reno nuggets 

You and I would agree to the fact that in recent times, it's so hard to give coupled to the fact that we are in the end times where so much atrocities are committed, it's so hard to give freely without taking a second thought at the act.  We are in a community where one gives freely and you start hearing sad stories as how they diabolically use the destiny of the giver to incorporate evil,hence the act of giving is reduced because everyone is trying to play safe.  Recently, I was at a function, upon entering and leaving two people approached me to help them with transport fare back home, though I didn't have so much yet I shared with i had without taking a second look at my purse.  When I got to the bus stop to take a cab home, I realised I was 50 naira short of the fare, now I was stranded too. It was either I walked home or I approached the driver to help with what I had left.  So, I quickly approached the driver and told him I have 50 naira short of the exact fare...

Recently, I had this urgent event I had to attend. As the day approached I went in search of a shoe because I had a dress code to adhere to. I searched online on various handles and marketplaces and high prices were much attached.  Again, I decided to explore the physical market to see if I will get what I wanted at a reasonable price but alas it was all the same, so expensive.  Finally, I decided to buy the ones I saw online just a few days before the event and wished I got it cheaper.  The event came by and I was chilling online with my thoughts on something different, when I stumbled at the same shoe I got a few days ago at a very high price with a different color at a very lower price, I stopped and made more research about this shoe, I called the vendor and asked about the price again and she even gave me a discount since I will be coming from far to pick the shoe and I went ahead to buy them the next day.  This singular episode taught me a great lesson in life,...

Recently, I was listening to a couple online and they were very raw about themselves in marriage, they went as far as sharing wrong expectations they had for each other when they got married and they consequences they faced as a result of that singular thought. Don't marry anyone you don't agree with on anything or something at all, they said, you must be ready to compromise on your personal understanding and bend more often to accommodate your partner, else you aren't ready to stay married. You must learn to shift grounds, make ammends and sacrifice and compromise to accommodate the other, its in this regard that love grows speedily and remains faithful to you, also complementing your partner brings about fond and sweet memories that ignites them to you always. You should learn to  identify each other by knowing your strengths and weakness  and leverage on it, it helps you know when to react and get the best from your partner, often times we are so keen at dwelling on thei...

 If  we take a census and ask young people especially why we marry, I am certain that we would get different types of reasons for why we marry, but ordinarily it should be fit for a common goal.  Without any debate there are 3 major reasons why we get married and in this summary you can choose to add your reasons where they fall to, below are the highlights. MANY PURPOSE  PRO-CREATION  PLEASURE /PAIN  Again let's align the above with percentage and explain why its so.  PURPOSE is 60 percent, PRO-CREATION IS 30 percent, WHILE PLEASURE is 10 percent. PURPOSE  It's so sad to know that many who get married don't know why they are getting married, so many feels that it's all about the fun and pleasure, more so society expects us to marry when we are of age and finally to have a partner at our old age and children who will take care of us then.  We marry to fulfil purpose, which is for compatibility, to help each other fulfil their destinies a...