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I was opportuned to listen to a talk by a very prominent personality who was addressing a question directed at him in an open forum on any topic as asked. Part of his response to a question was "Don't blame yourself for falling in love with a wrong partner, you might have not gotten it right in the first place but you can do better by setting boundaries that allows no dishonesty. Disrespect and addictions" end of quote  This particular response got me thinking about what so many people are possibly undergoing in some toxic relationship, most people have so remained in their shells ,scared to speak up,so that they won't be faulted and judged by what society would always say ,rather they chose to keep quite and beat all the pains. Someone mentioned how she was badly treated in her relationship and all her mother in-law could come up to say is that she should apologize to the husband to keep her marriage,she wasn't even particular about solving the root cause of what...

Oftentimes,we set unimaginable boundaries in relationships which in last run hurts us and even those close to us. It's so sickening that most relationships is built on selfishness and what I can describe as personal gains. Imagine a marital relationship where one of the partner accuses the other of lying always and because of this he or she magnifys the act and hence holds the other at uptmost fault. Sadly,the same partner who accuses the other is also guilty of cheating but holds his other own sins in high esteem,it's so unacceptable that we now determine which sins is more grave than the other. The phrase which says no one is perfect is not specifically for a set of people, it is for everyone, I hope it sinks and helps us learn how to judge more fairly.. Relationship is about how you treat others ,it should be equal and given in the same feelings jthe measure you give is the same measure you receive ,no sidelining and no gaslighting. I have seen people who complain so much ab...

I have learnt that life doesn't doesn't always give you what you so want badly,you could work your way out and beyond yet it offers you the pains you never wished for. In relating with people no matter the type of relationship you keep with them,always learn to how to set boundaries and never drift from your purpose. Someone once said  and I quote "Anything you lose when you  standup for your self ,protect your boundaries and begin to grow ,was not meant to stay" so hard to accept but a reality that is so meant to stay Don't lose yourself trying to fix people who don't include you in their routines, don't go the mile for someone who doesn't care you exist, don't make sacrifices for people who don't know you also have feelings to protect and nurture. I have seen people lose their sanity their peace of mind and their worth because they got to give their all to people who subject them to nothing for selfish gains  Learn to always place yourself fi...